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We all know getting older is part of life but how do deal with it? You see your face everday in the mirror and u start to notice your face looking older. Sometime its the lighting in the bathroom and sometimes its just life. But how do u deal with it? As for me lol iam like wow iam 31 ha ha i use be 18 years ago but now iam 31.
 
Enjoy being 31 because it will be gone in a flash, lol. I just turned 47 and if I stop to really think about it I can't believe it. Where did all the time go? Three more years to the big 5-0! :wild: I don't really have a lot of wrinkles yet though (I think some extra weight helps to fill those out). I have some soft lines on my forehead and dark circles (from lack of sleep) but nothing horrible yet (other than my usual face, heh). I just feel my age more physically. I need to take better care of myself. I need to exercise more and eat better. I need to get more sleep. Then I wouldn't feel so tired all the time. But everybody gets old...if you're lucky. What can you do. You are the age you are? Just take care of yourself so that you have your health and then you have everything.
 
I am 32. And sometimes I have to think to remember how old I am. lol it still feels like I am 18. As for getting older, I don't think about it. I am not obsessed with the way I look, to tell you the truth... People say I look young so that's fine for me lol
 
I catch myself wondering where the time has gone as well :p I turn 27 in November and I still remember when I used to try and work old how old I would be in the year 2000 at school! :p
 
I am 30 years old now. Going to be 31 in early January. And getting older I am not really bother by it. At one time I probably was. But after what had happen to my beloved Michael I really don't care about getting older now. Especially when I think how my 30th birthday was my worst birthday ever. Cause I couldn't celebrate my birthday the way I used to celebrate it. And so I consider my 30th birthday to be my last one ever. Because I used to always celebrate my birthday by listening and watching my beloved Michael. Now I can no longer handle doing either. When January 4th comes again I am just going to see it as just another day for me. And just going to try to ignore the fact that it is my 31st birthday. As I said getting older is something I really don't care about anymore.
 
I've never really cared that I was getting older until this past year when I turned 60. Trying to figure out if there's anyway I can swing retirement at 62 as a single person. My house is just about at the stage of needing new roof, new furnace, new AC, so now I worry alot from a financial standpoint.

Looks wise, I blame myself for years and years of heavy suntanning without UV protection and smoking that has brought on lines around my mouth and my face in general. Plus I lost 40 lbs over the last 4 hrs (purposefully), and that just accentuates the sagging and lines since the fat isn't there to fill things out. I don't enjoy looking at myself in the mirror, but generally don't really focus on it, it is what it is. My friends and family are aging as well, so we're all in this together to some extent.

I guess many people eventually realize that looks are essentially superficial, and it's what inside that truly matters in the long run. jmo.
 
I become more relaxed with age. I don't worry as much with 30 as I used to with 19 or 20. I dare to leave the house without make-up- sometimes. :rofl:

By the time I am 60, I expect to be feeling the most liberated and not.care.at.all. Just kidding.

Michael simply reminds me to at least try to do the things in life I want to do- before I am out of opportunity to do so. :timer::)
 
Old? This is part of human nature and there is no escaping it. All persons will get old. I'm not afraid of growing old and I do not care about my age which to me is just a number. I still feel with 18 years. The most important thing is to have good health and maintain healthy habits throughout life. I just wish that I am a healthy old. That's my only preoccupation.
 
That's funny, we were talking about it with my colleagues today - Well, I am 45 years old but I don't have this feeling, in my mind of course (I'm always locked on 20:cheeky:) but also physically, I am someone who needs to always be in movement and until today my body follows me - But I had a hard step on 30 years old, I was single, no kids, many friends with whom I had great moments, a job that I loved but when I passed my third decade it was weird, I would say I felt old:timer: - Today, with my son of 7 years old and my husband who love sport I'm obliged to follow them. To resume I rarely think about my age. I keep living like I always did until my body cries me STOP !!!:punk:
 
bgz said:
I've never really cared that I was getting older until this past year when I turned 60. Trying to figure out if there's anyway I can swing retirement at 62 as a single person. My house is just about at the stage of needing new roof, new furnace, new AC, so now I worry alot from a financial standpoint.

Looks wise, I blame myself for years and years of heavy suntanning without UV protection and smoking that has brought on lines around my mouth and my face in general. Plus I lost 40 lbs over the last 4 hrs (purposefully), and that just accentuates the sagging and lines since the fat isn't there to fill things out. I don't enjoy looking at myself in the mirror, but generally don't really focus on it, it is what it is. My friends and family are aging as well, so we're all in this together to some extent.
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Yes, that is one of my big worries at the age of 47 also...will I have enough money saved and to live on when I retire? I'm working on it...

