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If you could have seen Michael before he was buried would you or could you, what would you have said to him?
 
This might be unrelated but California screwed us by not letting MJ fans rally outside so everybody pay their respects and get close to Michael one last time.........instead they made it into an exclusive club that only "ticket-holders" could get in.......everybody else had to watch in on news channels that were presented by obvious MJ haters......


But to answer your question, I would of liked to say both "Thank You for giving us so much happiness" and "Sorry for all the suffering you endured by us humans"!!!!!!!!!!
 
Security wouldn't let fans get close to Michael's coffin before he was laid down at his resting spot to say goodbye to him? Now that is unfair! If just for one chance, I would see him before he was buried, I would say "Michael, you wil always be the true King of Pop. Just remember I love you. I'll miss you forever."
 
Modulation Alert said:
"You're my James Brown. Ever since I was a little girl...and when I saw you for the first time, I was mesmerized and knew then and there. I love you and I shall miss you. I always understood and will always understand. No worries. Be free, know that you are loved. See you later. And thank you for everything. "
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Oh my God. :cry:
 
Rest yourself peacefully. Thank you for the miracles you brought into my life. I will keep your everlasting love in my heart and I will spend my days waiting to see you again.
 
Hello,

Yes, I would like to see Michael prior to burial, actually see the burial and after the burial.

I would say something during those three phases of the burial and it would be from the heart and spontaneous. The theme would be base on his life (prior), accomplishments (during), and utilization of the resources provided by Michael; which I will incorporate in my life. It would not be formal and under the theme name above.

I believe for myself the words written prior to the event sounds like a speech and well-rehearse almost sounds fake and not from the heart. I would never repeat the speech that I would rehearse repeatedly. I would change it naturally and make it genuine from the heart. I had the three courses in Speech and received an A but they were formal, public speaking, manipulating, political correct, etc.

For Michael, my words would be raw, honest, emotional, loving and from the heart. The words will be unique and no one would be able to repeat exactly what I am going to say. I will be the rare wild flower in a field of wild flowers that extends a radius ten miles.
 
Krshna28 said:
This might be unrelated but California screwed us by not letting MJ fans rally outside so everybody pay their respects and get close to Michael one last time.........instead they made it into an exclusive club that only "ticket-holders" could get in.......everybody else had to watch in on news channels that were presented by obvious MJ haters......


But to answer your question, I would of liked to say both "Thank You for giving us so much happiness" and "Sorry for all the suffering you endured by us humans"!!!!!!!!!!
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Totally agree with that.:cry:
 
I would have....I would have told him:

'Thank you for everything you gave me. I Love you more.You are free now, please visit me in my dreams'.
 
No. Wouldn't have been able to bring myself to do it. I remember a few years ago going into the funeral directors when my grandfather died and the man asking me if I wanted to see my grandfather before they sealed the coffin. I declined as I just couldn't do it. I don't want my last memory of someone to be lying in a coffin. I wouldn't have been able to see Michael lying there. That is not how I would have wanted my last picture of him to be. I want my memories to be of him full of life singing and dancing, full of life. I remember before the memorial and there were those rumours the casket would be open during it. I said to my friends that if the casket was open I was walking out. To me the memories of Michael are him full of life, happy as he mesmerises the audience on the stage. If I ever want to talk to him I just look to the sky and say something. He's everywhere.
 
Krshna28 said:
This might be unrelated but California screwed us by not letting MJ fans rally outside so everybody pay their respects and get close to Michael one last time.........instead they made it into an exclusive club that only "ticket-holders" could get in.......everybody else had to watch in on news channels that were presented by obvious MJ haters......


But to answer your question, I would of liked to say both "Thank You for giving us so much happiness" and "Sorry for all the suffering you endured by us humans"!!!!!!!!!!
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yes they did i agree,i spent a few 1000 pounds flying to l.a to get some closure,and i like many other dedicated fans was kept outside the staples,while all the hypocrites who made michaels life hell were let inside,ofcourse i,m not talking abot real fans,i am talking about the media,and celebs that didn,t give a **** about michael when he was here,
i would have like to have seen michael yes,to me i think it would have helped give me the closure i needed,
but thinking about it now,i don,t think it is something michael would have wanted,i would have said,i love you with all my heart,
 
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sloride said:
If I ever want to talk to him I just look to the sky and say something. He's everywhere.
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copy that...Though its easy to forget to look where you're going ...I expect to fall flat doing that any day now (LOL)
 
Well I would have A LOT to say to him.
I'd probably write him a letter, the read it to him while he peacefully laid there. Then after he was laid to rest, I would have left it at Forest Lawn with the other flowers and gifts that are there for him.
 
