Do You Feel Like You'll Ever get Over it?

[Strawberry]

:no:

not me... i dont even know how to go on from here

[emmah24]

Strawberry, I know the world seems like a cruel and awful place right now. We're are ALL going through this, these feelings of what happens now, how can my life ever be the same.

Time will help the pain to ease, it doesnt sound like much now,but it will. And come here and chat to fans, we are all in the same boat.

[Harlow]

No I dont think I will get over it. Its really hard to know he was very unhappy in the last part of his life, its hard to know how horribly he was treated. I wish, really really wish Michael was here to see how much he was TRULY loved. All this being said, I will find away to smile, and keep sharing my love for Michael with others. I will do it for Michael, and his family.

Love you Michael 4EVR

[Experience the magic]

Exactly Emma, we are in this together. You are not alone. Give yourself a chance to come to terms with this loss. Perhaps you can be inspired by the way Michael was passionate about life, about love, about the world. He lived his life through his heart and so can you. Be with us here ok.

[hilliver]

yes, we have to and we will. Some faster than others, and it depends how your own life is. You can't make him your life, that is an unfair burden to put on him in life, or death.

We go on, we mourn and grieve, but we will learn to smile. I can't put his videos or music on yet, so if it upsets me I stay away until I can face it.

[Cheeko]

I don't think i will either but i think as its the summer..
and this was going to be MJs summer with this is it..
its going to be hard but i think when i get to uni in sep and my mind is in other matters i'd be better but for now no...

[emmah24]

You have to let yourself grieve, dont try to move to quickly to get over it, take time to go through the motions. I can tell you that each day is different for me. One day I will get on with other things, the next I feel like I dont want to even leave the house. I expect this to continue for a little while, I havent yet chosen to listen to his music, but I know I will at some point, and you will too.

[IAte58Crayons]

Right now it seems next to impossible, but I know one day we will all be able to come to terms with his passing.

[Smudge]

I think the memorial helped - a time to come together, share the grief and make a collective resolution to move on in life and show others the same respect and care that Michael gave.
It's a small step in his direction but I think my first change is going to be to try and not swear at all...

[janena]

I will never get over it...but i'll learn to live with it in time i guess...

[wendy2004]

No. But I know time heals all wounds...as cliched as that sounds. It's true. Everytime I think about him being gone and not ever being able to hear his voice or see him in real time ever again, it's like a stab to the heart right now. As time goes on it might hurt a little less altho it'll still be painful.

[WeAreTheWorld]

I will never get over it. But I think, in time, I will begin to learn to live with it. But right now I'm just torn. I've never cried this much in my life. I've neverfelt this much pain. Today was the worst day of my life so far, and yet beautiful because I feel I got a small part of all this out of me. During the memorial I just snapped and fell apart... I duno what will happen now. I'm so lost.

[rockstar]

NOT ME :cry:

[TillitsGone]

I will, eventually, but for now, it's still somber and empty. There will be a miracle in all of this, we may not know right now, but someday. We have to carry on Michael's message of love, though.


yes, we have to and we will. Some faster than others, and it depends how your own life is. You can't make him your life, that is an unfair burden to put on him in life, or death.

We go on, we mourn and grieve, but we will learn to smile. I can't put his videos or music on yet, so if it upsets me I stay away until I can face it.

[Mariajoaosilva]

I will never get over it...but i'll learn to live with it in time i guess...


Me too.Just not sure if i will ever learn how to deal with this.Part of me died with Michael

[mjsgirl4eva]

i agree it' s going to be a long time i am so sad

[Mizz Mina]

Perhaps in time. A long long long time but maybe in time

[ennacent]

I will never get over it....he will always be with me in some way....I will always think about him...I love/adore that man so much...it is heart wrenching to know I will not hear his voice or see a new dance move...He is truly my inspiration...I'm a fashion designer and I envision myself one day dedicating a "line" to him....

Love you Michael

[jay_bee]

I don't think I'll ever completely get over it, but after the memorial I think I'm finally going to be able to continue with my life. It will never be the same as it was and I will love and miss Michael forever, but I think I have the closure I need to keep going now.