This is why I will always keep some extra pounds on and will never purposely be skinny again. Gotta keep the face filled in, heh.
 
What is there to complain about? I wish I was older--at least people would take me seriously then. The only way I am ever taken seriously is via writing because the audience cannot gaze upon the author's shameful circumstance.
 
I don´t think about my age,I´m busy with life.
I wouldn´t like to be 20 again,I feel more free now at 51.
I went alone to see this is it in the movies 4 times, when I was 20 I never went alone to the movie.

I know some people have crisis when they turn 50 but maybe Michael Jackson saved me from it.
He said the best is yet to come, he was going to do the best concerts ever..
(I can completly understand if his body was aching and he was stiff when he began the rehearsals, it takes longer time to get in shape when you are older.)
If I had to do exercises for hours I probably would say I think they will kill me.
But if I would continue with the exercise daily or some times a week I would feel great after a while.

But you are more than one age, I think this poem is very good

http://www.ladyjayes.com/seeme.html
 
I enjoy being 28 years old with no kids but i will plan on having a baby next year with my hubby Michael that's my boyfriend real name y'all and i am in college almost done with getting my BA and i am proud to be 28 and still looking like i am 21 haha i better werk!!
 
mikagesouji said:
What is there to complain about? I wish I was older--at least people would take me seriously then. The only way I am ever taken seriously is via writing because the audience cannot gaze upon the author's shameful circumstance.
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:D We'll talk in few years :yes:
 
I think that the biggest concern about getting older is not appearance or even health........its regret........

.....If you miss out doing so much when your young........you'll never stop thinking about when your older..........

.....whether its about having children, moving away to another area or country, taking a different career or even doing something crazy like climbing mount Everest.......you'll never forgive yourself when you find yourself unable to do those things you once had the opportunity to do those things.............

There are not many occasions in life where you are able to make your own decisions in life...........



So my advice is to make the most out of life..............

..........If there's some you've always wanted to do, ask yourself one question.....what's stopping me?????.........

........you'll regret it otherwise!!!!!
 
I'll be turning 44 next week. My birthdays and age don't generally bother me. Although when I turned 40 I had a bit of a fit about that. Not sure why. But it passed. The only part (so far) I dislike about aging is gray hair. I hate it. I don't have tons of it, thank goodness. But I have very dark hair, so gray hair shows easily, and the hairs are wiry, screwy, ugly things. I highlight my hair to disguise them a bit, and pluck the ones that are obvious. That's really my big aging pet peeve. Oh, and I need bifocals, but can't really afford them right now, so reading and looking at small things can be a pain. But I'll survive that. ;)

In general I have no regrets about my life and I don't mind getting older. It's part of life. I'm going to have wrinkles (but I'm a bit on the heavy side, so they probably aren't as noticeable as they might be otherwise) and they might bug me at some point, but I'll get over it. As long as I have my husband, my daughter and grandkids, and my home, and my art and writing, I'm happy. Life is too short for regrets so we've got to make the most of it while we're here. Every day really is a gift, cheesy as it sounds.
 
TinaG said:
I'll be turning 44 next week. My birthdays and age don't generally bother me. Although when I turned 40 I had a bit of a fit about that. Not sure why. But it passed. The only part (so far) I dislike about aging is gray hair. I hate it. I don't have tons of it, thank goodness. But I have very dark hair, so gray hair shows easily, and the hairs are wiry, screwy, ugly things. I highlight my hair to disguise them a bit, and pluck the ones that are obvious. That's really my big aging pet peeve. Oh, and I need bifocals, but can't really afford them right now, so reading and looking at small things can be a pain. But I'll survive that. ;)
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Oh yeah I hate the gray hairs too. I don't have a lot yet...a few pop up on the right side of my head so I either color them with temporary color or pluck them out. I sure wish someone would invent a pill to reverse gray hair permanently!
 
Well... I'm just 17... But I know with time I will get older and already I feel everything is not the same as when I was a child... You just have to deal with it, Knowing is something normal, that everyone has to go trough... But you have to never forget your childhood and if you like to do childish things don't feel embarassed cause is very entertaining, I love watching Disney movies, Playing Kid's games and even Water Balloon Fights like MJ did.
 
You know when you are getting older when you start to do and say certain things. LOL!

Like, I was shopping the other day and I had to walk out of a shop as the music being played was just too loud! If I was a teen or in my 20's that wouldn't have bothered me.. Things like that didn't bother me then... But it was really bothering me, I had to walk out.

