I feel like crying again..

[Rockin.]

So, youtube haters are getting to me. Since I became hooked on Michael years and years ago I've defended him (like we all probably have) to randomers on the internet (and in person) who say disgusting things about Michael when they know nothing about him. The things people say got me angry and upset then, because of how unfairly they were judging him.

Since Michael was taken from us I have continued to defend him to the idiots on youtube, facebook etc. and in person (to my uncle - who is quite a scary man that nobody really stands up to).

In some cases I post the internet haters detailed messages. Sometimes they reply saying they haven't bothered to read what I wrote and carry on saying the disgusting comments. Some answer asking me further questions which I do my best to answer.

I'm tired. I really would like to change people's minds but if they aren't even going to read it whats the point. I feel that EVERYONE should know what we know. Its really difficult to take the fact that people belive such false things, and that even some of my best friends think SO differently to me about Michael. I feel sorry for them that they will never know the truth and if they do realise they were wrong in the future I'm sure they will regret what they have said, but it will be too late. Its too late now really. Michael was hurt so much in life and he isn't here to see the new love people are showing him, but I hope he is up there and can feel it.

Anyway, I'm blabbing now. I want to ask, how do you deal with the haters..on the internet/in person? Do you think I should even bother to send them anything? Or just ignore it?

If I ignore it and they get no response I feel like they'll feel they were right, and other impressionable people reading the comments will believe them.

Please tell me what you do and importantly for me - how you rationalise it in your mind?

I've had enough of living in a world with people who think so badly and wrongly of Michael, it upsets me deeply.

 

[man.in.the.mirror]

it,s a hard one to answer,i get so angry when i read comments like these,but i think sometimes we have to rise above it like mj did,i think the more we put our point accross,then these haters know there getting to you,which is what they want,even if you give them the facts they are not going to listen,because they believe in only what they want to believe in,you have to feel sorry for them in the end,because they will never have the chance to get to know mj like we the fans did,

 

[URNotAlone1]

Well the people who want to be so close minded they don't even listen to you, I deal with that by remembering they aren't worth all the heartache they try to inflict anyways.

 

[Rockin.]

Thanks, you're both right. Ive just seen the most disgusting comment I've ever seen. I won't repeat it here. Its on the video of the Billie Jean performance where he first unleashes the moonwalk. Its blatently from an attention seeker, because when I click the profile there are comments from people defending not only MJ but random things like anime, and even angry replies about something to do with 9/11. This person is obviously an attention seeker. Why do people get off on saying things that hurt other people? Baffles me. I really find it hard to ignore it. I'm always kinda scared of finding hateful comments when I click a video on youtube.

 

[NYC_Chris]

I understand your frustration and I think I can help...Many many years ago I was very involved in animal rights...and back then nobody had heard of it, and ridiculed it and laughed at me when I spoke about it. I used to be like you and try so hard to defend what I knew and got very upset and toungue tied and felt like crying. But as the years went by I realized better how to deal with people..The first thing is to know your facts inside and out before you start arguing with people...but not on everything under the sun, just a few facts. Things that you know are absolutely the truth. Just simply state the truth. Dont get sucked into arguing about eveything they bring up, stick to the things you are sure of and just hold steady. For example, Michael was in the Guiness Book of World Records for giving to charity, or the Settlement Agreement clearly states that Michael Jackson did not agree to settle, it was only the insurance company. Have a link ready to post, or tell them you will email to them. Also remember you dont have to answer their questions. Stay calm and always turn back to the basic facts the you know and say them again. Politicians do this all the time when they are being barraged by reporters. Most times they dont even answer the question or comment directly, they just repeat what they know. You need to learn how to do this...Just keep repeating what you know and stay calm and confident.

The other thing to always remember is that it takes 7 times for someone to hear something to open their minds to it and to even believe it is true...So you may be the first time a hatter has heard what you are saying, so there is really nothing you can do...Even if you talk till your blue in the face you will never change their mind. It will take that person 7 more encouters about the same issue until they open up. So relax and feel good that you are the 1st or 3rd or even 6th person. You did you duty now move on, theres in nothing more you can do.

Most of all know your facts by heart and use any kind of reference, a quote, statistic, links, articles, etc. and do not engage in any kind of hateful distraction they throw at you just smile and dismiss it as childish. Also, dont be afraid to be smug and condescending too..it can be a great tool to make your haters fume and it so much fun!!...heheheh but mostly be professional, speak in proper English and do not curse, use slang, or show any emotion...Good luck and have fun!!! Michael would want that.

 

[krism]

how do i handle the haters? i listen to them, then ignore them. sometimes i try to get them to see rationale but hate is a powerful thing. probably one of the most powerful of all things on the planet but theres something greater - love understanding and tolerance and in the face of that hate doesnt stand a chance.

if you feel drained battling the hate, ignore it. they mostly only do it for attention anyway so by paying them attention its only emboldening them.