Ladies: Whats the first thing that turns you on, in a man?

[BillieJean84]

Ok so I was thinking about something. Theres this guy friend of mine, who I just met well I'd say about 4 years ago, maybe 5 while I was working at the movies. Theres something about him that is ssooo attractive and I don't quite know yet - because he normally is not someone I would even go for anyway. lol. Hes a bit husky, tall I love tall... he has brown eyes and ladies I'm talking about the most beautiful brown eyes ; almost chocolate brown. He has long eyelashes- I effin looovve longass eyelashes... and most of all he has personality / swagger.

so I would say what turns me on in a man?? All of the above. I love tall, now don't take it the wrong way- I love big men but big muscular men. lol. I'm attracted to a man who is in shape / has a good physique.


so now I ask you ladies what is the most, the first thing in a man that you are so attracted to??

[kottur13]

edittt

[Severus Snape]

That's not possible. The most beautiful brown eyes belong to Michael. :P

Anyway, what really turns me on in a man is intelligence. The absence of a beard and mustache is a plus too. I like skinny to average-built men. I prefer my men to be older than I. I love Anderson Cooper-like silver foxes. :D

That's basically what I look for in guys who are not fictional book/anime characters or dead. :)

[BillieJean84]

I probably worded that incorrectly. Of course I love intelligence.... I meant to say physically. Forget intelliegence for a second lol.

[Pace,MioDolceCuore]

If he has humour, intellect, compassion and so forth, than I'll find him to be a turn on pretty much regardless. I liked blonde men, dark men, doesn't really matter. If the guy is THE GUY than his physique isn't what's gonna stop it. Really.

It's usually the eyes that say a lot, the way he's looking at the world, the way he carries himself.

And of course, the way he's looking AT ME. :punk::rofl:

[Michael Jackson Moonwalk]

[QUOTE=xsmooth_criminalx;2852887]That's not possible. The most beautiful brown eyes belong to Michael. :PQUOTE]

Amen :punk: I love all you posts girly! :lol:

[Arklove]

That's not possible. The most beautiful brown eyes belong to Michael. :P



:clapping: I was just thinking the same thing!

[summer]

I can't say what kind of looks would "turn me on" because it's not really about looks to me...Looks can make me turn my head and look twice but that's about it. What I love and rate very very high are a great sense of humor, good manners and being GENUINLY kind. If the guy can make me laugh and if I see he's nice to, not only me, but to EVERYONE, if I see he is helpful, isn't arrogant, if he doesn't flirt with everyone and their mother, if he's smart and interested in things and if he knows how to LISTEN when I talk...then I'm definately interested. If the guy has a good heart and is funny and smart...that's my kind of guy. I don't like arrogant machos and players who don't have manners or who aren't interested in anything intellectual. Or who constantly get into fights or tell everyone to "eff off" because they can't have an intellectual conversation or discussion with someone. And I also don't like nerds who take themselves too seriously and can't laugh at themselves or those who think joking around is "childish". I LOVE to laugh so I could never be with someone who wouldn't get my jokes and wouldn't like to joke around too.

Anyways, basically a smart, funny guy, with a heart of gold is someone who'll get me interested. :yes: And looks...well, he just has to have that "something" lookswise. What that is? Only God knows. I can't describe it better than that. There has to be "something". I'll know when I see it.

[Thetruthbetold]

When my boo comes out the shower and i just stop and look at his body all wet up....

[suzynyc]

A pleasant, friendly smile is always nice. Expressive eyes are nice too.

[helena22]

A pleasant, friendly smile is always nice. Expressive eyes are nice too.
Those are nice qualities:yes: Got me thinking of this one line "Now I gotta find me a man/With sensitive eyes~" from the song "Find Me A Man" by Toni Braxton.

On the real, tho, when I think of the things in men that turn me on, it's not much about physical thang (Well, I would add "hands" that look good to my eyes:D) I could only find some turn-ons in a man when I have the chance to get to know him better, like becoming good friends first. Being able to be my friend-lover-brother, truly caring about my physical and emotional well-being, to name a few...These are what turn me on, to the point where I feel I'd give my all and make him feel good. In short, I got to be deeply in love to be turned on:wub:

[swirly]

Well seen as this thread is what FIRST turns you on in a man, it would have to be looks. Because if you don't like the look or someone, you're not really going to get to know them are you, unless you're already friends with them.