Or when you think i'd rather have a bubble bath, put on a Dressing gown, Slippers and have a cosy night in rather than a night out at a bar/club. :mello:
 
Well, I've always been kind of an "old soul". I didn't like loud music and noise or going out to clubs, bars and parties even when I was in my teens and 20's. It's just that now my physical age is catching up with my internal age, hehe.

One change from when I was younger is that I could wear very tight jeans. The tighter they were the better (back in the 70's, 80's). Now I can't stand wearing tight clothes. And I used to love wearing sweaters when I was younger but now with my hot flashes and heat sensitivity I can only wear them when it's really cold out. I hate perimenopause!
 
Well I'm 31 now lol. Sometimes, well alot of the time I feel really young and just can't believe the age I am. I feel sad about it sometimes. But then I think you shouldn't compare yourself to others. You are who you are whatever age you may be. Great thread by the way!
 
The short answer - i DON'T deal with it........well that is.

Age is such a funny thing, ain't it though? Biologically imma be 30 in a few months. In my mind i can be 3 in terms of silliness and at times i feel like i'm 80 in soul years, so it's all quite relative if yall ask me. I am gettin older, but i'll never really grow up, that's for sure.

Although i understand nature must take its course, i still feel like i'm living on borrowed time. That is why i try not to take any new day for granted cause life, except for love, is the greatest gift of all.

Of course none of us can possibly know when our time on this earth is up and i hope mine is not coming for many, many decades, but i have this very weird feeling that i already consumed more than half my lifetime (wasting years and opportunities along the way), therefore i try to make the other 'half' count. I'll let yall know how that went in about two decades lol.

What truly matters is to live each day like is the last, live like we're dying, as Chris Allen sang so wonderfully. At the end of the day age ain't nothin' but a number, right? And time is what you make of it, at least that's how the motto of a watch company a few decades ago went. I happen to agree with it still.
 
Shabuya said:
I am gettin older, but i'll never really grow up, that's for sure.
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Me too! -_- I refuse it! I always have my inner child alive. Forever!!! :D


Shabuya said:
What truly matters is to live each day like is the last, live like we're dying, as Chris Allen sang so wonderfully. At the end of the day age ain't nothin' but a number, right? And time is what you make of it, at least that's how the motto of a watch company a few decades ago went. I happen to agree with it still.
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I have the biggest problem with TIME PASSING!!! not necessarily the age as much as just the thought of 'x amount of time has past' and so much has changed....Family getting older or moving on/getting married/seeing each other less...Friends doing the same...all that stuff makes me verrry sad if I think about it...


But regarding the actual age thing....The thought of turning 30 in a few years sounds so horrible to me haha :) but then i think, Michael was 33+ in the Dangerous Era and I always thought he was so alive and young at that time. Michael never seemed old to me although I know his soul was wise beyond his years...
 
Dangerous21 said:
I have the biggest problem with TIME PASSING!!! not necessarily the age as much as just the thought of 'x amount of time has past' and so much has changed....Family getting older or moving on/getting married/seeing each other less...Friends doing the same...all that stuff makes me verrry sad if I think about it...


But regarding the actual age thing....The thought of turning 30 in a few years sounds so horrible to me haha :) but then i think, Michael was 33+ in the Dangerous Era and I always thought he was so alive and young at that time. Michael never seemed old to me although I know his soul was wise beyond his years...
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I know what you mean. I think it's just dealing with change that I have more of a problem with. And I've been like this since I was a child. I would wonder why we didn't do this anymore or why these people didn't come around anymore or why this or that had to change, etc. I just hate change and want things to stay the same forever. Of course, not possible.

I always say that 30-35 is the PERFECT age. Not too young, not too old. Just right. I think it's the peak of most people's lives. It may have been Michael's too. So don't worry. You have a lot to look forward to.:)
 
I think there are a lot of good things about getting older...you don't feel you have to conform, you feel 'comfortable in your own skin' you have more confidence and you (mostly) have plenty of life experience to bolster you through bad times ( you've survived what went before, so you can survive anything, right?) And you know that nothing is ever as bad as it seems. Personally I am really looking forward to the day I can retire (hopefully before I'm 70...I think I'm joking about that , but not sure), because I really want to get my life back from the '9 to 5' and spend each day doing what I really want to do. There is lots to look forward to... and its the shared memories that bind people together, so the more time, the more memories. You've just got to be sure that you create them along the way. Michael was right when he sang 'every day create your history.
 
its not ME getting older that bothers me.....its my children getting older that bothers me. My oldest son is 20 already...it seems like yesterday he was just a baby. My daughter is almost 17..she is my baby...she is growing up so fast....I miss my children being small. It breaks my heart when I see my daughter with her boyfriend. I dont know how I will cope when they leave home. :cry:
 
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