LindavG
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jamba;3842279 said:It seems likely that Paris's crisis is a ripple caused by the vaster pain of her father, who arranged for her birth under curious circumstances and left her life before she was ready.
Michael Jackson was one of those performers like Judy Garland, Marilyn Monroe or Amy Winehouse (come to think of it, they are usually women), whose inner suffering is so great, their fairytales so poisoned, that they are lifted beyond normal fame into a sort of immortal stardom. It's the combination of pain and talent that makes them fascinating and unforgettable. It's the evident fragility, within the fortress of success, that lets us in to empathise and care.
There is a tragic pantheon of stars whose music or acting is powerfully communicative because, one suspects, they are unable to communicate in the normal way, with the people around them. They self-medicate with drugs. They reach desperately for love from a million unknown strangers – and thus get it, though it never fulfils.
Look, I was shocked at your defense of this kind of writing. But I will explain 1) IMHO Paris was NOT born in "curious circumstances"--I believe she was born the usual way, the way we all are. Was Debbie a surrogate mother in the sense that the father was a sperm donor only? Maybe. But many people are now born that way and it is not curious. To say that is to blame the parent who decides to use a surrogate. Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick used a surrogate to have the child and I don't see their decision being jumped all over. I don't see Brad Pitt and Angela Jolie jumped all over b/c they adopted kids either. People use surrogates and poeople adopt. They do it for various reasons. We don't know if or why MJ made that decision. Why don't know if he is her 'biological' father or not. That's why I strongly object to this ongoing obsession with putting him down for his decision (he BOUGHT the kids, etc) and with speculating about is he the 'biological' father, and people have raised questions about Debbie as the 'biological' mother (she SOLD the kids, etc). This is not healthy and people should move on and not focus on this issue, which is constantly talked about in the press and in comments (those are not his kids, etc.).
The difference is that MJ married the "surrogate mother" of his children. Debbie stated openly that she didn't want to have children but she gave them to Michael as a gift. Michael and Debbie never seemed in love even though they were married. I do believe Paris is Michael's biological daughter - not that it matters to me - but the fact that she's so light inevitable leads to speculation (even though there are other famous light-skinned biracial people out there, such as Wentworth Miller, Mariah Carey and Rashida Jones). You can't deny that the circumstances of Paris' birth were "curious". Her parents did not have a traditional marriage.
Also, this part you quoted "They reach desperately for love from a million unknown strangers – and thus get it, though it never fulfils." is something MJ himself literally said in the Schmuley tapes.
2) The article claims MJ was unable to communicate IN THE NORMAL WAY. Hello? Is this something you as an MJ fan are going to defend? I hope NOT.
3) This writer seems to be unaware that NORMAL doesn't really exist except in someone's mind. There is a statistical average but that's it. You can't even say "a normal birth" b/c there's a caesarian section and other variations, so what is normal is really arbitrary--decided by people who seek to impose values on others IMO. What is communication in the 'normal way'? I think MJ communicated beautifully with his kids, his friends, he was very expressive and eloquent. I hated that peice of writing and I am surprised you find it balanced. But that's the way it goes, so I get to say how I feel and so do you. Peace.
I don't think the author meant to attack MJ. But it's true, he did find it hard to communicate with people in the normal way. He said so himself all the time. He found it hard to relate to "normal" people, he was extremely shy, he was more comfortable on stage than off, etc. In the Glenda tapes (2.2) he says he doesn't associate with the people he's on tour with, he stays off to himself because he doesn't want them to get close.
Just because normality is a social construct, doesn't mean it doesn't exist. "Normal" simply means conforming to the standard in society. It's not a value statement, the norm is not always good. I think we can all agree that MJ deviated from the norm in a lot of ways.
The only reason the article seems unbalanced is because you're picking out the parts that could be interpreted as negative.