I might waffle a bit here but everything has come to a head for me really and I really need some advice as to what to do please.
Basically, I have been seeing a guy for coming up 2 years in March. We work together (not a problem for us) and everyone at work knows that we are together. All of my family and friends have met him, have spent time with him, I invite him to all of the family weddings and parties etc etc (he has met everybody I know many times) and he is round my house almost every night.
However.. I have not met anyone from his family. He lives with his sister and a dog.. I rarely ever go to his house and I have never even met the sister he lives with, let alone his parents or his other sister or brother. I vaguely remember meeting his best friends when we first got together but now I never see them.
Is this normal? I have been worried for some time, and it all came to a head last night at the New Years Eve party when my Auntie asked about my boyfriend and whether his family and the sister he lives with are nice, and I was lost for words and felt utterly embarrassed and pathetic.
Is he embarrassed of me? I really feel like he is either embarrassed of me or he's hiding something from me. There are little things that keep cropping up and now I am becoming paranoid. He has lied about very little things before, but he is friends with a girl on Facebook and they were blatantly flirting on there right infront of me (I'm sure he didn't realise I would see) and now that girl is in a "open relationship" and she is boasting that she has driven his car and when someone on there asked who it was she said "errrmm... just a friend's".
I think I AM becoming paranoid now, and I am not normally like this but everything is confusing me
I already asked him about this girl who he was friends with on Facebook and he said it is his best friend's sister but she has a completely different surname to his friend.
A few months ago also, someone that we work with closely came in shocked and stunned when some woman in the petrol station had said that she was married to him! Obviously my boyfriend denied it and thought it was ridiculous (he doesn't wear a ring or anything like that obviously) but he said that he didn't want to talk about it because it upset him yet he made no visible attempts to find out who on earth would say such a thing! If that was me I'd be ringing all of my friends asking them if it was them and if it was to never do such a stupid thing again!
I need your advice because I am confused and helpless and people are beginning to think it ridiculous that I even stay with him. Are they right?
It is his birthday on the 3rd and tonight we are going out for a meal to celebrate and it is the perfect time to bring up all of my issues.. where neither of us can run away. But I don't want to spoil his birthday