I love to see a gorgeous smile and nice teeth :) And beautiful eyes. And then nice hands :):)

[Sharlene]

Are the guys taking notes? Hehe
When I read the first post I thought it meant what do you think is most attractive when you first spot a cute guy, not the personality you look for in the one u wanna spend your life with, so I'll answer it superficially. For me it varies and it's hard to decide because every guy has his own unique look. I like a nice smile, and I like prominent cheek bones on girls and boys (I wish mine were!). A big turn off is when they look like they're having an identity crisis (trying to act gangster for example).

[Severus Snape]

[QUOTE=xsmooth_criminalx;2852887]That's not possible. The most beautiful brown eyes belong to Michael. :PQUOTE]

Amen :punk: I love all you posts girly! :lol:

Thank you so much! :)

[summer]

Well seen as this thread is what FIRST turns you on in a man, it would have to be looks. Because if you don't like the look or someone, you're not really going to get to know them are you, unless you're already friends with them.

I love to see a gorgeous smile and nice teeth :) And beautiful eyes. And then nice hands :):)




Are the guys taking notes? Hehe
When I read the first post I thought it meant what do you think is most attractive when you first spot a cute guy, not the personality you look for in the one u wanna spend your life with, so I'll answer it superficially. For me it varies and it's hard to decide because every guy has his own unique look. I like a nice smile, and I like prominent cheek bones on girls and boys (I wish mine were!). A big turn off is when they look like they're having an identity crisis (trying to act gangster for example).



To me it's not just the looks. I thought this thread was about "what is the first thing that TURNS YOU ON" in a man. I observe the guy as a whole and his personality and how he interacts with others and based on that I decide if I wanna meet him or keep talking to him if he comes to talk to me first. Not based on looks. If the guy seems arrogant or meanspirited or like he's a player, etc., I won't be interested, no matter how hot he looks. Maybe that's just me? Besides a random guy who just has great looks doesn't TURN ME ON ...but again, maybe that's just me? A guy I have gotten to know and who has something lookswise that gives me "butterflies" (a smile, a sparkle in the eyes...whatever..just something I find cute and endearing) and who has a heart of GOLD turns me on. But apparently I'm in the minority? Not that I care though. :lol:

[BunnyHead]

His confidence.....that is a major plus :)

[DanceofLorelei1994]

Intelligence.

[BunnyHead]

Intelligence.

This is another plus, I love guys who are just speak with intelligence naturally. Not when they try to use 5$ words to impress you. It's music to my ears.

This is why I adore Michael Jackson and Apolo Ohno so much:wub::wub::wub::wub:

[lamb7]

Toss up between kindness and humility.
(It was you, Michael).

[Sharlene]

To me it's not just the looks. I thought this thread was about "what is the first thing that TURNS YOU ON" in a man. I observe the guy as a whole and his personality and how he interacts with others and based on that I decide if I wanna meet him or keep talking to him if he comes to talk to me first. Not based on looks. If the guy seems arrogant or meanspirited or like he's a player, etc., I won't be interested, no matter how hot he looks. Maybe that's just me? Besides a random guy who just has great looks doesn't TURN ME ON ...but again, maybe that's just me?

Good point, that is definitely a big part of how a guy "appears" imo too. LOL you're not alone, i don't think many of us get turned on just by seeing a nice guy, that's getting a bit too excited :P

[kottur13]

edittt

[swirly]

No pressure guys, you just have to be;

Handsome
Intelligent
Funny
Tall
Have nice hands/smile/teeth/cheekbones
Not a show-off
Kind
Confident
Long eyelashes/beautiful
Be compassionate..

:lol:

[Sharlene]

^ hahahaha :P

[suzynyc]

No pressure guys, you just have to be;

Handsome
Intelligent
Funny
Tall
Have nice hands/smile/teeth/cheekbones
Not a show-off
Kind
Confident
Long eyelashes/beautiful
Be compassionate..

:lol:

As well as....

Friendly
Generous
Patient
Humble
Dependable
Well groomed
Hard working
Pleasant
Not cheap...

