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Do you ever feel sad and lonely?

SJK

SJK

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I feel sort of weird talking about this. I guess I just want to know I'm not the only one having a rough time. It's not even Michael related, it is just that things never stop getting more complicated with my family and I feel like I don't have people - good friends - to talk to. It's sort of awkward talking to strangers... but I think I can trust MJ fans because you're good people.
 
I've found this message board so supportive and welcoming -- of course you can talk to us!

Everyone feels sad and lonely sometimes, some more than others. I consider myself a "happy" person who has gratitude for what I have, but sometimes feel down for no specific reason. This last month with the loss of Michael I've felt particularly confused and "all over the place", even questioning my core beliefs about what I should do with my life.

I see you are in New York (like me! I'm in Manhattan) which I feel can, counter-intuitively, be a really lonely place. You can KNOW tons and tons of people who are always busy and focused and running around, and time to CONNECT with people can be rare. I look around and see lots of lonely people, like the Stranger in Moscow video. Add in problems with family or friends or other relationships and it can be hard.

Anyway, I hope you find people you can share your feelings with whether on this board or elsewhere. Feel free to PM me if you feel like chatting sometime. :)
 
I feel sad and lonely very often, though there are many times I don't show it. I understand how you feel, SJK. What helps me is music. Music is my best friend. It always helps me.
 
Latinodude007 said:
I feel sad and lonely very often, though there are many times I don't show it. I understand how you feel, SJK. What helps me is music. Music is my best friend. It always helps me.
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I agree. I turn on upbeat music, and I feel better.
 
Yes, I feel lonely quite often actually. I have only one good friend who I have known for over 10 years but I still sometimes feel like I don't have a friend to talk to. For me it's hard just to call and say 'hi, could you come and talk with me'. It has been like this always, not just since Michael's death. When this friend heard that Michael had died she invited me there to talk though she's not even a fan but it really made me feel better then.

Latinodude007 said:
I feel sad and lonely very often, though there are many times I don't show it. I understand how you feel, SJK. What helps me is music. Music is my best friend. It always helps me.
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Me too, I hide my feelings very often. Especially around my family but sometimes with my friends, too. And I agree, music is great healer.


I sometimes think if there's something wrong with me when it feels easier to talk to people in the internet than my real life friends..
 
I'm always around someone I love, so I'm never really sad nor very lonely.
 
people are always confusing me I don't know who to trust so yes I have those moments when I'm lonely and sad...and it sucks!
 
Yes, those feelings are very familiar for me. This summer I've felt even more lonely than before. And sadder. I like being by myself, I don't feel that comfortable around a lot of people, but it would be nice to have someone to talk to, to be able to tell everything. Sure, I have few friends but I'm just not in that level with them. I know the reasons for me being that way so it's just up to me to change myself.

Usually I just don't let people to see if I'm sad and weak.
 
would it be ok to move this thread to the support forum?

I'm asking because I think it could help some ppl around there and maybe here in this board sections they'll not find it.

SJK I think you're doing the exact right thing... it's the only way... because it always starts like that... it's always talking to strangers first. Also I think it's a smart thing to look for common interests (like Michael Jackson) cuz then it's usually easier to talk as you have already something in common as a basis.

I do feel very lonely at times lately as I've lost my boyfriend. He truely was my souldmate, best friend and the most wonderful guy one can imagine to me.
We had this wonderful relationship and grew really together over the last years... and I'm missing him more than I could put him in words.

So yes I'm feeling lonely at times now... more than I ever did before.

Then again, I have also moments already that I do feel him still with me, like our relationship is now again on a different stage... it's strange but i guess it's cuz the process of grieving still needs some time... I don't know.

Well I don't wanna hide I have wonderful ppl around me, I even know lot's of wonderful ppl all around the world and sure especially now everyone tries to be there for me and try to help me... but nothing can help this feeling of loneliness for now as the one person I want to be with can't be with me anymore in this life.

Guess I need to learn again to share myself with others, probably talk to strangers again also... if I want or not... because that is the only way to reach some closeness and that's why helping the feeling of lonliness... we need to share ourselves. If we do not share, open ourselves, noone will ever be able to relate and understand... so closeness can't tune in.

I just wanted to say that I wish someone to all of you guys like my boyfriend was for me. When you've found someone you can share your life with that completely it is an incredible gift and you'll not feel lonely nowhere anymore.
 