[RedRoses]

Feels like no. I mean of course life goes on and what not. But now it's like my life has/will be one of two things. what life was like with mj and what life was like after mj.

[MJfan82]

I will never get over it. I fell in love with Michael all over again and I will not let anyone around me forget about Michael. He will be celebrated for the rest of my life.

[elusive moonwalker]

u wont ever get over it but u will learn to cope. samewith any loss. itwont hurt quite as much u will be able to look back with a smile rather than a tear

[sabz]

im just glad we got this forum to turn to
to talk to people who know what im going through
it was the same during the trial hate the loneliness you feel
i dont think ill ever truly get over it
as it doesnt seem hes gone
esp when you listen to songs like you r not alone and will you be there cant stop loving you
as long as we breathe im sure michael will live on in memory and in our very nice fantasies that we dreamed while he was still alive

[mjbunny]

Get over it completely? No. But I figure there will be a time when I won't cry as much, when it will be a rare event (crying over MJ, that is). But I don't know when that will be.

[djbaby]

what Elusive said. plus the memorial was very healing.

[sabz]

my sister was acting like a total cow
she was saying every1 will remember him 4 a week then hel be old news
and like diana a thing of the past
i told her his music will live forever and therefore hel never be forgotten
why do peope have to be so mean even in a time when they know yur hurting
so what if you dont agree with me get over yourself and leave us all alone esp michael
because i definitely will never get over him

[AllTheLovelyFlowers]

No, because everytime the estate releases new music, I will go through it all over again. I will love and miss Michael til the day I die and go to heaven and see him there myself. Cause I have no doubt in my mind that he is in heaven.

[FUJON]

^ the same here

[Chopin-Lover]

I am starting to feel more gratitude now. We are so lucky to have known this great man, inspired by him, and learned from him.
I know a lot of people of my age who never understand what Michael means to us. For me, they are missing out.
Thanks Michael for making me a better person and making the world a better place!

[Tamou]

Nope, never.
And I'm not sure I want to. It feels like Michael is constantly with me holding my hand now, and as much as it hurts, it's comforting.
As long as I hold on tight and keep squeezing his hand, I hope he never, ever, lets go.
Michael sweetie, I love you more.

[jessikat]

Right now it feels like the pain will never end, and it's very hard. My heart is truly broken and I can barely function. Today was so hard, but I'm glad I watched it all.

[Gyrl4MJ]

Not anytime soon.......

[yaazgurl]

I think I will never get over it. My life will never be the same and I feel this emptiness will be with me always.

[RedMaryFlint]

It's not as if I can't function. It's not as if I'll never smile again. But I will never get over what they did to him.

[mjlovergurl003]

No. I dont think i will ever get over this. My world had died and my heart is forever broken. I wish Michael was here to see that he was truly loved. Personaly I think he knew he was loved bc he knew his fans and family where always there when he needed them. During the worst times in his life us fans where there supporting him and cheering for him and never missing the opportunity to say I love You Michael to him. and if he herd us he would always say "I love You More". It hurts so much that we will never hear him say those words again but we can always keep his spirit alive. The pain that we all feeling is just tremedouis. I know Michael is not hurting anymore but its just not right or fair that he left too soon.

[MJstarlight]

No I dont. Everyday is painful now.
I will be depressed forever :(

[Maeflower86v2]

If you really love a person, you never can get over it, but, you can learn to live through it. It's more about getting "through" than "over". The only way out is through.

[Liva]

I can agree with pretty much all of you.
At the moment I can not see ever getting over this. It hurts so much. I've had people I love die before, but as sad as it might sound, I don't think I ever loved anyone as I loved Michael. He meant the world to me, still does, but now since he's gone I just can not find anything to live for. I feel completely lost and hopeless, and I just don't know what to do with myself... I have always been very optimistic, full of life and positive, but for the last two weeks now there is nothing that makes me smile, nothing I look forward to, nothing that could make me feel better. I look at all the things I own, I think of all the things I wanted to do, and nothing matters. It's like Michael was my everything and he's now taken away.. I can not stop crying. And thinking about Michael's family, his mother and children especially, does not help at all.
The saddest part is not that he died, I always realized that he was going to die one day, but it just did not have to happen so soon. That's the hardest part for me - I know that he did not have to die now. He was way too young. And it angers me to think of all the people who made his life so hard. How is that fair?
It's just so hard... and I know you all understand me. I'm really thankful to have this place!
We have got to learn how to live without Michael.. I just have no idea how..

