EXCLUSIVE EXCERPT From Carrie Fisher's New Book 'Shockaholic': Michael Jackson's Last Christmas

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From Andrew Losowsky, Huffington Post: Carrie Fisher knows that, when her time comes, her obituary will read "Princess Leia Is Dead." She's written a number of frank and funny books about struggling with the legacy of the metal bikini - along with her drug and alcohol addictions (now in relapse), her bipolar disorder, her disfunctional and famous parents, and more. One of her books became the movie "Postcards from the Edge," while another, "Wishful Drinking," became a Broadway show. In her latest book, "Shockaholic" (Simon and Schuster, $22), she talks about her regular use of electro-convulsive therapy to combat depression, her encounter with an offensively rude Ted Kennedy and, in this exclusive excerpt, what happened when she spent Christmas with Michael Jackson - which turned out to be his last.

Michael’s celebrity turned many people into eager, greedy stargazers who only wanted something from him above and beyond what a normal human is willing or expected to give. They were there for the anecdote. It’s what I call the “shine.” People want to rub up against it, and in so doing, their own value is increased. But I’d like to propose a reason why Michael might’ve preferred the company of children to what I’ve heard referred to as adults.

Kids of a certain age, being too young to understand the peculiar phenomenon of fame, are potentially easier to trust and hang out with than a certain kind of adult, who, as I said earlier, more often than not have a tendency to start acting completely disorganized around someone as outrageously famous as Michael. And children are far less likely to act this way because they don’t exactly know what fame is yet. To them, famous is cartoon characters, or Muppets, or Barney. It’s too abstract a concept for kids.

* * *
On Christmas Eve 2008—Michael’s last—I went over to his house, which is located just down the hill from me and a few blocks over. He was giving his children the childhood that he never had. A childhood outside of celebrity with people who didn’t objectify them. Because normally, for Michael, life was like being an animal at the zoo. An endangered species forever behind bars. I could get in the cage with Michael and not get freaked out, and there weren’t that many people who would’ve known how to, or known that it was even something they might actually be required to do when with him. But I did.

So I joined Michael after hours at his zoo. We took pictures and ate cookies and decorated the tree.

And then, to change it up, Michael asked me to do the Star Wars hologram speech for his kids. I didn’t mind. Someone actually had to remind me what a big Star Wars fan Michael was.

While I was there, though, we weren’t really experiencing the situation for the most part, we were taking pictures of it. Arnie took pictures of me and Michael and the kids, and I took pictures of Arnie and his friends and the Michael family package. My favorite was taking a picture of Michael reading my book "Wishful Drinking."

I will always cherish that weird Christmas configuration of ours. Looking back, it was as if Michael didn’t know how to just be in a situation without recording it on a camera. The thing is, he was just so used to being documented. But the main reason the documentation came up this time was mostly for Arnie’s friends, who wanted to take pictures of their meeting with Michael so they could carry his shine around. The encounter elevated them. It became, “Oh, I had Christmas Eve dinner with Michael Jackson. What did you do?” Anyway, we all f*cked around holiday style and having fun, and it was fun. We took pictures, we acted childish (at least I think that’s what it was). At some point, Michael said, “Okay, I’m letting you take my kids’ pictures because I know that you won’t show them to anyone because you know I don’t want anyone to see my children.”

He wanted his children to be as unrecorded as possible. If the Africans believe that you lose a piece of your soul each time you have your picture taken, then Michael hadn’t had one for a very long time. But he was trying to arrange things so that his kids could keep theirs. And his children are very sweet, good children. And that’s because whatever else he was or wasn’t, I think Michael was a really good father. I mean, his children are kind, really polite, even-tempered, and essentially unspoiled kids. And that can’t come from a nanny. You can’t fake that stuff. It has to come from the parent. And that parent was Michael.

From SHOCKAHOLIC by Carrie Fisher. Copyright © 2011 by Deliquesce Inc. Reprinted with permission from Simon & Schuster, Inc.
 
The Star Wars speech made me laugh. I can imagine him doing that :D
 
Michael truely was a great father.
 
And that’s because whatever else he was or wasn’t, I think Michael was a really good father. I mean, his children are kind, really polite, even-tempered, and essentially unspoiled kids. And that can’t come from a nanny. You can’t fake that stuff. It has to come from the parent. And that parent was Michael.

So, so true! and all the while people keep acting as though Michael did jack ish when it came to raising those chilfren.
 
Thanks. The only thing is that he said several times why he chose to be around children, so her take on it is not that unique.
 
Thanks for posting. The fact that Michael had so much money yet his children weren't spoiled says a lot about him.
 
I love Star Wars and I love Michael's music! And Michael loved SW as well! That's really nice :):):)
 
I remember reading about this quite some time ago. The picture that Carrie Fisher talks about, her favorite one could very well be this or something close to it

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Two of the most interesting things to me were the following quotes

While I was there, though, we weren’t really experiencing the situation for the most part, we were taking pictures of it.