Modulation Alert said:
"You're my James Brown. Ever since I was a little girl...and when I saw you for the first time, I was mesmerized and knew then and there. I love you and I shall miss you. I always understood and will always understand. No worries. Be free, know that you are loved. See you later. And thank you for everything. "
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Amen to that. Your words just made me cry.
Couldn't have said it better.
 
sloride said:
No. Wouldn't have been able to bring myself to do it. I remember a few years ago going into the funeral directors when my grandfather died and the man asking me if I wanted to see my grandfather before they sealed the coffin. I declined as I just couldn't do it. I don't want my last memory of someone to be lying in a coffin. I wouldn't have been able to see Michael lying there. That is not how I would have wanted my last picture of him to be. I want my memories to be of him full of life singing and dancing, full of life. I remember before the memorial and there were those rumours the casket would be open during it. I said to my friends that if the casket was open I was walking out. To me the memories of Michael are him full of life, happy as he mesmerises the audience on the stage. If I ever want to talk to him I just look to the sky and say something. He's everywhere.
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I totally agree with you :hug:
 
Smnth said:
I totally agree with you :hug:
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I think for everyone and every situation it is different. Not sure what I would choose.
When I was 16 I lost one of my best friends and I choose not to see her (she died of bone cancer and already in the days before she died, she looked nothing like herself). Same reason as said before. I wanted to remember her like she was, full of life and joy. But years back when my grandmother passed away it was totally different. We had been at her bedside when she passed (one of the hardest moments in my life) and I just wanted to see her. Together with my mother (her only daughter and granddaughter) we sealed the coffin. It was tough, but it also gave us a feeling of peace.
 
Sassie said:
I think for everyone and every situation it is different. Not sure what I would choose.
When I was 16 I lost one of my best friends and I choose not to see her (she died of bone cancer and already in the days before she died, she looked nothing like herself). Same reason as said before. I wanted to remember her like she was, full of life and joy. But years back when my grandmother passed away it was totally different. We had been at her bedside when she passed (one of the hardest moments in my life) and I just wanted to see her. Together with my mother (her only daughter and granddaughter) we sealed the coffin. It was tough, but it also gave us a feeling of peace.
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Yeah, you're right. It is different for everyone, and depends on situations. But Sloride described my feelings about this.
I was with my grandma when she died, so I saw her then and that felt 'good', but later before the coffin closed I chose not to look, for the remembering-reason.
And in Michaels case I would not want to see him, cause I never saw him for real when he was alive, and the first time I'm supposed to see him, would sure not be when he's dead. (My English grammar isn't correct here, but I think you know what I mean.)
 
Smnth said:
Yeah, you're right. It is different for everyone, and depends on situations. But Sloride described my feelings about this.
I was with my grandma when she died, so I saw her then and that felt 'good', but later before the coffin closed I chose not to look, for the remembering-reason.
And in Michaels case I would not want to see him, cause I never saw him for real when he was alive, and the first time I'm supposed to see him, would sure not be when he's dead. (My English grammar isn't correct here, but I think you know what I mean.)
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I know exactely what you mean and I agree. Wouldn't either. I just never say goodbye to him because he lives on in my heart and in all your hearts.
 
I honestly don't think I'd have been able to handle it :cry:

Modulation Alert said:
"You're my James Brown. Ever since I was a little girl...and when I saw you for the first time, I was mesmerized and knew then and there. I love you and I shall miss you. I always understood and will always understand. No worries. Be free, know that you are loved. See you later. And thank you for everything. "
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But if I could've, it would've been something just like this, if I could get a word out between the tears :cry:

Krshna28 said:
This might be unrelated but California screwed us by not letting MJ fans rally outside so everybody pay their respects and get close to Michael one last time.........instead they made it into an exclusive club that only "ticket-holders" could get in.......everybody else had to watch in on news channels that were presented by obvious MJ haters......
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man.in.the.mirror said:
yes they did i agree,i spent a few 1000 pounds flying to l.a to get some closure,and i like many other dedicated fans was kept outside the staples,while all the hypocrites who made michaels life hell were let inside,ofcourse i,m not talking abot real fans,i am talking about the media,and celebs that didn,t give a **** about michael when he was here,
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I have to say in reply to both of you that I totally get what you're saying. It digs up all those "what's right/what's wrong" arguments everyone was having last summer, though, and all that still hurts so bad. But for the public memorial, I absolutely envisioned through my devastation something downright royal. I wanted hundreds of thousands lining the streets to pay their respects to the King, the most wonderful and beautiful and amazing and loving and giving and... oh God :cry: the one I love with every bit of my soul forever. I actually expected it. It's hard to say one is disappointed by a memorial service, though, and I think they did a nice job given the time and shock. On Dutch TV last month LaToya said she believed that Michael would've wanted something grand and she made me cry so much when she said that, omg :boohoo: She said they'd all been discussing something royal/presidential, the golden carriage, everything... well, you can listen here at 5:27 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8JXFCyhQ8A&feature=related :cry: Sorry to keep going on OT, but I agree with her :(
 
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Modulation Alert said:
"You're my James Brown. Ever since I was a little girl...and when I saw you for the first time, I was mesmerized and knew then and there. I love you and I shall miss you. I always understood and will always understand. No worries. Be free, know that you are loved. See you later. And thank you for everything. "
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Oh God ! :cry::cry::cry:
 
I probably would have wanted to see him one last time and say goodbye. Simply to get closure. Not sure I would have wanted to see him in the coffin and especially knowing he had gone through two autopsies, but for the sake of closure I think I would have wanted to get one last chance to say goodbye. And to just see him one last time.

I refused to go see my dad before his funeral when he died a few years ago. I was holding his hand at the hospital when he died and saw him dying, so I saw him dead, and got closure. But I didn't want to see him anymore in the coffin after the autopsy. I just didn't. :cry:

I don't think I would have been able to say anything to MJ, even if I would have gotten the chance to see him one last time. I think I would have fallen apart the second I would have seen him because I would have been too sad. :boohoo: :boohoo: :boohoo: To see MJ there... and then to know you have to leave and won't EVER see him again...and to know he will be buried.....I think it would have been too much. Someone probably would have needed to carry me away because I most likely would have just completely fallen apart...I think it would have been too hard for me to take, emotionally. I mean, the vigil at the O2 on July 13th was hard enough. I just kept crying all evening. So to see MJ in a coffin...I would have completely fallen apart, I'm sure.

I totally fell apart at the hospital after my dad died, when they came to take him away. I realized I'll NEVER see my dad again, and I just fell on the floor and cried my eyes out and kept saying "I'll never see him again!!!! I'll never see dad again!!!! I'LL NEVER GET TO SEE DAD AGAIN!!!!!!!" and just cried and cried on the floor. :boohoo: :boohoo: :boohoo: And at my dad's funeral, when it was my turn to go up to his coffin to lay flowers and to read what I had to say, I completely fell apart again. And the coffin wasn't even open. I was able to say two words and then just fell apart and cried so badly I couldn't finish. Actually that was the second time during the funeral. I completely fell apart before the funeral already, before I even got in. I was about to go in, and then saw my dad's coffin and I immediately turned around on my heels and run away and cried my eyes out and shook like a leaf. I just couldn't go in for the longest time. When ever I saw the coffin....it was just too much. I just had to turn around and go away, until I finally had to FORCE myself to go in, because the funeral was starting. I just avoided the coffin...didn't look at it at all...and that way was somehow able to go in. But like I said...once I had to go read my last message to dad and lay my flowers I just fell apart and had to return to my seat. It was just too much. So since MJ meant so much to me and I cared about him so much, I know I would not have been able to say one word if I would have gone to see MJ in his coffin, or would have gotten close to his coffin. I know I would have just completely fallen apart. I already immediately burst into tears when I even THINK about going to Forest Lawn and seeing the crypt. :boohoo: :boohoo: :boohoo: :boohoo: :boohoo: I mean, I want to go there....but I know I will end up crying my eyes out once I'll go there someday. :cry:

Aaaaanyways. Yes, I would have wanted to see MJ one last time to say goodbye, even though I would have most likely fallen apart by his coffin. And I would have WANTED to say something....but I know I would not have been able to say a word because I would have been crying too much. But I know, in my mind, I would have thanked him for everything he gave us...for bringing so much joy and happiness in our world...and I would have told him that I love him and always will and I would have promised that I will never ever EVER forget him. :cry: I would have told him I'll love him FOR ALL TIME!!!!! :cry:



