oh shoot,...I misunderstood. I thought you meant berate, but you probably meant betray...and that is way more difficult to answer. It would depend on many things. If it is something very mild then I would rather live, and I think they would rather that too...but if it is something really awful, as in when Jesus was betrayed and it ended in his death..I would rather die I think. Would be impossible to live with myself if I was the cause of someone else dying. (good question..tough)
Would you rather Never have a baby, or have a baby every year for 11 years?