Aww Michelle *hugs*
I understand the newer members are feeling guilty for not joining earlier, I think if I had joined after June I'd feel guilty too! But what the problem is, they shouldn't need to feel so! At least not for the reason that older members make them feel belittled or something!
I try my best to treat everyone the same no matter what the join date is because I know there is many fans, probably even most of the fans who joined after June, who have been fan for many years and just didn't join any forum earlier. In total honestly the join date doesn't matter. It shows those who stood up for Michael during the trial and kept this forum going, but after that it doesn't mean anything.
I feel so bad that some new members feel alienated, it shouldn't be so I'm doing my best to make everyone feel welcome and TOGETHER we CAN do it. We can make MJJC a better place!
May I steal this idea from another thread we had here a while ago, don't remember who posted this there...
Heal the MJJC
Make it a better place
For you and for me and the entire fan community
There are people hurting
If you care enough for the living
Make a better place for
You and for me.
Thank you for your kind post. As I said, I FEEl like the guilt is being pushed back at me. Emotions are wrong a lot of times and I know that nobody means to make us newbies feel unwelcomed or belittled or to throw guilt back in our faces. I know that. It just FEELS like it because I can't get over my guilt and when the subject of join dates come up, my guilt comes right smack in my face again. Believe me, I wish all I had to be guilty of is not joining a Michael forum before he passed. It's the doubting of his innocence when I heard he was charged again that is really getting to me, even though I leaned toward believing he was innocent, the fact I doubted sometimes really bothers me.
Most of the new people don't have that problem. They just have the guilt of not being here before Michael passed. I envy them for that being the only thing. I feel alienated because of my guilt. I haven't seen anyone that I talked to by pm have this guilt I have. So I feel alienated because of that alone. Join dates don't have to come up in order for me to feel alienated. My guilt alone alienates me.