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    Default Re: Visiting the Forum Less and Posting Less

    Quote Originally Posted by NatureCriminal7896 View Post
    I made my decision and i decided to be less on this forum. i been on this forum for almost 2 years now and since those years i'm am not happy anymore. i know i made some friends here and some enemies here but i'm just not happy anymore. i talked to my therapist the other day and she said i shouldn't be at a place where nobody cares about me or my feelings. she said i don't know anyone here personally so i can't tell i have been harass. since this is the internet i can't really tell who's against me or with me. i feel i can't be handle here or my needs don't matter either.

    the website is outdated and not accessible for people like me. which is unfair. i would put money to the site but how i been treated and how my feelings were hurt i really doubt i would put money because my feelings don't matter. my therapist said the website needs people who can really handle me so if this message offends anyone this is coming from my therapist and i agree with her. which i just said.

    last month was very terrible i wanted to kill myself. seriously it made my depression go up and my family and therapist was very concern they had to check up on me make sure i wouldn't harm myself.

    i'm just being very real and if that offends anyone then it's basically saying my feelings doesn't matter.

    i just want people to understand me and my feelings etc. i'm not asking for much. if so i'm sorry.

    my mental health matters more then people i don't known personally online. my therapist told me to set boundaries for myself.

    i really don't have friends in real life because i'm different. i was planning to make friends last year but Covid-19 really ruin alot of things.

    anywho i still love MJ so i guess i'll still post every now and then, if i don't never come back then it's been fun being here for almost 2 years. like i said i wanna be at a place were my feelings matter and my needs. it's not good for my mental health as i stated.

    if you wanna know me personally or make friends with me i do have other social media accounts. these accounts will be for my closest friends.

    this isn't the first time i felt this way so yeah, i rather to be told i can't be handled.

    thank you all very much and may God bless you all.
    I'm the one who merged the thread. We don't need multiple threads of you complaining. MJJC is not your personal diary.

    Here's the problem:

    There's reality, which is:

    Staff — usually me in your case, because of timezones — are doing their job of giving notices and warnings when needed, to keep the forum running smoothly and cleanly. You need more of these than other members simply due to your behaviour and attitude. You have been told this many times. These notices and warnings are a normal part of moderation duty. You have also been told this many times.
    Most members read and acknowledge staff interventions and adhere to them without arguing or being rude. You do not. Almost every time you take them as a personal attack and proceed to talk back in threads or PM, be disrespectful, rude, hurtful, and insulting — all of which are a violation of board rules and sometimes result in disciplinary action. This disciplinary action is unfortunate, but also a normal and necessary part of staff duty. There is absolutely nothing enjoyable about our interactions, they are frustrating and stressful and I would be immensely happy if they were not necessary. Because you make them necessary I continue to do my duty as a moderator. Also, at times your posting behaviour and attitude is frustrating for other members, who, justifiably, complain about it and sometimes ask you to stop what you're doing. This is a perfectly normal response to disruption of the forum.

    And then there's your fantasy:

    In which all of these interactions are actually you being "harassed", that you have enemies, that you are hated, that I have a personal vendetta against you, and that I enjoy constantly being sucked into your chest pain-inducing black hole of drama, confrontation and abuse. You feel entitled to act however you please and feel victimised when you are not allowed to do so.

    In order for you to remain here you need to stop living in the fantasy and accept the reality.

    Accomodations are and have been made for your individual circumstances, but no one on this forum is above the rules. MJJC is not a therapy clinic or a daycare centre. It is Gaz's house and you are a guest. In order to be allowed in his house you need to follow the rules. If you cannot always follow the rules you need to accept that you will be given appropriate instructions and notices whenever they are required and that you need to read them and listen to them without arguing or being disrespectful. If you cannot adjust your behaviour and attitude enough to function here then you need to leave. It's that simple.
    Abuse of staff and continual disruption of board operation will not be tolerated.

    Quote Originally Posted by NatureCriminal7896 View Post
    same goes for everyone else please PM don't leave a comment in this thread if you do let one comment and i will or you can PM me. i really want this thread only for me when it come to certain things.
    You chose to make a public thread to complain, so you have to deal with public responses.


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    Default Re: Less on the forum post and visit every now and then. still love MJ but not happy anymore.

    It means go away, leaveeeeee, and take your depressing attitude with you, what you are doing to me is you are ruining the tone of my forum, so please go...do what you keep threatening to do, if not for your own health for the future of this board.

    ***Sent with years of frustration of constantly hearing your name over and over again in and around this forum.
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    Default Re: Less on the forum post and visit every now and then. still love MJ but not happy anymore.

    Quote Originally Posted by NatureCriminal7896 View Post
    Hey Gaz! let's do the conversation thought PM maybe i'm confuse with your comment also it's making the thread clutches

    same goes for everyone else please PM don't leave a comment in this thread if you do let one comment and i will or you can PM me. i really want this thread only for me when it come to certain things.
    No thanks, any PM's you send will be ignored, this is for my own sanity which I hope you will understand.

    btw, you don't get to choose which threads are merged or deleted, my team is resonsible for that.
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    Default Re: Less on the forum post and visit every now and then. still love MJ but not happy anymore.