;D

[wowo]

stupidity & cheating never ever work.
but i wont deny the past. i will admit the love in the past that had been a truth, and the cheating only make me give up from right the moment however damages i need to bear

[MySerenity5]

1. Eyes... Okay... I've been crushing on this cutie for a year now and he has a really nice pair of sparkling light brown eyes... LMAO! Seriously, I hate to sound mushy but his eyes can really melt me to a puddle. Ohh.... it does things to me, I swear... :P

2. Smile... OMG!!!!! The same guy above has such a gorgeous beautiful smile... Kyaa..... <3 It makes his face light up and everything....

3. Confidence... It turns me on lke no other. I love it when a guy is confident. Not arrogant per say but knows his direction in life and knows who he is and has no shame about it.

4. Can play a guitar or any music instrument... <3

5. Can dance.... Yes.. :D

I guess that's why I like Mike so much.... Lols!

[Pace,MioDolceCuore]

No pressure guys, you just have to be;

Handsome
Intelligent
Funny
Tall
Have nice hands/smile/teeth/cheekbones
Not a show-off
Kind
Confident
Long eyelashes/beautiful
Be compassionate..

:lol:

Or in general terms, being Michael Jackson.

[Sharlene]

1. Eyes... Okay... I've been crushing on this cutie for a year now and he has a really nice pair of sparkling light brown eyes... LMAO! Seriously, I hate to sound mushy but his eyes can really melt me to a puddle. Ohh.... it does things to me, I swear... :P

2. Smile... OMG!!!!! The same guy above has such a gorgeous beautiful smile... Kyaa..... <3 It makes his face light up and everything....

3. Confidence... It turns me on lke no other. I love it when a guy is confident. Not arrogant per say but knows his direction in life and knows who he is and has no shame about it.

4. Can play a guitar or any music instrument... <3

5. Can dance.... Yes.. :D

I guess that's why I like Mike so much.... Lols!

Awwwwww! Thats the cutest post ever :cheeky: I only started to get the hint at number 4 though hehehe. Quite a few girls in this thread have been saying Michael's got all the qualities they want in a man!

[BillieJean84]

I love tall, thin but healthy physique, long eyelashes and a nice butt ...
I get initimidated by good looks though.

of course intelliegence duh but I do get intimidated by that too

[DanceofLorelei1994]

No pressure guys, you just have to be;

Handsome
Intelligent
Funny
Tall
Have nice hands/smile/teeth/cheekbones
Not a show-off
Kind
Confident
Long eyelashes/beautiful
Be compassionate..

:lol:


As well as....

Friendly
Generous
Patient
Humble
Dependable
Well groomed
Hard working
Pleasant
Not cheap...

;D


In short, "Michael Jackson." :yes:

[ginvid]

^^^Exactly.

But seriously, I met someone who was so freakin nice. I mean like, saintly nice. I found myself VERY attracted to this. Sometimes when you find people who have qualities that you strive for, even if you are not immediately attracted to them, you can find yourself uncontrollably attracted to them.

(It also didn't hurt that he was very cute). But he ws so nice and so mild tempered. he never got mad. It was amazing to me and bewildering. It makes me think good of people and makes me hopeful. It was very sexy!! :shifty:

[Grand Master S]

How come no one has said "being mistreated" even though it's true?

*scratches head*

[Michelle MC]

Sensitivity.

[summer]

How come no one has said "being mistreated" even though it's true?

*scratches head*

Sarcasm? :mello:

[The One.]

Eyes and smile are the things I notice first. I like brown haired men (I don't think a blond guy would be totally out of the question if he was otherwise nice lol). And arms. Nice, muscular arms.. :blush:

Physically the looks doesn't really matter though, he just has to be somewhat in good shape but mostly it's the personality and they way he treats me/others what matters.

[wendijane]

i like someone to spar with :lol:

[aliana101]

Guys who don't act like complete idiots...

[Pentum]

How come no one has said "being mistreated" even though it's true?

*scratches head*Hahahaha, nice one

[Nirvana]

How come no one has said "being mistreated" even though it's true?

*scratches head*

(Y) - Thumbs up bro

[Grand Master S]

I know, I'm awesome. Furthermore...

Why is it that when girls are asked what kind of personality traits they look for in a man, it's always some sentimental shit like "sensitivity, kindness, good listener, blah blah blah" but the dudes who are renowned for raking in the most tail in real life aren't like that? This is why if you're a guy you should never ask a girl for advice on picking up girls. Instead of trying to legitimately help you succeed, they are prone to filling your head with lies to make themselves feel better about the gluttons for punishment that they are.