Looking back, it was as if Michael didn’t know how to just be in a situation without recording it on a camera. The thing is, he was just so used to being documented.

I can very well imagine that to be the case. Considering Michael's life and the fact that ever since he was little he had been filmed, chased and photographed that kind of perspective became an almost exclusive lense through which to view the world and live life. Those around him, like Carrie Fisher pointed out, 'helped' a lot in that.

I've wondered at times why he felt such need to direct his camera crews whenever he had fans around – especially during tours and stuff. He would always point out the ones with the highest screams and biggest signs as though he had this constant need to capture on film their adulation. After 1993 that might have been a reassuring mechanism of sorts, maybe he was only making sure that people still loved him and believed in him in spite of the lies that were spread about him.

In any case, what Michael himself may not have realized is that life was passing him by while he was trying to catch it on film. At times, life's most beautiful moments, the truly sacred ones are meant ONLY to be lived then and there without any documentation. I feel that can take away the magic and create an illusion. At the end of the day, what photographs and movies do is create an illusion of eternity. They are humanity's best attempts at cheating death and the closest we've come to defeating it, not counting on Jesus of course.

Although i do like to take pictures of situations, scenery and people while hating to appear in any myself lol, on more than one occasion i've purposefully refused to take any pictures because i believed those were moments that i only needed to live and my heart and my brain would be the best cameras possible since i would cherish those precious moments in my memory without the aid of technology. That may be silly, it may even be wrong according to some, but that's how i felt and how i still do.

Returning to the article, that last paragraph is absolutely on point and i am truly convinced Michael was a marvelous father.

And that’s because whatever else he was or wasn’t, I think Michael was a really good father. I mean, his children are kind, really polite, even-tempered, and essentially unspoiled kids. And that can’t come from a nanny. You can’t fake that stuff. It has to come from the parent. And that parent was Michael.

It was interesting to read how Michael celebrated that Christmas because i remembered an envelope i had sent to him through some intermediaries, one which unfortunately didn't reach him and i got back in my P.O. box returned to sender sometime in January 2009. I do think that earlier one for his birthday did reach him because it was sent directly.

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My 'blessed hope' didn't come true, but far more serious than that is the end of that letter. It pains me so much to look at it now and see what i had written back then, how i was cautioning him not to relaunch his career unless ready. I don't know if by that point the rumors about 30 concerts were circulating already, but it definitely feels strange reading all of this now.

That is why this whole situation is so sad – to think of all the Christmases Michael missed out on and all the opportunities of actually living his life....it all has a feel of unfinished business beyond belief. I truly believe there was soooo much more awaiting Michael beyond June 25[SUP]th[/SUP] 2009 and there was much he could do for so many in great many ways if only he had survived that fateful day.
 
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I remember reading about this quite some time ago. The picture that Carrie Fisher talks about, her favorite one could very well be this or something close to it

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Two of the most interesting things to me were the following quotes



I can very well imagine that to be the case. Considering Michael's life and the fact that ever since he was little he had been filmed, chased and photographed that kind of perspective became an almost exclusive lense through which to view the world and live life. Those around him, like Carrie Fisher pointed out, 'helped' a lot in that.

I've wondered at times why he felt such need to direct his camera crews whenever he had fans around – especially during tours and stuff. He would always point out the ones with the highest screams and biggest signs as though he had this constant need to capture on film their adulation. After 1993 that might have been a reassuring mechanism of sorts, maybe he was only making sure that people still loved him and believed in him in spite of the lies that were spread about him.

In any case, what Michael himself may not have realized is that life was passing him by while he was trying to catch it on film. At times, life's most beautiful moments, the truly sacred ones are meant ONLY to be lived then and there without any documentation. I feel that can take away the magic and create an illusion. At the end of the day, what photographs and movies do is create an illusion of eternity. They are humanity's best attempts at cheating death and the closest we've come to defeating it, not counting on Jesus of course.

Although i do like to take pictures of situations, scenery and people while hating to appear in any myself lol, on more than one occasion i've purposefully refused to take any pictures because i believed those were moments that i only needed to live and my heart and my brain would be the best cameras possible since i would cherish those precious moments in my memory without the aid of technology. That may be silly, it may even be wrong according to some, but that's how i felt and how i still do.

Returning to the article, that last paragraph is absolutely on point and i am truly convinced Michael was a marvelous father.



It was interesting to read how Michael celebrated that Christmas because i remembered an envelope i had sent to him through some intermediaries, one which unfortunately didn't reach him and i got back in my P.O. box returned to sender sometime in January 2009. I do think that earlier one for his birthday did reach him because it was sent directly.

