how can you do this.how can you close this part of the forum.i just realized i need this so bad.i dont want talk to individual people in private IM i need this forum because i need read others who are struggle like me at this time.this is so bad omg i cant cope. why do you get to decide when its time for every one to move on now.it only been 5 months.that is so early, just like it happened yesterday.if this was 5 years i would say ok then but 5 months i have only just began mourning real bad.i dont want real counseling i need these people please please it all i have
I agree with you Jen we all have to be strong, but this thread is needed for many here. This forum is going to lose alot of people!! It's better for people to express their grief here, than nowhere at all.
I agree with you on this! There is not a set time i personally dont feel that u need professional help!!
Sometimes i have bad days and need to just come in hear and read other peoples thoughts and messages! I think 5 months is not enough time to expect people to just stop opening up! Its a shame
How can you close this? This is one of the most active forums on the board and I strongly believe that it gives great comfort to a lot of people here. There are many people who probably read this forum every day but don't post. It helps them to cope with their grief by reading others who are going through the same thing.
I understand that you feel you need to get on with your life now, but I don't see where the problem in leaving this forum open comes in. Many people here, including myself, are still in the beginning of the grieving process. And not long after This Is it has come out, it has opened a lot of old wounds for many of us, and I feel this is the time we need this forum more than ever.
Eventually most of us will get better in dealing with Michael's death, but after only a couple of months, I honestly don't believe this forum should be closed. It's helping many people deal with their pain and if that's taken away from them, I am certain some people are going to fall hard and not know how else to deal with their grief so will do something horrible to themselves.
If you want to move on with your life then that's great and I'm glad you aren't struggling much anymore. But for a lot of us, this forum is really important and I truly believe it should be kept open.
You all make good points, and I can definitely see your reasoning but there is a good reason to stop activity in this part of MJJC. Please bear with me as I think it's quite difficult to explain.
People take suicide and depression different ways. Some prefer to talk it over with good friends, people they can rely on and they know will support them. MJJC still does all of that. Thats what
this thread is for (and I noticed that some of you have posted there). That thread pretty much lists everyone who will talk to anyone needing help, as long as the one needing is willing to talk. If you have a problem and you are feeling low, just check that thread out. You don't need a big group discussion (which also runs the risk of turning sour, I've seen this a few times). The people there offered themselves to help you through the bad times, no matter how bad, so take their help. You need to remember they are completely trained - we aren't. There are certain things they learn while at the job that we don't, thats the truth.
The more important factor into closing this section is its reliability. Some of the people who post here and around MJJC are rock bottom. Really,
really low. They post a thread which puts them in good spirits, which is of course a good thing. But next time they are in a similar position (which hopefully they won't be) they will come here again because they know it will bring a temporary faith-boost. They may deny a true face-to-face professional to listen to friends here, who can only say so much. Local help centers can work with you over a long period of time to solve problems. Who knows what might happen to members here? Something taken as a joke to some may cause offense to others, you have to play it safe. We can't run the risk of having more losses-of-life (even if there are more of them who we save) simply because they prefered to talk here then a true professional.
If they need uis to give them advice as to what to do, great, there is the thread I posted earlier. But professional advice must come before friendly suggestions.
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