I completely understand.
I never said it was not okay to feel anger. I am angry too and I do what Murray to pay for his actions. I just believe that it is not healthy for ones anger and hate to consume you. Namely, become so bitter that it controls your life and changes you as a person. I have seen it happen and it only allows the person you hate to have complete power over you.
I will not give Murray or anyone else that kind of power. I won't hand them victory by allowing them to change me. What I personally did is reach a point that I am at peace with whatever happens. If Murray goes to jail, fine. If he doesn't go to jail, but forever loses his licenses, that is fine with me too. I am not going to let Murray's fate dictate my life because at the end of the day, Murray is the one who has to live with himself and his burden will not becomes mines.
This is not for everyone and each of us must find our own path to recovery. I just want people to be aware of what could happen if ones emotions is allow to control you. Nothing more, nothing less.
No I didn't mean only you.
Although I quoted you Ramona, I didn't mean only you. Sorry if I made it look that way. And no I didn't mean you said that anger is bad... but what you explained made me thinking those thoughts, which I just typed down.
I wanted more to just add something important and I don't wanna see ppl being attacked for their negative feelings anger and/or hate... those are natural emotions... just as natural as love and joy. For those who do believe given by a creator... for those who do not given by evolution or nature... those are natural and important... and however you look at it, it makes a lot of sense those are there.
I don't believe having negative feelings towards someone gives that person power over you necessarily. That's only on the next page. In a positive way it will keep you away from that person what's maybe a good choice for your own happiness? possible also. It's a question of what you chose to be the consequence of your feelings. However... those feelings are there and often do define a person to a certain degree... and no negative feelings do not define a person automatically a negative person. I for example hate Hitler with a passion for what he did... soooooooo... (nope not comparing Murray to Hitler!!!! just an example of very negative feelings defining the person who is me to a certain degree, noone should judge me on only that a good or bad person honestly but I particularly want and make myself known this way, know what I mean?)
Airing those feelings here on a Michael Jackson fan board must not mean automatically everyone is blind following only those feelings or everyone is eaten up by only those feelings.
Ppl need to understand themselves, their own feelings and how to deal with those as much as they do need others to understand and accept without being automatically judged. Ppl... well we all do need this feedback. We need to be who we are and allowed to be who we are and still voice how we feel especially here in the community without being automatically poped into one box or another.
I'd like to ask actually everybody to just try a bit more on some understanding and let ppl be. Try not to judge. Michael said we shouldn't judge without having talked 1on1 ever anyways!
You know... it's so hurtfull to tell someone who just in this very moment feels hurt and angry to tell them like :"you're not positive! you're a bad person."... or only give this feeling... It's like telling a depressive person who is in dispair: You're blind. The world is wonderful.
Just accept everybody there's countless perspectives, there's countless experiences in all of us meeting here.
Negative feelings and emotions belong to a person as much as positive feelings and emotions. It makes sense... we got them for a reason.
These are tough and emotional times full of tension for us MJJfans.
I feel lots of love for everybody here though their maybe uproaring and overwhelming emotions sometimes seeming the opposite of my own.
If someone hates Murray... then it is this way... those feelings are there for a reason probably. And ppl will know why they feel this way.
I surely do not have any love or positive feelings for him also.
Yes hate can be toxic for ones heart BUT as I said that's on the next page... when you let it be the only or main focus when there's no love anymore somehow or all put aside.
Ppl in here all seem to still have their love very much in the focus also... their love for Michael Jackson as long as that's most important and I think it is the case with just everyone here, ppl are save... and Murray will not have any power in their life even though their maybe existing hate for him.