[aliana101]

Oh shut up you asses. Not all girls are like that.

[Grand Master S]

Are you saying that not all girls are emotional robots of each other?

I don't understand...

[Angela_MJJ]

I like man who isn't very tall because I'm a shorty myself :P
Beautiful eyes, dark hair preferably not too short cut, cute smile and a nice behind ;)

[wendijane]

and a nice bum..

[Hocus]

Hmm, lemme think... :cheeky:
A good body (no fat!! but also not too muscular), tall (but not too tall), a nice bum, a nice smile, a gentle soul, intelligent, a bit of class, no beard or moustache, not bald, dark hair, honest (no player)...
I could go on and on! :lol:

[Dudie]

Uhm.. nice eyes and smile and he must take care of himself properly and some sense of style might be a plus too. Not that he has to wear a suit but I don't like thorn shoes, jeans with holes and overwashed shirts. He doesn't have to have a sixpack but I don't like a beer belly either and no beard/moustache. Ohh and it would be a huge plus if he didn't smoke or drinks to much.

And ofcourse he has to have a good inside, treat me well and not be a jerk or someone who is so full of himself.

[sweet princess]

For me, it's his voice & the way he carries himslef. I like man who is strong- he doesn't take crap from anyone. A man who will be there for me.

[_rckwitu]

I'm a sucker for beautiful eyes and a gorgeous smile.
:wub:

[wendijane]

Artistic, Somewhat Smiley, Long haired, Intelligent, Empath. :shuriken:

[michaeljacksonkingofpop]

I'm a girl that likes guys who are kind, would be there for me, is funny, and someone that loves me for me. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and we have been going slow by being friends first and then we were boyfriend/girlfriend. What's the point of being with a guy that you hardly know? Get to know him!

[Lark0016]

Kindness is a major turn on. also talent.

[Daryll748]

Nice choices, ladies :clap:

I love a genuine smile and dark almond eyes :blush:

Also well build not 'overbuild' and everything in the right size :shutup:

Also intelligence, kindness and gentlemen 'flare' are on top of my list...

It's so hard to beat Michael Jackson, isn't it guys :cheeky:

[Silouette]

Well Daryll, since you bumped this thread from last month and Wendijane bumped it from 2010,
I guess I'll respond now.

The first thing that turns me on in a man would be his approach.
If he approaches me correct then there's hope for what's next. As long as
he's not a dog and he smells good, you know, well groomed, that's a turn on.
Then if he's established, independent and employed that would be nice too. :D

[Word Smith Sr]

As long as he smells good,

Is that why you rejected me ? I was coming back from the gym, i already told you that.

[Mechi]

lol this thread is worth to get a bump:

major turn ons for me are:
- humor
- manners
- serenity
- knowing what they want in life and going for it
- not too proud and macho to clean a toilet at times(and hey I'm not necessarily talking about mine but it wouldn't hurt!), not to stupid to cook at times, able to clean the dishes at times not imediately crying for a machine, not fearing work

major turn offs:
- treating others with disrespect, no matter whom
- no energy but most laziness, no creativity
- finding excuses instead of starting any effort
- not even able to do some eggs for himself
- not knowing how to iron his own shirts or able to buy underwear for himself

[Daryll748]

lol this thread is worth to get a bump:

major turn ons for me are:
- humor
- manners
- serenity
- knowing what they want in life and going for it
- not too proud and macho to clean a toilet at times(and hey I'm not necessarily talking about mine but it wouldn't hurt!), not to stupid to cook at times, able to clean the dishes at times not imediately crying for a machine, not fearing work

major turn offs:
- treating others with disrespect, no matter whom
- no energy but most laziness, no creativity
- finding excuses instead of starting any effort
- not even able to do some eggs for himself
- not knowing how to iron his own shirts or able to buy underwear for himself

I see you too got some 'experience' in the MEN department :cheeky:

Indeed, where can you find a man that is both gentleman and not picky enough to get his hands dirty hey :smilerolleyes:

It's also the 'little' things that turn you on... like the way they say hello to you or the way they act towards other people and even what their views are on certain topics... Ah, men hey :dont_mention_it:

[Silouette]

Is that why you rejected me ? I was coming back from the gym, i already told you that.
WTH? :blink: What are you talking about?

Oh, okay, I get it now. [you're joking again].

:lol: