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I dunno if i'm going overboard or not.

Nippleina

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ever since michael passed i've been overly sensitive and easily angered at any joke and any rude comments about him. i deleted friends from myspace/facebook and stopped following friends on twitter who have joked and made rude comments. mostly friends from high school, who at one point or time i had been good friends with. i figured these are not the type of people i want to be friends with anyway.

now earlier, i was re-tweeting some announcements of mj's bday plans and mj in general. when a friend of mine replies with, "ok.... you gotta let it go now!". now this is a guy who i've known since jr. high, he's usually really kind and sweet. so it kinda took me by surprise and of course i was real sensitive to it. especially since i don't tweet all day long about mj or tweet all day in general. anyway, i told him, "rude! if you're annoyed don't follow". he asks, "how was that rude?" i think, how is that not rude? but i say, "well it sounds as if you're annoyed". then he says, "i'm not annoyed (seems like you've been getting heat for something)". not sure what he means there, but i kinda just stopped and thought gee, this is just silly.

should i have just let it go? usually, i'm not this sensitive. i can take jokes and ignore rude people. but when it comes to michael i just can't.
 
No you're not being overly-sensitive. The people you mentioned are being overly-insensitive. Michael was a part of your life, and when he died a part of your life died too and that's not something you can just get over quickly. These people probably don't understand the significance but that doesn't make you wrong x
 
I feel the same way than you. I have beeing angry at people for the same reasson. Now we are over sensitive but is our right to be so!! We are in pain and if people dont get it.. to bad for them!
I was at a dinner party a month ago and they stared comment about it, someone made a minor joke and I say "is not funny and if you are going to talk about it I will not alow any jokes" My roommate said "well if we can't make jokes then is better if we dont" and then I say "If you make any joke about it you are disrespecting me personaly, so if you don't want to have a personal problem with me you better not!"
Maybe I over reacted.. sooooooo what?!
 
No way were you being oversensitive if this guy knows how much you feel for Michael. I'm overly sensitive at times with people I'm friends with. I sometimes try and avoid answering any questions people ask about me and my liking of Michael :( I hate it so much.
 
everyone reacts differently to grief, this is just your mind/bodys way of coping. i dont think youre going overboard as everyone grieves differently. this is just your way. hugs.
 
Yea, people tell me the same thing. I was telling my boss that his death was ruled a homicide and he said don't listen to them, and that i should be focusing on school lol. He shouldn't tell me what to focus on, I'm a pretty responsible person. My mom who is a fan, although not like me, understands. I guess people don't understand what Michael meant and means to us. Why is it ok for people to have tatoos with Tupac or Elvis and blast their music, but if it is about Michael, people look at you as obsessed or weird?!
 
thank you for the replies and similar stories! love & hugs, i feel better now. i couldn't sleep last night, i let this get to me.

Why is it ok for people to have tatoos with Tupac or Elvis and blast their music, but if it is about Michael, people look at you as obsessed or weird?!
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I know, right!!!! its because michael was about love and peace, about helping people, and healing the world. some people take that as weird. its like if some random guy at a party is talking about love and to help one another. right away people would think, "freak!". they rather ridicule and hate.

maybe some friends/family don't understand how much Michael means to me. but that doesn't excuse them, in my book. i just don't understand sometimes why people have to be so rude. if its not hurting you, why care what i'm into or what i really care about? can't they just leave me alone?

its so easy to laugh, its so easy to hate. it takes strength to be gentle and kind. - the smiths
 
I'm going through the same thing. whenever I'm at work or out in public and people talk about Michael in a rude way or just talk about him I get all emotional. I either get all angry and lash out with defenses or I'm on the verge of tears because I still haven't fully accecpted the fact that he is gone. I don't think you're going overboard or anything, I just think that this is going to take a loooooong time to get over. After all he was one of the most caring, loving, talented( and some!!) person to walk this earth. I have this unconditonal love for him and I miss him so much.


