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,,,,,,,from Supporting Michael and continuing to take a positive, healthy and active role in the Fan Community if/when he takes a New Bride?

Please answer honestly, this thread should not be about judging one another but understanding eachother and openness.

I have been a fan since the 70's. I am now in my 40's, married and have kids. I have been through many stages of fandom.

Please participate in this thread.
 
I see you are reading this. I know you have something important to add? Go, ahead. No one will bite ya'.
 
Ditto.. If he gets married and is happy , then I wish him the very best. He deserves to be happy!!:)
 
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Not in the slightest. If he gets married again I can only hope he'd be really happy and if mike is happy i'm happy. I don't understand how him having a new wife would make people unsupportive.

Thank you and MJBabe21 for responding. I knew it wouldn't be easy for many fans to read this question and really open up and give their honest reply.

I am looking forward to other reponses and replies as well. Please keep them coming. We are here for everyone and ALL VIEWS.
 
No, it would not change anything really if he would get married again or would have a girlfriend. I just want Michael to be happy. That's all. :) Maybe in my "day dreams" I'd be like "Damn...I wish that was me!" :lol: , but in the end what counts is that Michael is happy and has found someone who's right for him. :) And I mean, I don't even KNOW him, so....it would be a bit silly to act all hurt about him loving someone other than yourself when he has never even MET me, don't you think?! :lol: :lol:
 
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I guess the women can get jealous, but the men would probably support him more.. Cuz right now he really needs to show which team he is supporting and there are alot more supporters to the hetero community than the gay community. So, if he would get a bride it would just show that he is a normal man.. and I certainly a man :D woudnt stop supporting him.. Thats my view of it..
 
No, it would not change anything really if he would get married again or would have a girlfriend. I just want Michael to be happy. That's all. :) Maybe in my "day dreams" I'd be like "Damn...I wish that was me!" :lol: , but in the end what counts is that Michael is happy and has found someone who's right for him. :) And I mean, I don't even KNOW him, so....it would be a bit silly to act all hurt about him loving someone other than yourself when he has never even MET me, don't you think?! :lol: :lol:

Summer, Thanks a bunch for your reply, but to answer your question, no, I don't feel it would be silly to feel all hurt if he was to get married again. The fact that you said you wouldn't shows your ability to balance fantasy from reality and to look at the situation unselfishly and for the better of Michael and his needs as well as happiness. But some fans may currently be in the ''Fantasy" stage with their fandom and it may be a bit difficult for them to be open to seeing Michael with anyone other than the image of themselves that they have created in their own minds as it applies to Michael.
 
I guess the women can get jealous, but the men would probably support him more.. Cuz right now he really needs to show which team he is supporting and there are alot more supporters to the hetero community than the gay community. So, if he would get a bride it would just show that he is a normal man.. and I certainly a man :D woudnt stop supporting him.. Thats my view of it..



Great to see a guy coming in and giving his opinion on this subject. And I too agree with you
aLOS, Michael needs to show more of his hetero side. Maybe we will get to see that soon.
 
I would actually love to see it. I want to see him with someone he is truly in love with and it being mutual. When I look back and see the photos of him with Lisa Presley (did she not take his last name?) when they first married, he just looks so full of light and life and love. I'd love to see that again (though I only saw it years later after the fact..lol). Plus I think it would help any fan who is in that fantasy of saving themselves for him or what not...whether consciously or not. Nobody should have to live their lives in a fantasy. If him getting married will help some fans to life their lives for themselves instead of for him, then I think that could only help them. (I really hope I don't offend anyone by saying this)
 
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Ape your comments were very well and eloquently put. I do hope many will read what you have posted. I do believe many female fans (especially), are in a fantasy and "saving" themselves for Michael. It is easy to pick up on when you yourself have lived through it (many moons ago, lol). It is those fans of whom I would love to reach the most with this thread.

I do hope more will respond. We are here for you, no matter what you tell us, we won't judge or ridicule.
 
Ditto.. If he gets married and is happy , then I wish him the very best. He deserves to be happy!!:)
Right! I guess I got kinda protective over him, hence why I learned to hate lisa and debbie when I did.. you know? You ponder if these women really have the best intentions for him and wonder if they will do HIM some good. In the end, both answers were no. A big fat no.

