Some family members break with that behavior of explaining stuff away- rooted in abuse- others do not.
Michael clearly reflected on it and broke with it. Pretty obvious in those "Living with Michael Jackson" scenes.
He's no longer even apologizing in the "Please don't be mad at me" scenarios. By the way, it's absolutely not uncommon to find patterns of someone trying to explain things away.
It is not a big mystery or something rare.
The most common thread you find that many abused are being told is "Don't tell anyone, we are not washing our laundry in public." The Jacksons are no exceptions to that, it happens in countless families. But apparently Michael broke with that as well.
So to that end it doesn't even bother me what everyone else says about the abuse that Michael described. Just because Jermaine doesn't consider it abuse, doesn't mean I am required to follow his logic- at all.
It is way more effective to counsel the 'rest of the world' on child abuse than debate this issue with someone who didn't break with that mold- nor is he here to discuss that with anyone.
Apparently the Hayvenhurst situation also resolved itself with some creativity, so that I think nobody is in any danger of abuse. Even longtime Hayvenhurst residence moved out, the entire situation has already changed a lot from what it once was.
I also didn't see guardianship being handed over to Jermaine, so there really is limited reason to freak out.
If anyone feels that the children are not safe- please contact the appropriate agencies if your conscience demands that, do not sit behind a screen or write anonymous letters.
http://lacdcfs.org/contactus/childabuse.html
I mean it. I read thread upon thread how the poor kids are not safe- if you feel that way, do something about.
I understand that it is pretty popular to beat down on Katherine Jackson (and no, I don't 'worship' anyone as shining matriarch) for 'letting it happen', but a lot of people don't quite understand what it means to find yourself in dynamic of domestic violence.
Courts actually do consider aspects like that these days- there have been entire trials where partners of violent men HAVE seen their children die- I caution dumping out judgement unless you have dealt with these dynamics either through personal experience, or professionally.
Common sense will tell you that OF COURSE anybody should get away from such abuser- we all would say that- reality is that even 'rich' people with the means to move on financially can get stuck in these situations.
I recommend a visit to your local Domestic Violence center- let these women tell you just how difficult it is to free yourself from abuse.
I actually doubt that Katherine Jackson herself is especially thrilled with the way things went. I know that it's not the popular thing to say, but a woman who is yelling at a violent man to "stop it" is actually not condoning or encouraging abuse- she's offering herself up for the beating as a deflector shield. Not a situation many people understand. The fact that a woman has not been able to stop an abuser, is absolutely not akin to happily 'let it happen'.
Not with a single word have I heard Michael ever allude to his mother standing idly by in contentment- to do so lets the actual abuser off the hook who is solely responsibly for the abuse perpetrated.
It's seems always pretty clear Michael clearly held Joseph- and no one else- responsible for the abuse perpetrated.
It's also pretty clear that he didn't appreciate his siblings undermining him for his opinion- and that part is also obvious in his will- so it feels a bit useless to be essentially flogging a dead horse- the siblings are nowhere in the will, nor does any one of them have guardianship. And it seems a bit over the top to want to assign someone to Blanket, Paris and Prince to 'guard them' for the entirety of their entire lives from harm- which seems to be the assumed thing behind 'access through siblins'. When they are 20, 30 years old they will have to make their own choices in life- just as the rest of us do. And some of us also have to weigh very carefully what kind of mental background we received growing up.
Sometimes I read these threads and by the sound of it one envisions 3 starving kids in a room full of MK Ultra stuff where they are being groomed in Stockholm syndrome.
Apparently Michael's parents were 'separated enough' for his taste at the time that the will was written, or I doubt that he would have ever considered placing his 3 children into the care of his mother.
Which brings me to another interesting thing. Fans cheer that the Estate has executors without family ties- I agree with that.
But apparently the guardianship is suddenly enough reason for 'fraud', seems a little selective to me, that assessment.