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My 'blessed hope' didn't come true, but far more serious than that is the end of that letter. It pains me so much to look at it now and see what i had written back then, how i was cautioning him not to relaunch his career unless ready. I don't know if by that point the rumors about 30 concerts were circulating already, but it definitely feels strange reading all of this now.

That is why this whole situation is so sad – to think of all the Christmases Michael missed out on and all the opportunities of actually living his life....it all has a feel of unfinished business beyond belief. I truly believe there was soooo much more awaiting Michael beyond June 25[SUP]th[/SUP] 2009 and there was much he could do for so many in great many ways if only he had survived that fateful day.


:girl_sigh: :heart:
 
She wishes he was still here too doesn't she? I know I wish he was still here.
 
^^Sometime I wish we did not psychoanalyze Michael so much. I wonder what people would come up with if they psychoanalyze some of us without asking us questions about our actions or without doing an in-depth interview with us first. It seems somehow demeaning and reductive to look at an action of Michael's and come up with a psycho-analytical explanation without knowing his own reasons, desires, feelings about the actions.

He no doubt knew that every action, word, and behavior of his was scrutinized by others including some fans and contributed to his need for peace and quiet.
 
Here's the whole chapter about Michael (except for the few paragraphs that are irrelevant). What she has to say about Evan Chandler and Arnie Klein is pretty telling.



I did not know Michael Jackson that well, at least not in the sense that I think of as knowing someone. But in the climate that developed in the wake of his death, to not have known him well was, for some, enough to be seen as having known him intimately. And from this certain skewed slant, I could even be perceived as one of Michael’s closest friends.

He and I had just two people in common. Michael was very close pals with a former stepmother of mine, Elizabeth Taylor, and we had the same dermatologist. I would say we shared the same dermatologist, but that sounds so unsanitary. Especially when that dermatologist is Arnold Klein, the original fount from which all collagen and Botox could flow.

The thing is, I do know Arnie Klein well, and Arnie—the Dermatologist to the Stars—was fastened at his rather ample hip to Michael’s very skinny one. You see, they each had something that the other desperately coveted. Arnie wanted to be friends with not just an otherwise inaccessible celebrity but the biggest star on the planet for him and his friends to cavort with. (“Ben, this is my friend, Michael! Michael, this is my friend, Ben . . . the guy I told you about!”) Michael wanted access to the farthest reaches of the medical community 24–7, at a speed and with an ease that would ordinarily be unavailable to almost anyone at all, at any level. Therein lay the swap.

I’m not saying that this was the sole reason for their friendship. Far from it. Michael trusted Arnie. He trusted him enough to choose one of his nurses to have children for him. Yes, I know. A very strange/unusual way to demonstrate trust, but there you have it. “Hollywood” is an unusual place. And where celebrity is a factor, things become less predictable.

The moment that I actually met Michael is vague in my memory, as is—have I mentioned it?—quite a bit these days. You would think that meeting someone as unique as Michael would somehow stay in my mind, but unique was not extraordinary to me. I’d become, if not immune to its charms, then certainly fairly far from thrilled.

To be sure, Michael was very unusual. For one thing, his relationship to his appearance was . . . let’s be kind and call it atypical. That he could have consistently hammered away at his perfectly nice original face until he arrived at that strange place he paused at—that he was able to look in the mirror and essentially say, “Yes. This is a face I’m more comfortable presenting to the world than the one I was born with.”—well, the word “dysmorphic” doesn’t approach it, let alone cover it.

Michael was, to say the least, out of the ordinary—miles out. Somewhere that leaves ordinary far behind. But to be such a distance from ordinary obviously makes you a singular sort of person. And Michael certainly was that. Peerless, unlike any other, uncommon.

Michael was so distinctively “other.” He possessed qualities that very few others could lay claim to. Some qualities that few would wish for, but others that to some would seem blessed. He could move—and move others—like no other. He altered any room he was in. Which could not only make someone want to be in those rooms but perhaps also want to stay out.

One weekend, Billie and I were invited to Neverland, Michael’s ranch somewhere north of L.A. We weren’t invited by Michael, but by Arnie. Michael had loaned Arnie his house for the weekend so he could have people up there to celebrate his birthday. So it was Billie and myself and one of her five-year-old friends from school and Arnie and his lover, plus an assortment of Arnie’s overweight gay male buddies (called “bears” by the “community,” as it were). Arnie is a big man himself, and he likes to surround himself with other similarly fleshy bears of a feather.

So we gathered in Michael’s vast manicured acreage, on which was ensconced a neat cluster of guest houses, complete with their own little Neverland bars of soap, which I naturally coveted, stole, and then promptly lost. (How often I have thought of that soap, how I could have showed it off to friends, and maybe even have made a little Michael Jackson soap altar with a little spotlight shining on it in kind of a solemn circle causing the soap to alternately shine and glow.)

