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I lost my best friend...

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I need to share this with somebody because I feel so sick and angry.

I NEED TO TELL THIS TO SOMEONE!

My best friend was boy named Tony.
We used to play and stay with eachother whole day... everyday.We slept in eachother houses.
We were like brothers... even more.
That was years and years..He wanted to live in our house... we were unbreakable together.
There were days when we talked for hours and hours...Then he moved to another city.
I was waiting whole year when he will comeback and we will be together again.. playing and talking...
He waited for that too.We were so exited every year when we will meet again.
He was my closest friend ever and felt him like a family.
When years passed something happened between us.He was becaming a selfish person.He used to lie to me a lot of times.
Then with no reason he stopped contact with me.We didn't meet the day he come to the city.He didn't call this time. Soon i heard he found new "friends".Some rich boys who just think about expensive cars and phones.The line was cut when he was walking with his new friends and said Hi to him but he didn't answered.He just looked at me and he passed.
Like he don't know who I was... I was so shocked and saddened.I'm very good person and for 14 years I don't think I've done something like this.So... we just stopped being friends.People were staring at us... when we were pretending we don't know eachother.His father and my father were sad too because... we were so close... he was more than a brother to me and I was to him.I understand I'm not a person like his new friends but I know he isn't that kind of person too.He is doing it just to demonstrate how big he is and what he can buy and.... it's disgusting.I don't know why that happened. We were so close and we even made a pact that we were going to stay best friends forever.It's sad...really... I was having this hope that maybe we will be friends again sometime in the future.It was so hard to be invincible for a person you know so good and you cared about...So today i met him.The hope died.He was different person now.My mother went to their house to talk with his aunt and i went with her.We sat in one room.And in one hour we didn't say a word.I felt SICK.So sick when i remember all the moments when we were little... all the memories...I don't know what to do now.Maybe this is better... maybe I'm better without him.THE THING that makes me so sick is the fact 2 years ago we were inseparably together and i can't believe i lost my best friend. ;( Sorry if my story bored you but this is how I feel now and i just want to share this with someone because i feel really BAD.... again sorry if my story bored you to death.
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Oh honey, this must feel horrible!

I think i read in another forum that you are 14 is this right?
 
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I'm sure he doesn't hate you. I guess it's hard to stay close as you were with there being such a great distance. I hope you can sort something out. Its sad to lose a really close friend, you'd think they'd always been there. But people change :( I had a best friend who went off and just stopped talking with me.
 
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oh...I am sorry this has happened to you.....maybe you could try writing him letters???.....It is very difficult when you lose a very close friend to someone else...I went through the same thing...I had a very close freind as a child and then she moved away and she would come visit in the summer...then one summer she didnt come and visit and I never heard from her again....even though noone can replace your very good friend....You should try and make a new friend that makes you feel as good as he did...I hope this helps..:smile:
 
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Ok so the whole story is not updated here/ I made a mistake and i posted just the beggining.Thanks everybody for the answers.
 
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Em_Mj said:
I'm sure he doesn't hate you. I guess it's hard to stay close as you were with there being such a great distance. I hope you can sort something out. Its sad to lose a really close friend, you'd think they'd always been there. But people change :( I had a best friend who went off and just stopped talking with me.
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The same thing happened.He just stopped talking to me... :(
 
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I am so sorry to hear this and I can imagine how you feel.

When I still was at school I had a best friend for many, many years. We shared everything, our numerous ups and downs we went through as a teenager, we trusted each other, we talked about everything. Until something changed. By chance I found out that she deceived me. Secretly she met with boys I tried to date, behind my back she talked bad about me even in front of my parents (my parents only told me later about this, they didn't want to hurt me back then :unsure:), she always wanted me to help her in school but wouldn't want to do the same for me. When I found this all out it really, really hurt. I could not understand what had happened. I felt so used and betrayed. After much thought and heartache I decided to give up our friendship completely because I simply could not trust her again. But I learned from this experience.

So yes, I can understand your feelings so well. People change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.

I wish you someone who will be there for you no matter what. I am sure that you will find this someone! :better:
 
oh i hope you are okay. losing your best friend must be horrible. if you ever feel like you want to chat, please pm me. we are here to support you through this. take care.
 
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Samtkaninchen said:
I am so sorry to hear this and I can imagine how you feel.

When I still was at school I had a best friend for many, many years. We shared everything, our numerous ups and downs we went through as a teenager, we trusted each other, we talked about everything. Until something changed. By chance I found out that she deceived me. Secretly she met with boys I tried to date, behind my back she talked bad about me even in front of my parents (my parents only told me later about this, they didn't want to hurt me back then :unsure:), she always wanted me to help her in school but wouldn't want to do the same for me. When I found this all out it really, really hurt. I could not understand what had happened. I felt so used and betrayed. After much thought and heartache I decided to give up our friendship completely because I simply could not trust her again. But I learned from this experience.

So yes, I can understand your feelings so well. People change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.

I wish you someone who will be there for you no matter what. I am sure that you will find this someone! :better:
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You don't know how better i feel now.This is how I feel too - used and betrayed.Being so mean to me... Watching me like we've never met... This is very bad... i have friends yes who are there for me but this person was with me everyday for years and it's really hard.Thanks for your support.I know now i don't want to talk to him anymore.He is another Tony i don't even know now...
 
Jenny_MJforever said:
oh i hope you are okay. losing your best friend must be horrible. if you ever feel like you want to chat, please pm me. we are here to support you through this. take care.
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Thanks so much for the support.It's so good to know there is somebody who will listen and talk with you when you share your emotions... Thanks to everybody... It's 2o clock in the night here... but i don't think I can sleep.:p
 
TheDangerousFan said:
I need to share this with somebody because I feel so sick and angry.

I NEED TO TELL THIS TO SOMEONE!

My best friend was boy named Tony.
We used to play and stay with eachother whole day... everyday.We slept in eachother houses.
We were like brothers... even more.
That was years and years..He wanted to live in our house... we were unbreakable together.
There were days when we talked for hours and hours...Then he moved to another city.
I was waiting whole year when he will comeback and we will be together again.. playing and talking...
He waited for that too.We were so exited every year when we will meet again.
He was my closest friend ever and felt him like a family.
When years passed something happened between us.He was becaming a selfish person.He used to lie to me a lot of times.
Then with no reason he stopped contact with me.We didn't meet the day he come to the city.He didn't call this time. Soon i heard he found new "friends".Some rich boys who just think about expensive cars and phones.The line was cut when he was walking with his new friends and said Hi to him but he didn't answered.He just looked at me and he passed.
Like he don't know who I was... I was so shocked and saddened.I'm very good person and for 14 years I don't think I've done something like this.So... we just stopped being friends.People were staring at us... when we were pretending we don't know eachother.His father and my father were sad too because... we were so close... he was more than a brother to me and I was to him.I understand I'm not a person like his new friends but I know he isn't that kind of person too.He is doing it just to demonstrate how big he is and what he can buy and.... it's disgusting.I don't know why that happened. We were so close and we even made a pact that we were going to stay best friends forever.It's sad...really... I was having this hope that maybe we will be friends again sometime in the future.It was so hard to be invincible for a person you know so good and you cared about...So today i met him.The hope died.He was different person now.My mother went to their house to talk with his aunt and i went with her.We sat in one room.And in one hour we didn't say a word.I felt SICK.So sick when i remember all the moments when we were little... all the memories...I don't know what to do now.Maybe this is better... maybe I'm better without him.THE THING that makes me so sick is the fact 2 years ago we were inseparably together and i can't believe i lost my best friend. ;( Sorry if my story bored you but this is how I feel now and i just want to share this with someone because i feel really BAD.... again sorry if my story bored you to death.
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Hey. Thanks for sharing your story. You don't need to apologise to us, we will read and help you with anything.

I was in the same position. I was best friends with my friend Max since the first day of school. I mean the very first day. And we would go round each others houses, visit places... everything. When it was time to go to highschool however things changed. Yes we both go to the same school but he has met a new group of friends. It really is depressing because I miss the good times we used to have.

