love is magical;3553744 said:
My point is none of us ever met Paris; yet, some are making comments like she’s acting like a spoiled brat. She’s enjoying the spotlight. She’s brainwashed into thinking she’s a music royalty. She’s too young and naïve. Hold on! These comments are getting personal, in my opinion. How could anyone who has never met her make an assessment based on just her tweets? I guess we all can agree that our on-line behavior is not exactly the same as our day-to-day behavior. Don’t we all have different personas? Aren’t we all seeing things from a distance?
I agree but my point is no one is going to stop and think before they say anything. How many people stop and think they haven't met "Willow Smith" for example? When you put yourself on the spotlight, you'll get public opinion - right or wrong, warranted or not.
Now, some are saying Paris is still a child based on a couple of tweets she sent out, while people who actually met her and talked to her said things like she’s mature beyond her age. See what I’m getting here? I don’t know whether she’s childish or mature. I have no way to know unless I spend some time with her. I have to accept the fact that I don’t know her enough.
and there's nothing wrong with her being a kid. It's what I would have expected. the issue was putting a child on the spotlight. Just as twinklee said this is not the first time and she believes that if you are disagreeing with her you are against her. And I don't expect her to act like a 20 year old. It just shows me that she's not ready to be on the spotlight that's all.
You said the fan’s first tweets (which I didn’t read) to her were questions and constructive criticism. What constructive criticism may I ask? Criticize what? That she decided to get involve in the film? Again, how much do we know about the film? What gave the fan basis to offer her constructive criticism? None of us even knows how good or how bad an actress she is. Did the fan criticize her for agreeing to be in the film? If so, doesn’t it sound more like crushing a teenager’s first try of fulfilling a dream than offering constructive criticism? You said the fan asked questions. What kind of questions? In what tone?
Initial questions were in a nice format such as " I love you a lot but are you sure that you are ready?" and such.
and overall I agree with you. for example as a 35 year old and even though I had opinions about the film I don't see it appropriate to tweet a 13 year old kid anything. Regardless of how nice I could be I wouldn't say her anything negative about this just to not crush her dreams.
All I'm saying is - once you put yourself on the spotlight you can't wait the public to threat you with kid gloves because 1)they don't know you personally 2)you are a kid 3)your dad is MJ and so on. I think this should be something everyone has to be prepared.
and let me tell you a personal experience:
I told that I worked with a music group multiple times before. I was 22 when I started working with them and I was doing a job that put me in a position to be the middle man between the fans and the rest of the staff of the band. I would sometimes tell the band with the common concerns coming from the fans and they would brush it and seem to not really care about it saying stuff like "you can't make everyone happy" and it made me crazy. But I was naive.
soon after working with them and due to interactions with the fans I started to receive "hate" and "criticism" . A concert will be cancelled - nothing to do with me - yet I'll receive the attacks, if I was busy and cannot return an email / phone call - people will write all of these negative things about me and so on. And believe me it's really hard to deal with it. I would be hurt, it would affect my sleep, my life, I would spend hours trying to explain myself and respond to people that they don't know me and they are wrong about me.
Then one day I realized that I shouldn't care and develop an mechanism. Today even though I might discuss with people online , their thoughts about me has no influence on my real life. I was able to separate people that know and do not know me, my personal life and online persona and not allow one to affect another. Today even a person intentionally curse me to hurt me, I'm not moved at all. This was something told to me from the band members and I didn't listen to them. They knew it all along, that "we don't care" attitude was their defense mechanism.
In short I believe that people should be prepared and have an rhino skin as Michael called it and know to not to care, if they are going to put themselves on public spotlight. Otherwise it would be a hurtful journey - at least until you wise up. and I just don't wish it for Paris.
If so, why? She is just a kid no crinkles yet! lol In the video for Access hollywood u see a diffrence to the pics. She looks like herself even in skin tone compare to the pics. Not trying to start nothin just making an observation. I can't stand when people mess with others people pics to much.
