spoonie
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So…as some of you know fellow MJJC member (and former mod lol) Motsey and I are in a relationship. As some of you also know…he proposed to me on June 24th this year and we’re getting married next year! Because we technically met because of MJJC (and the big boss that is Gaz was actually present during the day hehe) I decided to share our story here ☺
So back to the beginning I guess……Some of you may remember the old MJJC chatroom which became a “home” for a few of us, especially when things were so difficult. Shortly after Michael passed I found this place to be one of great support, sometimes chatting to other fans until the early hours, which helped me deal with my grief and feel less alone. Around this time there was also plans being made for UK (and some from further away) MJJC members and other fans to meet on Michael’s 51st birthday. Obviously out of all the people going, two of those were Motsey and I ☺
I still remember everyone who was going getting excited about meeting face to face to celebrate Michael’s birthday, and feeling glad we could all support each other, as it was still a raw and emotional time for all of us. It was a mixture of emotions and we were glad to not be alone. Me and Motsey were becoming friends at this point, but didn’t think anything of it as we were becoming friends with everyone. Whilst our beginnings were online, our relationship wasn’t – we never planned to meet up to date, just to be “MJ friends” lol.
A few of us had arranged to meet up in Trafalgar Square first, before going to the MJJC clubhouse and then onto the o2. Amongst those was….Motsey and I haha. So that’s where we first met (and also where he proposed, but I’ll get to that lol). I remember him seeming very tall when he hugged me (greeting) and he had a rash on his cheeks (don’t ask lol) and he says he remembers me looking about 12 years old (I was actually 25 lol) and that I was sunburned (which is true - I was lol). He then offered to drive a group of us to the clubhouse to wait for the arrival of “King Gaz”
All I can remember about that journey was when he started the engine the volume of the music coming on suddenly made us all scream, and he nearly drove straight into a boulard (eek!)
After a brief visit to the clubhouse - which involved Motsey spilling a drink all over someones laptop - we decided to go to the o2. Gaz had offered to drive some of us, but I was actually still quite scared of Gaz at that point, so I kind of jumped back into Motsey’s car lmao. Somehow Motsey was the less scary option, even though he was a mod lol. It was a nice evening at the o2, more and more people that we knew online began turning up and we all felt like we’d been friends for life. We all helped to make a candle tribute for Michael, which brought a mixture of emotions, including us all laughing at how Michael kept blowing his birthday candles out before we’d finished lighting them. I remember Motsey telling me at a couple of points during the day that he thought I was pretty, but I insisted I wasn’t.
In the following months we all became closer as friends, and I saw more and more of Motsey at meet ups, like the big MJJC TII meet up - which Motsey actually organised! Some very frightening personal drama emerged after TII as Motsey was driving some of us home, which I was afraid would drive all of my new found friends away, but it didn’t. From then on Motsey was often checking up on me to make sure I was ok, but I was scared to tell him a lot about it but I appreciated his support. A few of us were becoming a closer group of friends outside of MJJC and MJ events and would meet up for other things. Apparently around Christmas 2009 our closer friends began noticing a “spark” between us and were quietly confident that it was only a matter of time before we were an item. We were also oblivious to certain friends’ attempts at getting us together apparently lol although Motsey admits he was getting a crush on me at this point (which makes him go shy to recall now lol). I remember it was around this time that we had become closer friends and I felt more confident in confiding in him, which was always met with a lot of reassurance and support.
In January we were both going to the MJJC fans day event. Because of the fact I had been hugely emotional at TII, which I felt embarrassed about, and because I knew a few details about some of my personal problems had emerged amongst the wider community, I was nervous about going to the point I felt ill. Motsey had texted me to confirm plans to meet beforehand (he was giving some of us a lift again) and to make sure I was ok, and I admitted I wasn’t looking forward to going. He immediately offered to drop everything and drive down to mine (we lived about an hour away from each other) for some moral support. He came around and we ended up talking until the early hours of the morning (time just seemed to fly) and I decided fans day would be alright.
In February….I can’t even explain what happened. We just became an item. We were scared to tell people as we both had people causing drama for us – which was made worse when we were suspected to be a couple. We decided to shut out the world and enjoy our relationship – a hard decision as we were still grieving for Michael and couldn’t share this with others as we had before, but we didn’t want to deal with the drama. In March he gave me the best birthday present ever – a trip to Paris with him ☺
As the months went on we knew we had to tell people, including our families. I didn’t get along with my family and hadn’t lived with them for many years, and he knew his family would have some concerns (we’re of different races and religions – this is not an issue for us but too many people have had something to say about it, including complete strangers). Luckily my family were delighted with Motsey and he has actually helped mend things there, which means more than I can put into words. His mother was initially concerned, but his father was very accepting of us, and since our engagement I have noticed things have gotten even better. Our friends were happy and supportive of us, which always makes me regret not telling them sooner. This (as predicted) caused some drama but we handled it together, leaned on our friends as we should have done months before, and allowed it to bring us closer together, not tear us apart.