-Come back Michael
 
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Why is it ok for people to have tatoos with Tupac or Elvis and blast their music, but if it is about Michael, people look at you as obsessed or weird?!

I see so many tupac shirts at my college. I'm going to buy tons of MJ t-shirts and repped him around my campus. I don't think you went overboard because people should understand that you were a fan and you cared about MJ. They may not understand your grieving but they shouldn't make rude comments. I mainly come on hear to discuss my feeling about MJ, I love coming on this board because everyone here knows how I feel about MJ because they love him too.
 
Don't worry I understand you.

I am so sensitive to any negative MJ comments or news. I really can't help it. It HURTS and PAINS me so much to hear someone talk bad about him. I remember shouting at the TV once because of it. LOLS! XD I usually just walk away and don't pay them any attention. It really comforts me that we all understand each other.
 
yeah, I am getting it too, from family members mostly. Telling me that I need to 'let it go'. It's a mixed up way of them showing they care about you but it's really insensitive. Could you imagine saying that to someone who was mourning a close friend or pet that had passed away?!
 
Yeah, I understand what you're going through.

My friends are sensitive to it now and don't bring it up, I'm trying to keep on top of it but I know what you mean, its difficult when someone is pushing you and goading you deliberately to get a reaction. I try to walk away from it but I have got into some altercations with a**holes in the past that I'm trying hard to control. But its not easy.

The other day at work I got into a terrible argument with a b**tard who just wouldn't lay off me - he was asking for what he got, an extreme reaction. We're both up in front of a disciplinary board next week.

Just finding it all very difficult to come to terms with. Don't know how long it will take, and I don't advocate my behaviour at all, its just not me.
 
it is really comforting to be here with all of you.

i've seen a lot of people with mj shirts every where! :) happy about that.

i wish people would just mind their own business. if they don't agree with something we're doing or what we're into or why we care so much; just let it be. why can't they just worry about themselves. i always try to put myself in others shoes and i understand them.

i don't think its human nature, i think its lack of intelligence.
 
I completely understand where you are coming from and in no way were you going "overboard". It's painful - to see people make rude, insensitive and disrespectful comments about someone who not only was close to your heart, but just doesn't deserve that! Michael was one of the most loving, caring, generous kind hearted people on this earth...that it's heartbreaking and downright AWFUL for anyone to speak low of him...whether it's done in a joking manner or not. He just doesn't deserve it.

A week or so ago I was talking with a relative of mine who hated Michael Jackson. She went on about how "wrong it was the way he kept those children out there" and I just wanted to SCREAM at her. I was like "Lady, you don't even know. This man was a better parent to his children than YOU are to your own!!!!"

So many people are just IGNORANT - and what's worse, they are happy being ignorant, and continue to make negative and malicious comments out of their ignorance! I can't handle people like that...I just can't...especially when it comes to Michael. For people to disrespect a man that only gave his heart - is heartless. Michael hurt so much because of people like that...and he didn't deserve to. I can handle people not liking him as an artist...everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but those that have no RESPECT for him as a person...with no open mind to see who he really was, I refuse to associate with.
 
exactly ^ that sums it up for me and how i feel. people rather praise and respect assholes.

the first month, i was afraid i'd end up in jail over michael. the first few days were so bad. i lashed out at everyone, i insulted my grandma, my parents, anyone. even if these people were sorry for what they had said or thought about him before. i made it a point to throw it in their faces. friends and cousins would send me stupid disgusting text jokes about him, like chain letters. i put them on blast. i really felt like i was going crazy and i wanted to beat a hater up. thankfully, i know violence is never the answer. i just felt that way.

my friend last night caught me at a sensitive moment, i thought long and hard before i replied and came to my senses. otherwise, it would have been bad.

i'm a gemini, so one moment i can be rational about this and another moment i can be crazy angry and bite your head off.
 
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