Seems to me Paris' social media activities cause more harm than good. I don't know if it's necessarily a case of overexposure, but it seems to be causing her turmoil. As others have already suggested, perhaps she could take a break from it all. But then, I also think that she is indeed just another teenager who loves to spend her time in this way. Not only that, but plenty of adults and even senior citizens have social media accounts. The need for communication and social interaction is most natural and quite human.
Maybe she can find some middle ground where she can still interact online with people without exposing herself to unnecessary grief – turn off comments on Instagram (as I understand that is a possibility), post less frequently........Perhaps those who follow her so intensely could also do with updates from her weekly and monthly life, not necessarily her daily activities and thoughts?
I can only hope she will do what is best for her, first and foremost. I couldn't possibly dare imagine what is the route for her, either in the short or long term. That is something only Paris herself can decide and find out in time. All I can do is hope and pray that whatever roads she will choose they will take her to genuine and lasting happiness, without many or serious detours. What I also hope is that she'll always have caring people around whom she can truly trust and depend on. I'm sure she's got that in her two brothers, but I hope there is an even wider net of genuine support for her, both within the family and among her close friends. Public interaction is helpful, but close, deep and meaningful relationships can only develop in real life and at home, wherever and whatever that means for anyone.
barbee0715 said:
And I find people who follow and bully her bizarre. I may show concern and compassion for her here, but that's it.
I couldn't agree with this more. Bullying unfortunately is a most widespread phenomenon, especially online. When one is a famous teenager, it is even worse. I honestly don't understand the people who need to follow the kids and their every move. Although it's true that I have occasionally participated in threads here about them, especially on their birthdays, I don't feel comfortable at all "monitoring" their social media accounts. The fact that they are public obviously shows a level of openness on their part, but I still feel uncomfortable about it. It pains me to say this, but I do think some of Michael's fans have taken a most unhealthy approach and projected onto Michael's children ideas which don't allow them to enjoy their own lives and cherish their individuality. Not only that, but they manage to put most unnecessary pressure on young adults who are merely trying to find their way in the world.
The ones who are downright evil in their wording aren't even worth the attention. They are most unfortunate examples of the lowest levels of humanity, the ones inhabited by viciousness and utter lack of sympathy. I have no doubt that some of those who claim to be Michael's fans and use such language haven't got Michael's best interest at heart. Anyone who genuinely cares about Michael would know much better than to insult and hurt his children. One can show concern without chastising.
PDP, I appreciate much of the essence of what you said, but with all due respect, there were a couple of things you mentioned that I don't necessarily agree with – the proverbial reference to the "kitchen being too hot" and also the idea that showing vulnerability in public only invites further abuse. I actually believe it takes a lot of bravery to recognize one's limits, reach out to people and show discomfort. If certain individuals interpret that as weakness and see in it the opportunity to hurt people further, it only shows their pettiness and absolute cruelty.
Not only that, but I think "kitchens" can also be cooled down in several ways. One can always open a window, a door, let some fresh air in, you know? Walking away completely may provide the bullies with a false sense of power and victory. Surely there can be methods through which sensitive and caring people (like Paris obviously is) can feel free to share their thoughts with the world without being driven to despair by the hate of internet "superheroes" who are nothing more than real life cowards and super villains. If, when and for however long Paris decides to reduce or shut down her social media activity she should do that on her own terms and timing, not because some little minds and hateful spirits pushed her to it.
Personally, I am not a fan of the traditional social media platforms because I think they provide a very shallow type of discourse, both in form and essence. But I also realize that many people, including Paris, like them as communication tools. I believe they should be able to use them in peace. I'm pretty sure my tendency to ramble, quite obvious in this instance
goes a long way in explaining my Twitter incompatibility. And after such an extremely long intervention some may very accuse me of hypocrisy when talking about other fans' and their occasionally excessive interest in Michael's children, but it's a little something I've felt like writing now. Paris (and her brothers) will always have my best wishes and thoughts irrespective of what they do or don't do, on and offline.
