PurdyYungThang84
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Well, everyone's situation is different so there's really no "one size fits all" answer or methodology lol. But for me personally, I've made the conscious decision to not discuss Michael (in-depth) with anyone but other fans. I decided this because I was tired of feeling anxious about how new people in my life (new friends or love interests) would take it, or if they'd understand. I've also had a few "friends" that I was really cool with for several months, start to act weird around me and even took it to the extent of making fun of me behind my back with others in our workplace; all because I wanted to share this valuable part of myself with people that I thought I could trust in the name of strengthening our friendship. I'm not a high schooler mind you lol, and I have ZERO tolerance for teasing or giggling and pointing at people or any immature garbage of the sort. I'm a grown a-- woman now, and I didn't do/take that when I WAS in high school lol, certainly not gonna tolerate it now.
My current bf is that last one that I told, I gave him the rough overview version tho lol, and I only told him because we started getting serious and I didn't want uncomfortable questions to start popping up about some of the items on display in my bedroom lol. I still haven't told him about everything and I don't think I plan to lol, he just knows that I'm a big fan and most of my friends are fans too. I once tried to talk to him about how deep of a fan I am and the conversation got very awkward. He wasn't mean about it, but he didn't understand it and though it wasn't said outright, he let on that he thought that I was wasting my time and energy for a stupid reason. The conversation got very uncomfortable for me and my feelings were more hurt by his reaction than I showed. He has since softened to my fan-ness lol, I think he sees that I'm still the same girl he fell in love with and that I'm not "crazy" (well everyone is crazy, but I'm you're normal brand of crazy lol), but I still won't talk about Michael unless he brings it up, and if it's brought up, it's about music/music business stuff in general. I told myself that that would be the last time I opened up when it came to Michael. Michael would be just for me.
All that said, I don't want what I've said to persuade you against what you personally may/may not be feeling. If you feel it's important to you to be completely transparent and forthcoming about all aspects of your life in regards to MJ and your romantic life, then I salute you lol, your spirit is heartier than mine these days lol. If you decide to tell him, you've got 1:4 odds. Your guy will either be totally understanding and supportive, be curious about it and possibly become a fan too, not get it but shrug it off as just being another part of you, or lastly not understand/outright dislike it and be a prick about it. Any of the four are possible realistic reactions. The outcome that you think is the most likely depends on your guy's personality.
I would actually really love to be open about it and share this precious piece of me with everyone in my life. But now, how people may or may not receive it just isn't worth the hassle anymore. If I'm asked about MJ, I'll answer, but my answers are purposefully very brief, unemotional and general; I don't volunteer that part of myself out anymore. Should you decide to tell him, good luck and I hope that he's warm and understanding about it. :flowers:
It's comforting to hear that other fans have this conflict as well 