    Quote Originally Posted by Anna View Post
    I'm the one who merged the thread. We don't need multiple threads of you complaining. MJJC is not your personal diary.

    Here's the problem:

    There's reality, which is:

    Staff — usually me in your case, because of timezones — are doing their job of giving notices and warnings when needed, to keep the forum running smoothly and cleanly. You need more of these than other members simply due to your behaviour and attitude. You have been told this many times. These notices and warnings are a normal part of moderation duty. You have also been told this many times.
    Most members read and acknowledge staff interventions and adhere to them without arguing or being rude. You do not. Almost every time you take them as a personal attack and proceed to talk back in threads or PM, be disrespectful, rude, hurtful, and insulting — all of which are a violation of board rules and sometimes result in disciplinary action. This disciplinary action is unfortunate, but also a normal and necessary part of staff duty. There is absolutely nothing enjoyable about our interactions, they are frustrating and stressful and I would be immensely happy if they were not necessary. Because you make them necessary I continue to do my duty as a moderator. Also, at times your posting behaviour and attitude is frustrating for other members, who, justifiably, complain about it and sometimes ask you to stop what you're doing. This is a perfectly normal response to disruption of the forum.

    And then there's your fantasy:

    In which all of these interactions are actually you being "harassed", that you have enemies, that you are hated, that I have a personal vendetta against you, and that I enjoy constantly being sucked into your chest pain-inducing black hole of drama, confrontation and abuse. You feel entitled to act however you please and feel victimised when you are not allowed to do so.

    In order for you to remain here you need to stop living in the fantasy and accept the reality.

    Accomodations are and have been made for your individual circumstances, but no one on this forum is above the rules. MJJC is not a therapy clinic or a daycare centre. It is Gaz's house and you are a guest. In order to be allowed in his house you need to follow the rules. If you cannot always follow the rules you need to accept that you will be given appropriate instructions and notices whenever they are required and that you need to read them and listen to them without arguing or being disrespectful. If you cannot adjust your behaviour and attitude enough to function here then you need to leave. It's that simple.
    Abuse of staff and continual disruption of board operation will not be tolerated.



    You chose to make a public thread to complain, so you have to deal with public responses.
    Amen Anna...

    Nature or what ever your real name is, you now need to leave, if you don't then based on your posting regarding mental health, therapists and suicide etc it is not healthy for you to be here, so you need to say your goodbye, if you do not then I will be forced to close your account, be aware this is based on all that you have been posting, we do not want blood on our hands and I do not want any of my team to be blamed for anything you might do to yourself, so this is now a decision that I have long been contemplating, either leave this place and go and get help from professionals or I will be forced to remove you.

    I'll await your responce to the action you will be taking before I take mine.
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    Default Re: Less on the forum post and visit every now and then. still love MJ but not happy anymore.

    Quote Originally Posted by NatureCriminal7896 View Post
    Hey Gaz! let's do the conversation thought PM maybe i'm confuse with your comment also it's making the thread clutches

    same goes for everyone else please PM don't leave a comment in this thread if you do let one comment and i will or you can PM me. i really want this thread only for me when it come to certain things.
    You actually can't delete threads on your own. It is up to the Administrator and staff to do that. We can delete anything that you want deleted on your behalf, but if there's a lot to delete, it's a lot of work for us. This is why you need to think VERY carefully about the kinds of threads you want to make, what you say in them, etc., BEFORE you make them, because they ARE in the public domain, for all to see.

    With regard to private messages, that is something that should and MUST be used appropriately between members and especially between members and staff - for example, for casual, friendly conversations; for discussing topics that are running on the forum; or for working out issues that arise with regard to operating and functioning appropriately and efficiently on the forum. No one on MJJC is qualified to speak with you about your personal, private battles with mental health or disability - you must only speak with trusted professionals, face-to-face, where you can obtain real help and real solutions. Staff and other MJJC members are just casual internet acquaintances at best, who may be able to empathise with your situation and help you feel as though you are not alone, but none of us should be putting ourselves in a position where we are made to feel responsible for how you are feeling, or for what you are doing in your life. It is unfair of you and unrealistic to bestow that level of responsibility on the shoulders of forum/social media acquaintances.

    MJJC is here as a fan club to honour Michael Jackson and his legacy; to help his fans join together socially and discuss all things Michael. It is meant to be light and fun - a place of escape, where kindred spirits can share their love of one man. Our aim is to stay true to that philosophy; to NOT allow members to use the site as their own personal diary and sounding board; and to NOT allow individuals to try to put themselves and their needs above that of others, or above our core business.

    Hopefully you understand the awkward position that you place staff and members in, when you make threads like this and behave this way in the threads and this is why we are appealing to you to please consider your position, going forward. It is our fervent hope that you remain well and most of all, happy. Please take the right steps for yourself, to achieve this wellness and happiness and speak with people in your life who can help you on that path.

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