Who else could have the whole Disneyland train thing at the entrance of his humble home, not to mention the rides and the projection room with the candy shop and the pizza parlor? Can you even conceive of being able to have all these things? How much does constructing an empire like that widen the gap between you and everyone else? How many other private zoo and amusement park owners can you commiserate with about what it’s like when the roller coaster breaks down? “What a hassle, right? Who do you use for that? ’Cause I can’t find anyone! And how’s your gorilla doing? Did you take him to that groomer I recommended? It’s really hard to find a good gorilla groomer nowadays, you know? Did you find a new pilot for your G5? I’ll have my assistant call yours with the name of this great guy who flew Geffen’s jet for a while . . .”

And on and on and on, placing yourself beyond the reach of any and all ordinary discourse. Of course, you don’t have to only talk to people in your tax bracket. You can be with people with far less income, but you might find yourself apologizing for the disparity, you know? I know, how sad, right? You have so much money that your social options become more limited.

Anyway, Michael’s social options were severely restricted. At least, that’s how it seemed to me. He kind of stood apart from everything and everyone, pulling whatever focus was available, and waiting to see what would happen, who would gather, and how it would be. The exceptions were his children. He made himself a trio of companions to share his unique space, so distant from the ordinarily inhabited realms.

Michael and I both had childhoods that were, by most standards, decidedly unusual. How many children start performing at such a young age? (He was six, I a relatively more reasonable thirteen.) How many children perform for actual audiences to begin with? For that matter, how many people of any age ever perform for actual audiences?

Michael was famous long before he could even dimly understand what being adult meant. He was probably “someone” to other people long before he knew who he was to himself. At least I had arrived at the complex stage of puberty outside the hungry glare of a spotlight. But Michael . . . well, Michael was a child doing an adult’s job. A job that set him apart from everyone else his age—or pretty much everyone else, period. Who were his peers? Who could he relate to? Who would not have to pretend not to be weirded out by his radioactive celebrity?

You know the term “starstruck”? An odd term, no? And of course it can only happen to people who aren’t stars. The starstruck are thrown off—impacted by celebrity in a way that they find difficult to recover from, at least in the immediate time frame. I think that maybe one of the reasons that Michael could trust me—to the degree that he was able to trust anyone—is that I was immune to celebrity’s charms. Repeated exposure to anything renders it increasingly ordinary. The same especially holds true for what might otherwise (or initially) be considered extraordinary. Sort of like “too much of a good thing.” The charm wears off, the bloom shakes off the rose, and it’s midnight at Cinderella’s ball.

…Anyway, it radiates out of me. My at least partial pose of how indifferent I am. And that was a big deal for Michael Jackson, because you’d see people around him who would completely transform, becoming virtually idiotic. Michael was so famous that he transcended humanness. Becoming a kind of Jesus Michael Jackson Christ.

His fame distorted whichever situation you were in with him. His otherness could actually overwhelm his gifts a lot of the time, which was quite a feat because I know I bring no news when I say he was a very gifted human being.

I am fairly certain that I first met Michael in Arnie Klein’s office around the time Billie was born, which makes it about eighteen years ago. My friend Bruce Wagner is one of her godfathers, and Arnie is the other. Billie would call Arnie “Godfather Two.”

When Billie was about six months old, Michael saw some pictures of her in Arnie’s office, called, and left me a message, in that voice of his, with its own dialect. And picking up this message of his was an amazing and disconcerting thing. In a way, it was like getting a communication from Santa Claus, or some other fairy-tale character. Michael’s message was that he wanted pictures of Billie. Now, that was odd. But you know, also—given that all the court case stuff hadn’t happened yet—kind of sweet. It was like he identified with or was drawn to all things innocent. And yet everyone turned that into something perverse. No one could believe that he was that innocent or that his motives were innocent. But I actually did.

But getting back to the special medical access I mentioned earlier, I had this dentist at the time, a Dr. Evan Chandler, who was a very strange character. He was what would be referred to as the Dentist to the Stars! And as one of the people who would have unnecessary dental work just for the morphine, this man was one of those people who could arrange such a welcome service. He referred his patients to a mobile anesthesiologist who would come into the office to put you out for the dental work. And as if that wasn’t glorious enough, this anesthesiologist could also be easily and financially persuaded to come to your house to administer the morphine for your subsequent luxury pain relief. And I would extend my arms, veins akimbo, and say to this man—“Send me away, but don’t send me all the way.”

But remember that dentist who sued Michael for molesting his kid?

Yes, that was my dentist. Evan Chandler, D.D.S. Dentist to the Stars. And this same Dr. Chandler—long before the lawsuit was brought (though not necessarily before it was contemplated)—needed someone to brag to about his son’s burgeoning friendship with Michael Jackson. (This was years before Michael had children of his own.) And so my “dentist” would go on and on about how much his son liked Michael Jackson and, more important, how much Michael Jackson liked his son. And the most disturbing thing I remember him saying was, “You know, my son is very good looking.”