Fast forward to June 24th of this year. We were going to be staying in London from Friday the 24th until Sunday the 26th so we could easily attend the o2 event that marked 2 years since Michael had left this world. Apparently Motsey had bought my engagement ring a long time ago but was waiting until we would be in a “certain place” before proposing, as he wanted it to be special. He didn’t want it to be on a sad day like the 25th but didn’t know when we’d next be in London and wanted to start sorting the wedding out soon. We dropped our bags at our hotel near the o2 and he insisted we had to go into Central London right away! I had to stop and get some thick socks as my new shoes I was wearing were too big and hurting my feet. So yeah…I got engaged wearing some epic socks (!) I had to wear them all over the weekend too, including over my tights – luckily a lot of people on the 25th thought they were part of my “outfit” as they were white and rolled down guess I got away with it! Motsey was acting thoroughly weird on the tube – really nervous and jittery. When we were approaching Trafalgar square I thought “Aww, he’s getting sentimental” especially when he started saying how we met there. He then got weirder. He said he was trying to work out EXACTLY where we first met, like the exact spot; walking back and forth saying “which lion was it?” until he was satisfied we were in the right place. He was talking really fast and high pitched and giddily about Trafalgar square being where we met, that we met on Michael’s birthday and how it was a special place. Then he said something about it being an even more special place now…and produced a ring and asked me to be his wife!!!! I think I said something like “Are you sure” lol but of course I accepted. He was on one knee getting wet (it was raining and he was in a HUGE puddle lmao) and some random people who we had never seen before in our lives started taking pictures of us My ring is very untraditional – it is a very unique shape, and not the traditional diamond, but instead some beautiful Swarovski diamonds which Motsey chose as these were the diamonds in the TII Billie Jean jacket. He tells me he was nervous that I wouldn’t like it…but I LOVE it! Who cares about everyone elses traditions when you can create your own MJ traditions? It’s about what’s special and meaningful to US hehe
When I sit down and think about all of it (in detail) I get incredibly giddy. I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. I am getting married to someone who means the absolute world to me, and it’s a bonus that he loves Michael as much as I do, and that we met through that love for him. We are now busy planning our weddings – we are having 2 ceremonies in respect of both of our heritages (I am white british and he is Asian Pakistani, so both an eastern and a separate western wedding a few days apart for us) – my friend tells me I am very lucky as not many people get to have 2 weddings to the man they love without a divorce in the middle haha. I feel honoured as I was Motsey’s first and only relationship. This means a great deal to me that I wish I could return. Whilst he wasn’t my first relationship I believe he will be my last.
So I guess I wanted to say thankyou to MJJC. Without this place we may never have met. Although we both attended previous MJ events before we met, we never had the chance to get to know each other like we did. Whatever happens within the fan community, we will always be grateful for this place for bringing us together, just as we are thankful to Michael for speaking up and telling the world our type of relationship is acceptable, that there is only one race that matters – the human race and we are not going to spend our lives being colours.
Thankyou Michael, and thankyou MJJC….you’ll never know how much this means to us x x
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P.S Yes I do have extremely tiny hands, it's not an illusion haha.
So back to the beginning I guess……Some of you may remember the old MJJC chatroom which became a “home” for a few of us, especially when things were so difficult. Shortly after Michael passed I found this place to be one of great support, sometimes chatting to other fans until the early hours, which helped me deal with my grief and feel less alone. Around this time there was also plans being made for UK (and some from further away) MJJC members and other fans to meet on Michael’s 51st birthday. Obviously out of all the people going, two of those were Motsey and I ☺
I still remember everyone who was going getting excited about meeting face to face to celebrate Michael’s birthday, and feeling glad we could all support each other, as it was still a raw and emotional time for all of us. It was a mixture of emotions and we were glad to not be alone. Me and Motsey were becoming friends at this point, but didn’t think anything of it as we were becoming friends with everyone. Whilst our beginnings were online, our relationship wasn’t – we never planned to meet up to date, just to be “MJ friends” lol.