[Cinnamon234]

I will never get over it...but i'll learn to live with it in time i guess...

Same. It will always hurt and I will always be devastated about MJ's passing, but I will learn to cope with it eventually. The pain will always be there for me though.

[MissJohnnyJackson]

You are not alone.. :cry:
I'll never accept that he is gone.. :cry:

*hugs*

[Seeress]

I don't think 'get over it' is the right way to put it... at least I feel. Get over it? The death of our beloved MJ? When it was such a shock? And when we were so looking forward to his triumphant 'return'? I think it'll be a hard thing for a lot of people to get over, even for non-fans. It was such a shock and had such an impact - I get the feeling it'll be a loss that people will be feeling for a good while. Instead of saying 'get over it', I would rather say move past it. Or as a friend of mine put it - 'You don't get over someone's death. You just learn to adjust to their absence.'


You have to let yourself grieve, dont try to move to quickly to get over it, take time to go through the motions. I can tell you that each day is different for me. One day I will get on with other things, the next I feel like I dont want to even leave the house. I expect this to continue for a little while, I havent yet chosen to listen to his music, but I know I will at some point, and you will too.

I am so glad to see a post like this. It's nice to be encouraged to grieve because I know a lot of people just try to suck it up or move on too quickly, myself included. It can especially be awkard if you're around people that may not understand this grief around MJ as well. So thanks for saying this! It's good to know other people are in the same boat.


We go on, we mourn and grieve, but we will learn to smile. I can't put his videos or music on yet, so if it upsets me I stay away until I can face it.

I can't face his work yet either :no:. I hope I will soon though.


u wont ever get over it but u will learn to cope. samewith any loss. itwont hurt quite as much u will be able to look back with a smile rather than a tear

That sounds so lovely. I am so looking forward to this!


my sister was acting like a total cow
she was saying every1 will remember him 4 a week then hel be old news
and like diana a thing of the past
i told her his music will live forever and therefore hel never be forgotten
why do peope have to be so mean even in a time when they know yur hurting
so what if you dont agree with me get over yourself and leave us all alone esp michael
because i definitely will never get over him

Well you should tell your sister then that Diana is remembered quite well and people are still fascinated by her. Tell her that concerts have been done in Diana's honor as recently as last year. No one's forgotten Diana - they've just moved on to other things. In the same way, no one will ever forget MJ. Even if people go on to do other things, MJ will forever be noted as one of the greatest and remembered by people who were touched by not only his music, but the experience of his memorial as well.


I am starting to feel more gratitude now. We are so lucky to have known this great man, inspired by him, and learned from him.
I know a lot of people of my age who never understand what Michael means to us. For me, they are missing out.
Thanks Michael for making me a better person and making the world a better place!

Wow, I couldn't agree with you more. I'm so grateful for getting into MJ when I did and all the inspiration he's given me. A lot of people my age don't understand the importance of MJ either and the connection between the fans & him. But that's okay - some are slightly turning now and in a bittersweet way, that's kinda nice to see. For those missing out, truly it's their loss.

[MJJ Lover xOX]

No. I feel dead inside. :(

[Expressions of Passion]

I won't.

[raingirl]

It took me over a year to get over of my first and favorite dog passing so this will probably take atleast that...

[Giovanna]

I will always miss him and love him! i will eventually feel better with the strength of God, my faith will help me. I know that he is enjoying eternal life with God.

[Giovanna]

It took me over a year to get over of my first and favorite dog passing so this will probably take atleast that...

I know exactly what you mean, i lost my dog in January and i am still not over it.