Now I ask you—what father talks about his child that way? Well, maybe some do but (a) I don’t know them, and (b) they probably aren’t raising an eyebrow and looking suggestive when they say it. Over the years I’ve heard many proud fathers tell me, “My son is great,” or “My kid is adorable,” but this was the only time I’d ever heard this particular boast:

“My son [unlike most average male offspring] is VERY [unsettling smile, raised eyebrows, maybe even a lewd wink] good-looking [pause for you to reflect and/or puke].”

It was grotesque! This man was letting me know that he had this valuable thing that he assumed Michael Jackson wanted, and it happened to be his son. But it wasn’t who his son was, it was what he was: “good-looking.”

So here was Dr. Chandler telling me how Michael was buying his kid computers and taking him to incredible places and sleeping in the same bed and getting him . . . WAIT!

“Hang on,” I said. “I have to interrupt here. Let’s just go back a tic, okay?”

“Sure,” Chandler said.

“They’re sleeping in the same bed?!”

He blinked. “Well, yeah, but my ex-wife is always there, so it’s okay, and his stepfather and . . . and . . . and . . .”

Dr. Chandler’s stories became longer than my treatments. The drugs were wearing off before the story. Not that there was enough dope in the world to make these stories palatable. This was one creepy story. Off hand, I’d say the creepiest. And somehow I’d become this freak’s confidante.

So I told this bizarre tale to my friend, Gavin de Becker, who specializes in, among other things, celebrity weirdness, with a particular expertise in protecting celebrities from stalkers. He’s written four compelling books about fear and security and the like. So I called Gavin and told him about this dentist dumping this ghastly tale of his son and Michael Jackson in my lap, and Gavin told me, “Here’s what you should say to the guy: ‘Let me get this straight. You’re telling me your son is having sleepovers in the same bed as Michael Jackson. Let me put this to you another way and tell me if you think this is okay. Your thirteen-year-old son is sleeping in the same bed as a thirty-something African-American millionaire. Is that okay with you? Or does it need to be Michael Jackson to make this incredibly flawed situation make sense?’ ” I said this to Chandler and, as I dimly recall, we didn’t speak much for a while after that.

Then one night some months later, Dr. Chandler came up to my house again and told me that he and his wife were going to sue Michael.

“Why?” I asked.

“Because,” he explained rationally, “Michael is sleeping in the same bed with my boy.”

Now, I know for a fact that when this first started happening, the good doctor saw no problem with this odd bunking! Excuse me, he had been creepy enough to have allowed all this to happen, and now he’s suddenly shocked—shocked!—virtually consumed with moral indignation! “Can you believe it? I think Michael may have even put his hand on my child’s privates.” Well, what was this man thinking in the first place? Why did he encourage him to sleep in the same bed as Michael Jackson to begin with?

He did it because he knew, somewhere, he would eventually be able to say, “Oh, my God! I suddenly realize that this thing between Michael and my son is weird. I’m horrified. My son may have been damaged! And the only thing that can repair this damage is many millions of dollars! Then he’ll be okay! And we’re not going to buy anything for ourselves with that money! It’s all going toward our son being okay!!!” This was around the time that I knew I had to find another dentist. No drug can hide the fact that one’s skin is crawling.

The thing is, though, I never thought that Michael’s whole thing with kids was sexual. Never. Granted, it was miles from appropriate, but just because it wasn’t normal doesn’t mean that it had to be perverse. Those aren’t the only two choices for what can happen between an adult and an unrelated child spending time together. Even if that adult has had too much plastic surgery and what would appear to be tattooed makeup on his face. And yes, he had an amusement park, a zoo, a movie theater, popcorn, candy, and an elephant. But to draw a line under all that and add it up to the assumption that he fiendishly rubbed his hands together as he assembled this giant super spiderweb to lure and trap kids into it is just bad math.

I actually don’t think Michael was sexual at all. Incredibly talented, yes. Childlike, for sure. Pathologically kind, absolutely. But how stupid would you have to be to have sex with the little kids you’re endlessly hanging out with? And Michael was not stupid. He might have been a little naïve and definitely richer than most anyone in the whole world, and it was this absolutely fatal combination that made people want to desperately try to figure out how to squeeze some of that money out of his enormous wallet.

But wait! Check this out! Let’s say your “really good-looking son” started hanging out with this odd-looking famous multi-multimillionaire that could maybe be persuaded to give you twenty-two million dollars if you threatened to tell everyone in the world that he touched your son's underage, maybe-not- even-fully-grown-yet member. Well, I don't know what you'd do? But when my dentist was presented with a choice between integrity and twenty-two million dollars, you’ll never guess what he did! That’s right—he went for the cash! But hey, he was only human-ish, right? But really, who could blame him? I mean, besides you and me and anyone else alive who cares about ruining their kid's life, who else could blame Dr. Chandler for what he did? (I’ll wait while you think.)

