im not sure what is wrong with me?- im 31 years girl still dealing with a death of
someone special( i never mete before)
it all started 4 days before michael died
( ever since then)
everytime i go to sleep- i get nightmares
i think it has something to do with the nightmares i have?
i go to sleep feel just normail ( i sleep for about 5-6 hours) each night
i start have nightmares
but i wake up feel like im on fire( or something)
hafe of my body feels hot and the other side feel cold
i had this feeling for over a month now
my qussion is
do i see a doctor and tell him or her about it?
or do i try something like drinking mint tea or just listen to michael's music before i go to sleep
Hey,
I think you should try to give yourself some rest from grieving, every day. It'll take its time until you can honestly say again "I'm happy with life", as it is always like this, when someone you love dies. But you have to give yourself the chance to feel good at times, even tough you're still grieving, and you have to find out how.
For me, the best distraction is meeting friends & family or being at work because then I have to think about something else, I have to think about what's going on in the lifes of my friends & family, get myself interested in other things, at least for a while, so that we can do something together or I have to think about how to do my job the best way.
Of course, when you're grieving, you don't at all feel like thinking about something else or going out to meet people, but I force myself to do so and in the end I feel it was right, because then my mind and body can rest for a while from grieving, so that it has enough strength to not break under the load being sad.
If there is some music or some videos/ speeches/ interviews of Michael you can take comfort in, then listen to it or watch the videos but avoid the music and videos that make you more sad. I hope that there are some songs of Michael which make you feel better in this situation, when you listen to them.
I think that your body reacts on your mind when you feel like half of your body is hot and half of it is cold. I don't think that there is a physical reason for you feeling like this, but of course it's safer if you go to a doctor. The most important thing is that you don't let it be like this for longer, for grieving or sadness can make you physically ill, if you don't rest your mind for a while every day.
If you find a way to disctract yourself from being sad for a while each day, I think your nightmares will go away after a while, too.
Just don't forget to care for yourself. Nobody who's died wants the people who loved him to give themselves up for the grieving.
Don't forget, you're not alone. Best of luck.