EDIT: I just read comments about the memorial and funeral, etc. Even though I would have wanted to see MJ one last time and would have wanted to at least stand by his coffin for a while to say goodbye, I am on the other hand glad that they didn't have an open coffin and the coffin wasn't sent on some kind of "tour". MJ was always harrassed throughout his whole life and people were so mean and harsh to him and he always got critisized no matter what he did. So to me, it was enough that the coffin was brought to Staples for the memorial. It hurt SO BAD to see it there....I can't even put down in words how hard it is to see the coffin. But that way we all could "be close to MJ in spirit" (some even closer inside the Staples center) one last time. I think that was more than enough for us fans. Everyone always just wanted to grab MJ and get a piece of him...I'm glad he was granted some peace and dignity and was not put on "public display" after he died. And I actually am glad that the public doesn't have access to his crypt, so that MJ has some privacy. It's good that w can bring messages and can see through the door...but I'm glad no one can go grab him anymore and Michael will be allowed to rest in peace. Actually I would have even preferred a COMPLETELY private place where only family and close friends could have gone see him in peace. A place unknown to the public. But then something in a public place sort of like Forest Lawn, where Fans and others can go pay their respects and bring flowers, etc. for MJ. Of course that way I myself would not get to go visit him either, but it matters more to me to know MJ can finally rest in peace, rather than to know I can go...but so can everyone else. Even the haters and those who just want to continue to disrespect him. :( Some "monument" in his honor would have been great where fans could have brought flowers...and to show the public MJ isn't forgotten....but I would have wanted his body somewhere where only his close family and close friends know where it is and can visit. But that's just my opinion.
 
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I agree. He deserved to have LA flooded with people.
But just remember this ( I hold on to it too). Billions of people have watched the memorial. It's he best watched on tv ever. He's the only person that got the internet to almost crash.

He knows we care. He wasn't just in LA, he's a star in the sky now. He sees everyone around the world. And therefore should see he's the most loved person ever.
 
Modulation Alert said:
"You're my James Brown. Ever since I was a little girl...and when I saw you for the first time, I was mesmerized and knew then and there. I love you and I shall miss you. I always understood and will always understand. No worries. Be free, know that you are loved. See you later. And thank you for everything. "
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I wouldn't have been able to , I don't think I'd be able to now either.
One of the many reasons I admire his daughters courage the girl went to see her father with only few members at the tender age of 11. The boys didn't go but she went that's just wow! Grown middle aged siblings couldn't go but the girl went. I couldn't bare seeing him like this that is why I'm so soo so glad that there was no open casket :cry:
 
I think i would have go watch michael,s body in the coffin if i had the oppurtunity.
And would have whispered in his ear..


goodnight my sweet angel, it,s you i adore.
Visit me in my dreams, i love you more.
 
twinklEE said:
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I wouldn't have been able to , I don't think I'd be able to now either.
One of the many reasons I admire his daughters courage the girl went to see her father with only few members at the tender age of 11. The boys didn't go but she went that's just wow! Grown middle aged siblings couldn't go but the girl went. I couldn't bare seeing him like this that is why I'm so soo so glad that there was no open casket :cry:
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Paris is such a brave girl. I could never have done what she done, seeing her father in his coffin to put the necklace on him and making that speech in front of all those people, and I'm 11 years older than her. Michael raised such amazing kids.
 
:cry: I would have wanted to see him. Seeing the body helps to give me closure. Don't know how much it would have lessened the pain, though. But I don't think there's anything I would have said to him that I haven't said since then.

About the memorial...I envisioned it so differently as well. I didn't get tickets so was going to just go and be in front of Staples Center, until they announced that the entire area was going to be closed off and warned against anyone trying to come near without a ticket. I just wish they had planned it so that there was some place for everyone to gather. :(
 
I know for usre i wouldnt have been able to bare seeing Michael laying in a coffin. Ive been to funerals before and i have seen the bodies laying in caskets and yeah it was hard but it would have been a different story with Michael. Im beyong relieved that the service was not open casket bc i would have lost it eveb more then i did when i saw the casket being carried in to the staples center on tv. If i was stronger and did see him in laying there i would have just poured my heart out to him saying how much i love him, how much i miss him, what he means to me, and how much it hurts knowing he's gone and i would be just in tears. Michael was so speacial to me so seeing him in a casket would have been extremly difficult.
 
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