Moving on...

I always felt that a huge part of the appeal of kids for Michael was that they couldn't be corrupted by his fame. Obviously a celebrity is a person set apart from the throng. Someone who not only has a private life, like all humans, but a public one as well.

“What are they like in real life?”

What sort of question is that?

“Oh, he’s so nice,” people will say after they encounter a celebrity. “Incredibly down-to-earth.”

Down-to-earth from where? Where did they get back to earth from?! And was it a long trip? Will they go back soon? And why? And will they take me with them?

Michael's celebrity turned many people into eager, greedy stargazers who only wanted something from him above and beyond what a normal human is willing or expected to give. They were there for the anecdote. It’s what I call the “shine.” People want to rub up against it, and in so doing, their own value is increased. But I’d like to propose a reason why Michael might’ve preferred the company of children to what I’ve heard referred to as adults.

Kids of a certain age, being too young to understand the peculiar phenomenon of fame, are potentially easier to trust and hang out with than a certain kind of adult, who, as I said earlier, more often than not have a tendency to start acting completely disorganized around someone as outrageously famous as Michael. And children are far less likely to act this way because they don't exactly know what fame is yet. To them, famous is cartoon characters, or Muppets, or Barney. It’s too abstract a concept for kids.

Obviously, children are more likely to feel important if they’re treated well. I don’t think that they necessarily compute need and/or feeling better because they’re treated well by millions of strangers. Their toys aren’t more fun than ovations.

The other people who aren’t rendered strange around famous people are generally... other famous people! In such instances, the issue of celebrity is neutralized, and they are free to move on to whatever they like or don’t like about one another in the usual human way. So that partly explains why Michael might have enjoyed hanging out with say, Elizabeth Taylor, for example, or even maybe me! (Yes, that’s what all this finally boils down to—me, me, me, me, me!)

Anyway, a few years after the first grotesque, untrue claims, Arnie Klein’s birthday came around and he invited us to Michael’s Neverland Ranch to celebrate this event with Arnie’s multi-bear clan. It wasn’t clear whether or not we were going to see Michael, or even if he was there. We were there as Arnie’s guests. But then that night we got called into the house. Or maybe it was more like summoned.

We found ourselves walking into this dark, cave-like room with dark sofas, curtains drawn, an enormous sound system—all that seemed to be missing was a crystal disco ball. And in the midst of all this was Michael, clad in white pajamas with animals on them. He told us that he had stayed up all night in this room, dancing. That being one of the few things that gave him pleasure. He’d go to this gigantic dark room at his ranch and stay there by himself, dancing to music all night long. I think that for Michael, this was a way to be okay.

Among other things, I think it was one of the ways people could not get at him. When he was inside his music, it all made sense. The music took care of him. It was one of the few things that didn't want something from him. It wrapped him up in sound and sailed him away to where he could be safe. Music may have been his truest friend, the only one he could truly trust. Pretentious? Maybe, but that doesn't make it any less true, does it?

Cut to another night, the following year. I was up at Elizabeth Taylor’s house where we would then head off to an AIDS benefit in Beverly Hills. Our little group was composed of Elizabeth and Michael with their double-date happening to be... Shirley MacLaine and myself.

Part of Michael’s relationship with Elizabeth was to buy her jewelry—you might say it was even a big part of their relationship. Elizabeth liked getting jewelry. But then really, who doesn’t? I remember coming into her dressing room one time and she was wearing this diamond as big as a doorknob that she always wore—the famous diamond Burton had given her. “What did you do to get that?” I asked her. And she smiled sweetly and softly said, “I was loved.”

So there we were, Shirley, Elizabeth, Michael, and me in a limousine driving to the Beverly Hilton Hotel. Our car drove up to the entrance, the car door opened, the four of us spilled out in front of the paparazzi, and Shirley and I were instantly rendered invisible. We were rendered unrecognizable. Michael’s and Elizabeth’s combined celebrity was just so incredibly intense. It was shine squared. And in a way it may have been comforting for each of them to have found someone with equivalent unimaginable celebrity. A rare species—endangered, protected, shiny—shared an uncommon denominator. And after all isn't that something we all want—community?

This, I think, is largely why Michael would spend time with Elizabeth. They had something amazingly unique in common. They were both stars from a very early age. Which is tantamount to being pulled out of the general community really early on and taken away from anything relatable. Obviously this is a high-class problem, but that doesn’t make it any less of something to deal with, does it?

So if that happened to you, who knows, you might want to be around children, too. Children who don’t understand enough to get weirded out by you. Who just know people are people. Who knows?