So yeah .. if she is sincere, really loves the guy and wants to teach him love and walk life's path with him, the path that they have to share together, and if she makes him feel happy..like he can dance on the stars above, then I say I am 100% for her and him. No I would not disown him (everrr) because I understand his need for companionship and YES I will forever support his fan's community..we have him in common..with love :yes:
 
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I don't want to offend anyone, but I do think it would be silly to feel jealous or upset if Michael got married again. Most fans have not even met Michael, and we don't know him on a personal level at all. Like Ape mentioned, Michael looks truly happy in a lot of pictures of he and Lisa Marie, and it makes me happy to see him happy. I know that no matter how happy his children make him, there must be moments when he feels lonely and wishes he had someone to share his life with. If he could have that, I would be happy for him and support their marriage. It's nice to dream, but I also realize that realistically I will never be anything other than a fan to Michael. (it also helps to remember that he is over 30 years older than me, lol). it is easy to see how someone could get carried away with this fantasy though so I'm not judging anyone at all.
 
I would actually love to see it. I want to see him with someone he is truly in love with and it being mutual. When I look back and see the photos of him with Lisa Presley (did she not take his last name?) when they first married, he just looks so full of light and life and love. I'd love to see that again (though I only saw it years later after the fact..lol). Plus I think it would help any fan who is in that fantasy of saving themselves for him or what not...whether consciously or not. Nobody should have to life their lives in a fantasy. If him getting married will help some fans to life their lives for themselves instead of for him, then I think that could only help them. (I really hope I don't offend anyone by saying this)
I agree totally! Some fans will go berzerk, their bad. They need to be smacked back to this world with the reality that man has the need to procreate and be loved and for companionship!! Umm..hello!! So does Michael!!! Those girls are the sick ones..really freaky. (hope no one is offended by that truth! lol)

Obsession over something and someone you could never have is worse than cancer, it really is... eats deeper than rust through metal!
 
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Right! I guess I got kinda protective over him, hence why I learned to hate lisa and debbie when I did.. you know? You ponder if these women really have the best intentions for him and wonder if they will do HIM some good. In the end, both answers were no. A big fat no.

So yeah .. if she is sincere, really loves the guy and wants to teach him love and walk life's path with him, the path that they have to share together, and if she makes him feel happy..like he can dance on the stars above, then I say I am 100% for her and him. No I would not disown him (everrr) because I understand his need for companionship and YES I will forever support his fan's community..we have him in common..with love :yes:

A very honest post. The sincerity felt. Thank you for this.
 
I just hope fans will just be happy for MJ if he gets married. Its great for him to be in love, i mean everyone deserves it.. and If he does get married, so be it. Whatever makes him happy in the long run is all that matters!!:yes:..well i think so!
 
I just hope fans will just be happy for MJ if he gets married. Its great for him to be in love, i mean everyone deserves it.. and If he does get married, so be it. Whatever makes him happy in the long run is all that matters!!:yes:..well i think so!
well it is unhealthy to either wish for, hope for, or think otherwise. He has his own life and his fans shouldn't be controlling him. He should do as he pleases, period, without his fans saying, "but but but..you said you love MEEEEE"

:hysterical: He loves us as a whole, but he doesn't know us, therefor I think it's a different kinda love :yes: Not a romantic, kissy kissy, marry me kinda love :hysterical:
 
I agree totally! Some fans will go berzerk, their bad. They need to be smacked back to this world with the reality that man has the need to procreate and be loved and for companionship!! Umm..hello!! So does Michael!!! Those girls are the sick ones..really freaky. (hope no one is offended by that truth! lol)

Obsession over something and someone you could never have is worse than cancer, it really is... eats deeper than rust through metal!

I appreciate your insightfulness in this thread, however, I have mentioned in my earlier post, that no one will be judged or ridiculed. Lets please refrain from name calling, I really would like for this thread to reach those of whom you've called "sick ones" and "freaky". Trust me, I do understand exactly where you are coming from and have tried to have conversations with many of fans whom I could not even relate too not on even level due to their feelings for Michael.
I am hoping this thread will become a welcoming place for ALL fans, in particular but not limited too those fans of whom you've said "need to be smacked back to this world".