Its pretty much 24/7 with me feeling like that I'm just glad I'm a Musician and i cant vent my emotions into my playing you've no idea how good you feel after you write an angry song or play something aggressive on Piano or Guitar it works wonders :p
 
Yes all the time. Even when I was a young child I had really awful pangs of sadness and loneliness. I don't really know why, as I never was literally alone. I don't think anyone I know knows the extent of it. I like to be around people, but I'm also a loner. It's not 'cool' to be a loner and for a long time I didn't really allow me to be myself, but now I just do whatever I need to be happy. People have tended to let me down a lot, so I guess that contributes. I also find people can be really hurtful and I'm quite sensitive so it really affects me. I guess that all contributes. :)
 
I feel lonely all the time.
I have no friends to go out with or visit, only my mom and dad who visit me once a week and I visite them once a week.
The rest of the week I'm alone and I feel sad very often :(
 
I never have before. But I do now.

I finished school two years ago and im now 18. Most of my friends after school, turned to drugs and stuff. Not to mention the fact they just arent very nice people :S

I kept a few friends, but none of them know each other if you get me. I dont have a group of friends. I have 3 real friends left and they are all from different groups if you get me.

I was with this girl for a year and a half, she was like my best friend but she broke up with me. Ever since that I have felt so lonely.

I never have anything to do and the only thing I had to look forward to was seeing Michael.

Now I just inside all day with nothing to do :|
 
L.T.D. said:
I never have before. But I do now.

I finished school two years ago and im now 18. Most of my friends after school, turned to drugs and stuff. Not to mention the fact they just arent very nice people :S

I kept a few friends, but none of them know each other if you get me. I dont have a group of friends. I have 3 real friends left and they are all from different groups if you get me.

I was with this girl for a year and a half, she was like my best friend but she broke up with me. Ever since that I have felt so lonely.

I never have anything to do and the only thing I had to look forward to was seeing Michael.

Now I just inside all day with nothing to do :|
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It's actually quite scary how much this is like me, even down to the fact i'm 18 too lol

It's tough feeling lonley, but it's a state of mind I believe we can all break and continue with our lives in a less sad and lonley way.

I'm getting counselling soon and doing a lot of soul searching mean time, I'm realizing life ain't perfect but we can make it much better for ourselves.

Their are people out their that what to be your friend, you've just got to go out looking and not stay at home :) lol

do you have facebook?
 
Alisans said:
Yes, those feelings are very familiar for me. This summer I've felt even more lonely than before. And sadder. I like being by myself, I don't feel that comfortable around a lot of people, but it would be nice to have someone to talk to, to be able to tell everything. Sure, I have few friends but I'm just not in that level with them. I know the reasons for me being that way so it's just up to me to change myself.

Usually I just don't let people to see if I'm sad and weak.
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I'm exactly the same.

I just have minimal confidence when it comes to most things in life, my self esteem is at rock bottom and I'll go through phases of just staying at home for days and not doing anything because I'm not happy with the way I look etc.

I sometimes feel like there's a whole different person inside me, but because I've been stuck in the same ways for so long it's hard to change when everyone knows you for something else.

I have lots of friends but none of them truly understand me - and even though we'll hang out and have a laugh a lot of the time I still feel lonely, sad, and helpless.
 
Well, SJK, I can surely relate well to what you're telling us here... I mean I've also had my deep share of ups and downs (!) in my life....more than just a couple of times :) Great that you dare to share a little bit of you feelings with us! That's strong and brave. It's not unusual to not have someone to talk with or real good friends....I tend to keep a lot inside instead and that's not a way for sure....we're here for you friend!
 
SIDEWALK said:
It's actually quite scary how much this is like me, even down to the fact i'm 18 too lol

It's tough feeling lonley, but it's a state of mind I believe we can all break and continue with our lives in a less sad and lonley way.

I'm getting counselling soon and doing a lot of soul searching mean time, I'm realizing life ain't perfect but we can make it much better for ourselves.

Their are people out their that what to be your friend, you've just got to go out looking and not stay at home :) lol

do you have facebook?
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http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=home#/profile.php?id=100000091343477&ref=profile

I would love to go out looking, the problem is. I dont want to go out on my own haha, and none of my few friends will come with me.
 
SIDEWALK said:
Don't let your friends hold you back, you gotta do it for yourself.

I've added you on facebook :)
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Thank you :D

I just dont know what id do by myself though. Like sometimes I want to go out to Chester. None of them will ever go, and I cant see myself walking round there on my own ! lol
 
L.T.D. said:
Thank you :D

I just dont know what id do by myself though. Like sometimes I want to go out to Chester. None of them will ever go, and I cant see myself walking round there on my own ! lol
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No probs!

what are your interests?
 
SIDEWALK said:
No probs!

what are your interests?
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MJ of course :) Ive been practicing dancing like him a few years now.
Heres some of my vids.
Moonwalks

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0horEQSDThs


Billie Jean practice

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1OODfYQRpKw




I sing as well, and beatbox. Im also a big wrestling fan! How about you?
 
jemini515 said:
Wow, you are amazing!!! So impressed.
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Thank you :) Ill have to make an updated Billie Jean video though. There are moves in that video which I couldnt really do then as I was still practicing them. But can do much better now.
 
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