But its not over, don't worry. Next time you see him, strike up a conversation. About anything, but preferably not the past as that may make him think that you havent changed much since then. You want to show him how you have both matured and can be buds, right?

So yes, talk to him. Dont pressure him by talking every opportunity you get. A simple "Hey, hows it going these days?" should get a response. By doing this you are letting him know that you acknowledge the past and what happened but you are ready to start talking about the nitty-gritty, real life. You are growing up :)

Change is totally natural with friendships. It is very difficult when your best friend meets someone different, trust me I know. Do you have any other new friends? Try and give them some attention too. Dont worry, they wont be your friends, following you around for the rest of your life (unless you want them to of course :p).

There is always the future. I cant count how many times my dad has had 'old friends from school' round to visit our house. You will bump into your friend in the future and he will recognise you for all the great times, its our natural way of remembering people we have seen before.

So, just take each day as it comes, and dont worry about a thing. Eventually you will see your friend like you did before. Dont rush it, let it come naturally and you will feel so relieved having your good friend back ;)

If you need to talk to me about anything, Just PM me ok? ;)

:heart:

EDIT: Id like to add, life is full of unpredictable moments. Losing someone close to you (even if it is temporarily) is one of the first. Once you have this sorted out (and you will do, soon) you can relax and enjoy your state of mind :)
 
tomthedude said:
Hey. Thanks for sharing your story. You don't need to apologise to us, we will read and help you with anything.

I was in the same position. I was best friends with my friend Max since the first day of school. I mean the very first day. And we would go round each others houses, visit places... everything. When it was time to go to highschool however things changed. Yes we both go to the same school but he has met a new group of friends. It really is depressing because I miss the good times we used to have.

But its not over, don't worry. Next time you see him, strike up a conversation. About anything, but preferably not the past as that may make him think that you havent changed much since then. You want to show him how you have both matured and can be buds, right?

So yes, talk to him. Dont pressure him by talking every opportunity you get. A simple "Hey, hows it going these days?" should get a response. By doing this you are letting him know that you acknowledge the past and what happened but you are ready to start talking about the nitty-gritty, real life. You are growing up :)

Change is totally natural with friendships. It is very difficult when your best friend meets someone different, trust me I know. Do you have any other new friends? Try and give them some attention too. Dont worry, they wont be your friends, following you around for the rest of your life (unless you want them to of course :p).

There is always the future. I cant count how many times my dad has had 'old friends from school' round to visit our house. You will bump into your friend in the future and he will recognise you for all the great times, its our natural way of remembering people we have seen before.

So, just take each day as it comes, and dont worry about a thing. Eventually you will see your friend like you did before. Dont rush it, let it come naturally and you will feel so relieved having your good friend back ;)

If you need to talk to me about anything, Just PM me ok? ;)

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Thank you so much for this response.
The truth is that i have tried talking to him... he is just not the same person... i sense this selfishness in him... His new friends also stopped talking to him after a year and they were calling him a parasite.And i think that is what he is.He used my friendship and when he realized he can be in such rich company he just stopped talking to me for no reason.I think he was feeling guilt and he never wanted to talk to me because he knew i know what person he is becaming.... :( Thanks again for the amazing reply.You are right almost about everything... you just have to know... i grow up too but i changed in different way. I can't use my friends like that.. i can't betray my friends like that... and i think we are both VERY different now...
 
TheDangerousFan said:
Thank you so much for this response.
The truth is that i have tried talking to him... he is just not the same person... i sense this selfishness in him... His new friends also stopped talking to him after a year and they were calling him a parasite.And i think that is what he is.He used my friendship and when he realized he can be in such rich company he just stopped talking to me for no reason.I think he was feeling guilt and he never wanted to talk to me because he knew i know what person he is becaming.... :( Thanks again for the amazing reply.You are right almost about everything... you just have to know... i grow up too but i changed in different way. I can't use my friends like that.. i can't betray my friends like that... and i think we are both VERY different now...
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If you think that then maybe it would be best to just move on? I know it sounds difficult at first but you said it yourself how different you two have become.

No problem, any time. :heart:
 
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