Can we please chose our words more carefully, in that way hopefully we will have more honest and open participation.
 
seriously......people are allowed to have their own opinions too!!!
 
well it is unhealthy to either wish for, hope for, or think otherwise. He has his own life and his fans shouldn't be controlling him. He should do as he pleases, period, without his fans saying, "but but but..you said you love MEEEEE"

:hysterical: He loves us as a whole, but he doesn't know us, therefor I think it's a different kinda love :yes: Not a romantic, kissy kissy, marry me kinda love :hysterical:


Did you mean for this reply to be comments specifically in response to MJbabe21's remarks?
It look to me as if the 'highlighting" of her comments were done so in error and you meant to respond to something entirely different?

Please, help clear this up.
 
yeah its can be offensive if its not clear to what is directed..and its also hurtful as well..I also don't get how it is unhealthy to wish,hope or think???yeah it would be greatly appricated if you made it clear. :yes:
 
I think she was just agreeing with you. That's how I saw it. Sometimes things online come across in a way entirely different from how it is meant.
 
I appreciate your insightfulness in this thread, however, I have mentioned in my earlier post, that no one will be judged or ridiculed. Lets please refrain from name calling, I really would like for this thread to reach those of whom you've called "sick ones" and "freaky". Trust me, I do understand exactly where you are coming from and have tried to have conversations with many of fans whom I could not even relate too not on even level due to their feelings for Michael.
I am hoping this thread will become a welcoming place for ALL fans, in particular but not limited too those fans of whom you've said "need to be smacked back to this world".

Can we please chose our words more carefully, in that way hopefully we will have more honest and open participation.
but won't that be what it is like if he ever does marry someone? Some felt smacked. And the reality is that he does have freedom to choose. It's not that what I said was harsh, it is just that reality is at times harsh on us and you gotta be that way, somteimes, to get the point across. I didn't want to skirt the issue, as I saw it in my head.

We can't have him. Period.
 
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Did you mean for this reply to be comments specifically in response to MJbabe21's remarks?
It look to me as if the 'highlighting" of her comments were done so in error and you meant to respond to something entirely different?

Please, help clear this up.
I simply meant that it is unhealthy for us as the fans to want to keep michael all to ourselves and think he is ours. He's not. I just meant that that kind of talk is not good. (he is mine, no one can have him but me).

Like I said, I hope (really) that my point isn't harsh on people. You are right, choose words carefully. But that won't stop reality from settling in.

And pardon my use of words. I simply meant that it is sick and freaky to think such, not the person in general :(
 
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I simply meant that it is unhealthy for us as the fans to want to keep michael all to ourselves and think he is ours. He's not. I just meant that that kind of talk is not good. (he is mine, no one can have him but me).

Like I said, I hope (really) that my point isn't harsh on people. You are right, choose words carefully. But that won't stop reality from settling in.

And pardon my use of words. I simply meant that it is sick and freaky to think such, not the person in general :(


oh ok..THANKS for clearing this up..:)
 
I think she was just agreeing with you. That's how I saw it. Sometimes things online come across in a way entirely different from how it is meant.

I saw it this way too. As for the thread question, it would be ludicrous to feel anything but joy for someone who has found true love. Now if MJ were to embark on what looks like another "arrangement", "agreement" or anything of the sort I will continue praying for him to find true love. Other than that though, um no

I'm in the category with Moddie777 inthat I went through all that when me and MJ were kids, during the J-5 era. see, I (like Moddie777 probably) "married" MJ when I was 9.

The reason I married him was because I realized that where he was concerned I knew deep down that I would do anythng his says and would be complete putty in his hands ... I knew it from the first time he ever bossed me around ...and I didn't mind at all ...

...whenever I'd hear him say,

"sit down Girl!! I think I love ya!!"

sure enough I'd sit right down

and when he changed his mind and said, "NO!" "GET UP GIRL!!

I'd jump right up.

And when he'd say,
SHOW ME WHAT YOU CAN DO!! SHAKE IT SHAKE BABY C'MON NOW SHAKE IT SHAKE IT BABY oooh oooh"

I'd proceed to shoulder-shimmy all around the apartment...

... and I did it each and every time I played that song :lol:

Well, time passed :blush: and well...

...MJ eventually left me for someone else ....

...when he came out with the song, Maria. :blush:

...but I was really not jealous and I absolutely love that song to this very day :yes:

and wished MJ and Maria nothing but the very best :flowers: :lol:

Well, I didn't change and what was true then is just as true now :yes:

I'd do anything he says and I'd be putty in his hands :lol:

AND I truly just want him to be happy :yes: :)

Great thread btw! (hope u didn't mind a little comic relief! True story btw! LOL)
 
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