That night, at the AIDS benefit, Shirley and I ended up being spectators to the spectacle of Michael and Elizabeth. All you can really do in a situation like that is watch. And both Shirley and I are celebrities who write, who document, who observe, who in a way feel pulled out of situations that pull you out anyway. Sort of like war reporters on the front lines of celebrity.

But whatever we were like, perhaps one of the reasons Michael was comfortable with me was that, in a way, we could understand a part of each other that nobody else could. The Princess and the King. Leia and Pop. Maybe. Or maybe we never knew each other at all. Who knows? And who maybe even gives a shit, ultimately.

On Christmas Eve 2008—Michael’s last—I went over to his house, which is located just down the hill from me and a few blocks over. He was giving his children the childhood that he never had. A childhood outside of celebrity with people who didn’t objectify them. Because normally, for Michael, life was like being an animal at the zoo. An endangered species forever behind bars. I could get in the cage with Michael and not get freaked out, and there weren’t that many people who would’ve known how to, or known that it was even something they might actually be required to do when with him. But I did.

So I joined Michael after hours at his zoo. We took pictures and ate cookies and decorated the tree.

And then, to change it up, Michael asked me to do the Star Wars hologram speech for his kids. I didn’t mind. Someone actually had to remind me what a big Star Wars fan Michael was.

While I was there, though, we weren’t really experiencing the situation for the most part, we were taking pictures of it. Arnie took pictures of me and Michael and the kids, and I took pictures of Arnie and his friends and the Michael family package. My favorite was taking a picture of Michael reading my book Wishful Drinking.

I will always cherish that weird Christmas configuration of ours. Looking back, it was as if Michael didn’t know how to just be in a situation without recording it on a camera. The thing is, he was just so used to being documented. But the main reason the documentation came up this time was mostly for Arnie’s friends, who wanted to take pictures of their meeting with Michael so they could carry his shine around. The encounter elevated them. It became, “Oh, I had Christmas Eve dinner with Michael Jackson. What did you do?” Anyway, we all fucked around holiday style and having fun, and it was fun. We took pictures, we acted childish (at least I think that’s what it was). At some point, Michael said, “Okay, I’m letting you take my kids’ pictures because I know that you won't show them to anyone because you know I don't want anyone to see my children.”

He wanted his children to be as unrecorded as possible. If the Africans believe that you lose a piece of your soul each time you have your picture taken, then Michael hadn't had one for a very long time. But he was trying to arrange things so that his kids could keep theirs. And his children are very sweet, good children. And that's because whatever else he was or wasn’t, I think Michael was a really good father. I mean, his children are kind, really polite, even-tempered, and essentially unspoiled kids. And that can’t come from a nanny. You can’t fake that stuff. It has to come from the parent. And that parent was Michael.

Soon after that, Michael sent me a present—a phone. And just like with the soap I stole from Neverland, I lost it.

Michael couldn’t do any of the things that normal people do because as soon as he got involved with them, they became toxic with focus pulling, contaminated with shine. And I guess the only times where he could not feel pulled at and objectified was when he listened to the music all night and danced, or when he was being a father.

Michael was this creature that entertained us and then baffled us. I don’t think he was a drug addict in a conventional way. I think he just wanted out sometimes. And “out” could be dancing by himself all night to music. Or “out” could be anesthesia, which in my vast experience is not a drug. It provides no high, just nothingness, which must have seemed tremendously appealing to him. To sleep, perchance not to be misunderstood, get used, have your privates
photographed by the police.

I believe that Michael was fundamentally inconsolable. What consoles is friendship and family. He had a father who reputedly was cruel to him, and though he obviously loved his mother, I don't think he felt like he had a comfortable place in the world. So, he made his own little community with his children.

Michael's death was as much a by-product of his fame as it was of whatever plagues anyone, whoever that might describe. He died because he could get people—in this case, doctors—to give him something he had no business having. No one but a ridiculously wealthy celebrity could have persuaded a doctor to go against his principles, to risk losing his license. The combination of money and celebrity is a deadly surf and turf. So, Doctor Murray swapped his reputation in exchange for shekels and the ability to say, “I’m Michael Jackson's doctor.”

What ophthamologist or hair dresser or tattoo artist or sobriety expert wouldn’t love to have his or her profession defined with that addendum: “to the Stars”! For most people that’s just too much to resist. And now he gets to be the doctor that essentially killed Michael Jackson, linked to him for the rest of his otherwise unnoteworthy life. “Manslaughterer to the Stars.”

And this is merely one sad example of the most prevalent subculture in Hollywood, the professionals who provide off-license essentials to the special stars with their oh-so-special needs. Hey! What about in exchange for me allowing you to drop my name and be seen with me on occasion, would you give me a prescription for pills that I don’t need but want really badly? My reality—my sur-reality—has set up housekeeping on my nerves. I’ve been a public person way too much this week and now I’m craving a little private oblivion. Not too many people appreciate what it’s like to be enshrined in the public eye, so now I don’t want to feel like myself, okay? Be a good guy and get me out of me! But then ...

