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Streetwalker13

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The other day, I came home from a long day of classes to eat dinner and my mom and little bro were home already. I was so exhausted from the day, that I just wanted to wind down. So surfing through TV channels, I found that Fuse was airing Michael Jackson videos when I got home :D It made me happy and at first just joking I blurted out "How come no one put it here?" Knowing people who weren't paying attention but it made my day. Then my mom was on the phone with my aunt as I was eating when she goes to tell my aunt, "Oh she just got home and is eating and watching Michael Jackson videos on TV." To which I could hear my aunt on the phone say, "Why?" And my mom replies, "Because they think that he was such a great dancer or something."
This pissed me off as I sent her a glare since she all the sudden turned on me and decided to go on about how he was just doing dance steps he did as a kid and nothing changed. Then as I finished eating, my dad (whom I either can't stand or can just tolerate) came home and started a discuss in the kitchen about why we were watching the videos.
Then as I approached the kitchen my brother goes "Because she came home and asked "how come no one is watching this. It's like no one cares, anymore about Michael Jackson" His direct words which I wanted to slap him over.
It made my heart break into a million pieces on the floor but I kept it inside as I walked into the kitchen. Then my parents didn't object, they just walked away.
And now I don't know what to do since everyone wants me to be over him since I didn't "know him" personally. But it's easier said than done. I'm just tired of hearing this from my family who I feel like they've totally gone the other way on me about him. And it just makes things worse since I want them to be supportive but it's like, that's gone now too.

Sorry to sound whiney or anything. I just need to let it out, it's been bugging me and I can't go to them about this, they'd brush it off.
 
Hey honey... just a quick message so you know someone has read this, and I will rpely properly... but my dinner is burning!!! ~Ill be back in a few minutes for you! could you tell me how old you are/where you live etc so I can know a bit more about the situation. You dont have to tell me if its too personal of course!
 
Sorry to hear that -- "parents just don't understand" sometimes! :p

When I was a teenager my parents always called me "obsessed" and "fixated" on MJ and other music artists I like, and they couldn't understand the level of passion and the way the music touched my soul. I figure, their loss -- I've experienced something deep and am not sorry about that!

I haven't lived at home since age 18, but I know from the experiences of some of my friends that it can be really stressful living with your parents as an adult. I'm sure it's not fun to hear comments about yourself like your mom was saying to your aunt.

I wonder if your family wants you to "get over" Michael so they can see you happy again. I'm sure they care about you and want you to be happy, but maybe their methods aren't the most productive for someone who is still grieving.

I hope it gets better, and feel free to vent here all you want if it helps. I'll listen! :)
 
I understand you so much.My mother wants to take to psychiatrist.She said something very rude to me and i'll never going to forgive her.She said - You are going crazy watching this dead man all day...you need help.oOOOh i felt so bad... my soul was screaming....
 
It's hard too...especially being so close to Gary and sometimes just wanting to go there but my car is in such bad shape, I don't know if I could get there. I just want to escape but can't sometimes
 
Streetwalker13 said:
The other day, I came home from a long day of classes to eat dinner and my mom and little bro were home already. I was so exhausted from the day, that I just wanted to wind down. So surfing through TV channels, I found that Fuse was airing Michael Jackson videos when I got home :D It made me happy and at first just joking I blurted out "How come no one put it here?" Knowing people who weren't paying attention but it made my day. Then my mom was on the phone with my aunt as I was eating when she goes to tell my aunt, "Oh she just got home and is eating and watching Michael Jackson videos on TV." To which I could hear my aunt on the phone say, "Why?" And my mom replies, "Because they think that he was such a great dancer or something."
This pissed me off as I sent her a glare since she all the sudden turned on me and decided to go on about how he was just doing dance steps he did as a kid and nothing changed. Then as I finished eating, my dad (whom I either can't stand or can just tolerate) came home and started a discuss in the kitchen about why we were watching the videos.
Then as I approached the kitchen my brother goes "Because she came home and asked "how come no one is watching this. It's like no one cares, anymore about Michael Jackson" His direct words which I wanted to slap him over.
It made my heart break into a million pieces on the floor but I kept it inside as I walked into the kitchen. Then my parents didn't object, they just walked away.
And now I don't know what to do since everyone wants me to be over him since I didn't "know him" personally. But it's easier said than done. I'm just tired of hearing this from my family who I feel like they've totally gone the other way on me about him. And it just makes things worse since I want them to be supportive but it's like, that's gone now too.

Sorry to sound whiney or anything. I just need to let it out, it's been bugging me and I can't go to them about this, they'd brush it off.
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Thanks for letting us know. You dont need to apologise for anything, this is the perfect place to post this :)

Is there really anything your parents can do? Dont they realise its your choice of who you look up to and who's music you prefer? Why would they want to stop you from listening to Michael? Thats like saying that once someone dies, you should completely forget about them, which is totally wrong. Its like saying that you shouldnt listen to Elvis or the Beatles just because they arent around, but its obvious they still have an impact on music. Its defnitely not your fault, they are being a bit ignorant in the things they say about him.

Listen to Michael all you want, alone if you can. Its only music, and its the music you like. In their eyes, whats so wrong about that?

If you want to talk about anything else, just PM me :heart:
 
well IMHO..sometimes parents just dont understand...when I was 16 adn had Michael all over my walls..my parents were like why do you have HIM on your walls..I tried to explain to them ..in my own way of course...I would play my music in my room..my mom would say turn that down...I am now 42 and still love more than ever....I am still having trouble letting go as most on here...However I NOW have a 16 year old daughter...she likes alot of those boy bands...like Boys like Girls..Aiden and many more...I DO understand her passion for her music...I even take her to concerts as a chaperon so I k know she is safe...I have to say I do were earplugs though..:lmao:....not as young as I use to be...but anyway....maybe you can POLITELY speak to your parents on the way that you feel since Michael passed away..maybe they just might understand.
 
My dad doesn't, my mom understands but she wants me to stop being sad about him.
 
i think alot of parents are out of touch with some things, i know i am but then again even though i'm a parent of a 13 yr old and a 10 yr old i'm seen as the odd one that no one understands... thats probably because i am slightly odd i suppose but i just feel the people that think like that ...well they are the ones with the problems cos i sure as hell ain't.
you listen to who you want because after all its your choice not theirs.
 
I think a lot of us have had an experience where somone has made us feel bad or strange or like we should be embarassed. I know whenever i bring MJ up i hear groans or see eyes rolling because they dont want to listen to what i have to say. My dad doesnt understand either but my mum does, a little. He has said some really nasty cruel things and i was so mad, but he's my dad and i know he does love me and remember that your dad loves you too. Maybe you should tell them how it made you feel :(

Theres an incredible bond between MJ and us fans that a lot a lot of people dont understand and wont understand. Thats why a lot of us come here to talk to each other I know sometimes i just need to escape from the negativity for a while.
Remember we're all here for you.
Smile :) xoxo
 
No one's said much lately...I find it's harder to bring up things with them since it's like they just don't want to listen. It's like I'm bleeding on the inside yet no one can tell and there's no one there to get it
 
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