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Support Forum to phase out

But if a person is depressive, and in our case this would be for just under 5 months now, then it will take a very big effort for a person to take that initial step to go and get help. In a lot of cases with really bad depression people aren't thinking straight and so will not know where to turn apart from the part of a much bigger forum where they know experienced advice will come from. Yes trained professionals are they for that purpose but they do appear robotic sometimes whereas with fellow fans we understand and the person seeking help sometimes needs that reassurance.

Please don't get me wrong I think a huge shake up of this section is needed but some form of support board is still needed and removing it too quickly could do more harm than good.
 
Well thrillerchild I admitt you could be right.

There's always a risk I suppose?

The ppl getting space for spinning their very serious problem spirals here maybe pushing others over the edge with themselves... cuz there is no way to provide that kind of 'support' here those ppl would need.

And fans not finding the support they need on a general fan board... although I do think it will be there because it simply was always.

There is a risk on each way at times I guess but then it's time to decide where to go... and this decision is made.
 
CatherineNZ said:
i dont know what's allowed and what's not anymore. i'd better not express anything at all. forgive me. goodbye
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I hope you will come back Catherine... I'm thinking you're a wonderful emotional person... I would like so much to read your responses in other threads also. I'd hate losing you through this.
 
CatherineNZ said:
i dont know what's allowed and what's not anymore. i'd better not express anything at all. forgive me. goodbye
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Oh hun, i hope you're ok :(

please know that NO ONE is going anywhere. You aren't losing your family, we are all still here. And we can all talk about our feelings still. I'm sure they will allow you to start a thread in general discussion or something if you want some advice on a few things.

Honey, we're all here. And use my PM inbox if you need :)

Please don't think you will be alone once this part of the forum goes. You won't be xo
 
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For how long will the support forum still be preserved for us?
 
It's out of control.

I came here for support sometimes in like the first 3 months but now when I'm down I listen to music that I can relate to, cry and phone a friend. I come to the support forum now to offer help for others but it's just making people more depressed.
 
Sad to see the support forum go :( I didn't post much bit I did lurk a lot and read the threads particularly on days when I felt down about everything. Seeing other people getting help and support from fellow MJJCers restored a little of my faith in humanity and made me feel slightly better about the situation. I understand where this is coming from... there's no expiration date on grieving but for the sake of the forum maybe it will be a good thing in the long run that it's being phased out.

With that said I hope people don't turn to outpouring their sadness in other parts of the forum where it could get to the level of the kinda havoc we had on here in the weeks after june 25th. Maybe the idea of one single thread for people to go to for support would be a good alternative if things do get out of hand...

But in the mean time I posted my details in the contact thread for anyone who wants to get in touch, I hope this idea can work 'cause I'd hate to see this place fall apart again
http://www.mjjcommunity.com/forum/showthread.php?t=67535

Some need to remember that there is no 'normal' way to grieve. Especially for someone who many here never even met. Mourning is a difficult process and everyone handles it differently, especially when some have other issues to add into the mix like work, school or family problems. But I'm confident that if everyone chips in and helps people out then we can pull through this together :cheers: L.O.V.E.
 
Adore said:
I didn't post much bit I did lurk a lot and read the threads particularly on days when I felt down about everything. Seeing other people getting help and support from fellow MJJCers restored a little of my faith in humanity and made me feel slightly better about the situation.
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Same here. I don't feel depressive enough to warrant professional help, but I still have periods of time where the reality of the situation gets me down, and coming here helped. I trust the administrators know what they're doing, but it's still sad to see it go.
 
Mechi said:
Well thrillerchild I admitt you could be right.

There's always a risk I suppose?

The ppl getting space for spinning their very serious problem spirals here maybe pushing others over the edge with themselves... cuz there is no way to provide that kind of 'support' here those ppl would need.

And fans not finding the support they need on a general fan board... although I do think it will be there because it simply was always.

There is a risk on each way at times I guess but then it's time to decide where to go... and this decision is made.
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Mechi, point taken. It's possible that the extreme threads in here are harming some people, as well as helping those posting and seeking support. It's a question of balance, now, and protecting those who are very upset by the more severe threads. We are not abandoning anyone, but now it will be necessary to speak more privately with those who volunteered to do that. There is a long list of people who will offer that more private support.

Please save the list of people who will talk to those who are very upset, by IM, PM, or email? These can be shoulders to cry on, but just more privately. OK?
 
Victoria83 said:
Mechi, point taken. It's possible that the extreme threads in here are harming some people, as well as helping those posting and seeking support. It's a question of balance, now, and protecting those who are very upset by the more severe threads. We are not abandoning anyone, but now it will be necessary to speak more privately with those who volunteered to do that. There is a long list of people who will offer that more private support.

Please save the list of people who will talk to those who are very upset, by IM, PM, or email? These can be shoulders to cry on, but just more privately. OK?
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I have to admit that they are harming me. It's driving me mad. I still visit here while it's here though but OMG...

I'm willing to help anyone who needs it privately on PM but I honestly can't wait for this support forum to shut.
 
DanceOfZenab1994 said:
I have to admit that they are harming me. It's driving me mad. I still visit here while it's here though but OMG...
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I'm so sorry those threads have been upsetting to you! We've had many others express this as well, which led to the decision to close the forum. It's a question of balance, and we truly want to do more good than harm.

Ultimately, decisions about health are individual. I hope that everyone who feels they are stuck in extreme grief will make some sort of positive change. I do suggest counseling, and additionally, do more that is social where you live; take walks outside (that really does help), and if there are situations that are bound to cause extreme grieving, try to avoid those to break the pattern? I repeat, we are NOT abandoning anyone, but just doing conversations that are more private. I suggest for anyone who needs it that you find a chat-buddy, or a few, and know that you will receive continued support that way.
 
I fully support this decision. I took some time out last night to refelct on my own emotions and grief. The last few nights the support forum has been my life, I could not sleep from worry and reading some posts just made me the reality of what I have lost become even clearer.

Depression and suicidal traits can be catching, you only have to look at the case of the welsh town Bridgend (my home town as it stands!!) to see that. You will see that in alot of the threads where people quite obviously need professional help, that many people wil post the same feelings in that thread. Not in a 'jump on the badwagon' kind of way, but it stirs up emotions in people that they may have other wise been able to cope with.

I dont think for a second that the closing of the support forum has anything to with 'its been five months get over it' - the owners and administrators of this forum have a duty of care to the users, and this decision will have been made for the right reasons. With that in mind, and being aware of the effects these kind of threads and forums can have... can you imagine what would happen to Gaz and the other members of MJJC if the family of someone who 'didnt make it' decided that a loved one did not recieve professional help because of something someone said on this forum?
 
There will be a member-generated Facebook page for Support, but NOT MJJC affiliated. Trish's idea, and I think it's great. This should be set up immediately, but YOU guys have to do it, ok?

love to all,

Vic
 
Victoria83 said:
There will be a member-generated Facebook page for Support, but NOT MJJC affiliated. Trish's idea, and I think it's great. This should be set up immediately, but YOU guys have to do it, ok?

love to all,

Vic
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I just posted a new thread so hopefully we can get this set up soon! We will make sure to keep it not MJJC affiliated
 
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