Uh-oh! Maybe I stayed out of myself and off my nerves for a little too long now. Could you maybe find me someone to privately detox me? Then you can be the guy who saved me from myself! Hang a photo of us on your wall. Sure, I’ll do your benefit! I’ll even show up at your party!

Basically, Michael’s fame even gave me a little extra stab of celebrity by being in the vague proximity of the scene of the crime of Michael’s life, which ended so early. So much sooner than it should have.

But hey, at least we have the X-Box 360 Kinect Michael Jackson Experience to remember him by. And his music. It’s not much compared to still having Michael. What you’ll have of me after I journey to that great Death Star in the sky is an extremely accomplished daughter, a few books, and a picture of a stern-looking girl wearing some kind of metal bikini lounging on a giant drooling squid, behind a newscaster informing you of the passing of Princess Leia after a long battle with her head.​
 
Many things of this tale sound weird. I didn't know that Evan Chandler was familiar with people from Michael's circle and had the same friends. Carry Fisher is that friend of Klein who hired an advocate for him?
 
We took pictures, we acted childish (at least I think that’s what it was). At some point, Michael said, “Okay, I’m letting you take my kids’ pictures because I know that you won’t show them to anyone because you know I don’t want anyone to see my children.”

btw who of them sold this pics cause they were published right after june 2009
 
It's perfectly possible to both document (for a time) and then enjoy, document while enjoying, enjoying while documenting etc. I take great pleasure in documenting my little one's excited face on Christmas- for a while.
Countless proud dads such as Michael do and did the same, I wouldn't assume anything different there.

Some people are also immensely visual and combine the visual aspect with 'feeling' and remembering and the fleeting moment is like a little parallel reality in which Christmas lives on and on. Especially artists have the tendency to bring something into the physical, over and over again, it's the way the function.
Songs are being written down, photos are being taken. An artist translated a reality into something physical. He also surrounded himself with pictures and photos- there is nothing 'lacking' there, it just that some people relate to the world that way.
Michael is an artist and seemed very skilled at ways of 'manifesting'- from telling himself what it is that he wants to accomplish, down to sending people tapes of motivational talk to help them feel better, post its, stuff written in random places etc. Pictures just fit in there.

I do the same when going to Forest Lawn, btw. I photograph single flower buds like portraits because that is what I feel there.

So, people always misunderstood his way of relating to children and made it something else. I feel that although well meant, this applies to many aspects of him, that people take a habit of his and run with it.
So he likes to document things? How does that make him different from anyone else who photographs their families, does scrapbooking etc. He just did it on a larger scale.
 
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Michael was a great parent and he offer his kids the change to experience a normal and nice childhood...
 
Thanks for that chapter, but for someone who says she does not know michael well, she has much to say about his thoughts and motivations. She even knows why Michael wanted a relationship with Arnie--talking about wanting to have the service at any time. Did Michael tell her this or is this her opinion. I am tired of these experts on Michael who used his relationship and then talk so unkindly of him. She has an idea of why he hung with kids, but how about using what he said. He said numerous times why little ones interested him, but I guess we disregard that and form our own opinions. This reminds me of when Michael said so many times he had vitiligo and answered some of her questions, and after he died, Oprah finally said "she got it." She got what? Didn't he tell you while he was alive?
 
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What did Oprah say? I agree that Michael told people who he was, how he felt, and about his vitiligo. It was not difficult to understand. Michael was treated so badly. People are so ignorant and jealous. Maybe it's just me but the way Carrie Fisher writes I am not sure if she is giving Michael back handed compliments. I don't know it doesn't come across sincere like how others may he written about spending time with him.
 
Thats just her style of writing. She writes about herself in the same manner. I think she speculates a lot but most her back handed comment are about the conditions MJ had deal with or live in not about him personally. Even when she says something odd about him she clarifies it with the fame and way he had to live made him that way, not really a character flaw but very different from any one elses life, She did feel he was other wordly sort of an odd one in this world. but not in a negative way. She seemed to be very fond of him and defends his innocense and praises him as a father. She writes in the same manner about her Mother Debby Reynolds and about her step mom Elizabeth Taylor and she loves them dearly.
 
Thats just her style of writing. She writes about herself in the same manner. I think she speculates a lot but most her back handed comment are about the conditions MJ had deal with or live in not about him personally. Even when she says something odd about him she clarifies it with the fame and way he had to live made him that way, not really a character flaw but very different from any one elses life, She did feel he was other wordly sort of an odd one in this world. but not in a negative way. She seemed to be very fond of him and defends his innocense and praises him as a father. She writes in the same manner about her Mother Debby Reynolds and about her step mom Elizabeth Taylor and she loves them dearly.

I see thank you. I had this odd feeling reading it and not sure what to think.
 
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