Releasing
"We often can't change the circumstances of our lives, but we can always change our attitude to these circumstances. Learn the attitude of letting go is a huge step in this direction. It is not a panacea, but a surprising number of problems dissolve into thin air, if we are able to let go. "
We have many problems, because we can't let go. We hold on to something and think that something should be changed accordingly or we depend upon us: a man, a situation, a circumstance. If it does not happen then, we find it hard to deal with it and begin to suffer. The tighter we hold on to something, the more we suffer. Letting go is the ability to understand that we can't determine something. We may ultimately be determined only through our own lives, and even this is not always possible. If we spill on the life of another human being, if we have expectations - they are also so subtle and hidden, if we want to determine how to run something and building upon certain circumstances which we havn't also clear then our suffering usually begins. We suffer the most from our attitude, not to the circumstances and conditions of our lives.
Many problems arise at all only because we hold it. In interpersonal this is patently often: One holds the other and if they defend the Detained, begins the suffering of one who holds fast. "But you have yet to see .... But you must try to understand .... But you have yet to see .... But you have to admit ...." The other person must not do it all . And we also don't need the other person to see, understand or admit. Everything that we give each other is a gift. How free we could be here another and each other!
The solution of a problem can only be done if you develop a different attitude than the one by which the problem has arisen.
Our attitudes are very strongly implicated in the origin of our problems. Thus a man may have the attitude that the world owes him something and he had a right to expect. With the attitude of many disappointments are inevitable. It is not then sufficient to work only in solving the problems. Man needs a new attitude. The old attitude may be: "Everything depends on me." This creates a problem. The man then tried it with the attitude: "Everything depends on me to resolve," and it is not possible, but is usually worse. Only when he takes the attitude of "Nothing must be addressed toward me," he will be able to solve the problem. Yes, perhaps he will no longer have the problem when he takes up the new attitude. The old attitude may be: "And I just really want something and it is given to me," This creates the problem. With this attitude, he has focused increasingly on that what he wants, to force itcondescended, and the problem is bigger. Only when he is ready to move into an attitude in which he can say: "I will not get much in life as much as I would like it to me also," it gets better. Perhaps he will succeed then to focus on what he has to. So if you are altering his attitude was not, will find at the next corner again a problem which has arisen from this position.
Do as you would not have
We have something and then we hold it tightly. At some point we have it no more and start to suffer. There is nothing in the world that we have forever. Neither the happiness with our partner, nor enough money to fulfill all of our wishes to be neither permanent tangible presence of God, nor the deep satisfaction with himself, neither health nor youth. We may have something for a while, but then our life changes. This change is very painful - we are switching from one state to which we have already got used entirely - in another state that we do not like and which we reject. But this second condition will inevitably occur at some point. Therefore, it seems appropriate to think along with him already " while we live in the first state. While there is something, think with that one, it will eventually have no more. That does not mean "to be negative". But one should proceed from the ups and downs of the world. The more you learn this attitude, one is more grateful for everything, what you have. And gratitude is a huge problem-solver!
Sometimes the matter of course is our worst enemy. What we have had for a while, we take for granted. "Because it is now so is it always be this way", we mean. We say it is not, but we believe it. And then comes the change. It is a sign of maturity when you know that everything, absolutely everything, eventually changed. It's good to have this change already in your head to avoid being cut by it from the shoes. The only certainty we have is that everything changes.
Do not let go behind-the-Can hides a secret claim.
It is the old attitude that we have rights. We also have rights. I have expressed that some years ago in the book "Fundamental Rights", in which I have described 42 basic rights. We have the right to divide our time, we have the right to choose our friends, we have the right to grieve to grow, to rebel, and much more, but these rights must not encroach on the life of another person. So we don't have the "right to love, how many people think." At the moment we think that we expect from another human love - we force someone to love us and you can not, because love is only a gift that can not be demanded. We call something. Because we want to experience how life turns to us. But in this request, there is always a little pampering. We want to have something to prove. But life just want something different from us at the moment.
We wish to encourage, but life has prepared a challenge for us. Already we are suffering again. We must learn that we need to give ourselves what we expect from the people and circumstances around us.
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I am worried for what will happen. It's like I am facing this big, black wall that I can't get past and the only way to get around it is to end it all. 