A few of us had arranged to meet up in Trafalgar Square first, before going to the MJJC clubhouse and then onto the o2. Amongst those was….Motsey and I haha. So that’s where we first met (and also where he proposed, but I’ll get to that lol). I remember him seeming very tall when he hugged me (greeting) and he had a rash on his cheeks (don’t ask lol) and he says he remembers me looking about 12 years old (I was actually 25 lol) and that I was sunburned (which is true - I was lol). He then offered to drive a group of us to the clubhouse to wait for the arrival of “King Gaz”
All I can remember about that journey was when he started the engine the volume of the music coming on suddenly made us all scream, and he nearly drove straight into a boulard (eek!)After a brief visit to the clubhouse - which involved Motsey spilling a drink all over someones laptop - we decided to go to the o2. Gaz had offered to drive some of us, but I was actually still quite scared of Gaz at that point, so I kind of jumped back into Motsey’s car lmao. Somehow Motsey was the less scary option, even though he was a mod lol. It was a nice evening at the o2, more and more people that we knew online began turning up and we all felt like we’d been friends for life. We all helped to make a candle tribute for Michael, which brought a mixture of emotions, including us all laughing at how Michael kept blowing his birthday candles out before we’d finished lighting them. I remember Motsey telling me at a couple of points during the day that he thought I was pretty, but I insisted I wasn’t.
In the following months we all became closer as friends, and I saw more and more of Motsey at meet ups, like the big MJJC TII meet up - which Motsey actually organised! Some very frightening personal drama emerged after TII as Motsey was driving some of us home, which I was afraid would drive all of my new found friends away, but it didn’t. From then on Motsey was often checking up on me to make sure I was ok, but I was scared to tell him a lot about it but I appreciated his support. A few of us were becoming a closer group of friends outside of MJJC and MJ events and would meet up for other things. Apparently around Christmas 2009 our closer friends began noticing a “spark” between us and were quietly confident that it was only a matter of time before we were an item. We were also oblivious to certain friends’ attempts at getting us together apparently lol although Motsey admits he was getting a crush on me at this point (which makes him go shy to recall now lol). I remember it was around this time that we had become closer friends and I felt more confident in confiding in him, which was always met with a lot of reassurance and support.
In January we were both going to the MJJC fans day event. Because of the fact I had been hugely emotional at TII, which I felt embarrassed about, and because I knew a few details about some of my personal problems had emerged amongst the wider community, I was nervous about going to the point I felt ill. Motsey had texted me to confirm plans to meet beforehand (he was giving some of us a lift again) and to make sure I was ok, and I admitted I wasn’t looking forward to going. He immediately offered to drop everything and drive down to mine (we lived about an hour away from each other) for some moral support. He came around and we ended up talking until the early hours of the morning (time just seemed to fly) and I decided fans day would be alright.
In February….I can’t even explain what happened. We just became an item. We were scared to tell people as we both had people causing drama for us – which was made worse when we were suspected to be a couple. We decided to shut out the world and enjoy our relationship – a hard decision as we were still grieving for Michael and couldn’t share this with others as we had before, but we didn’t want to deal with the drama. In March he gave me the best birthday present ever – a trip to Paris with him ☺
As the months went on we knew we had to tell people, including our families. I didn’t get along with my family and hadn’t lived with them for many years, and he knew his family would have some concerns (we’re of different races and religions – this is not an issue for us but too many people have had something to say about it, including complete strangers). Luckily my family were delighted with Motsey and he has actually helped mend things there, which means more than I can put into words. His mother was initially concerned, but his father was very accepting of us, and since our engagement I have noticed things have gotten even better. Our friends were happy and supportive of us, which always makes me regret not telling them sooner. This (as predicted) caused some drama but we handled it together, leaned on our friends as we should have done months before, and allowed it to bring us closer together, not tear us apart.
Fast forward to June 24th of this year. We were going to be staying in London from Friday the 24th until Sunday the 26th so we could easily attend the o2 event that marked 2 years since Michael had left this world. Apparently Motsey had bought my engagement ring a long time ago but was waiting until we would be in a “certain place” before proposing, as he wanted it to be special. He didn’t want it to be on a sad day like the 25th but didn’t know when we’d next be in London and wanted to start sorting the wedding out soon. We dropped our bags at our hotel near the o2 and he insisted we had to go into Central London right away! I had to stop and get some thick socks as my new shoes I was wearing were too big and hurting my feet. So yeah…I got engaged wearing some epic socks (!) I had to wear them all over the weekend too, including over my tights – luckily a lot of people on the 25th thought they were part of my “outfit” as they were white and rolled down
guess I got away with it! Motsey was acting thoroughly weird on the tube – really nervous and jittery. When we were approaching Trafalgar square I thought “Aww, he’s getting sentimental” especially when he started saying how we met there. He then got weirder. He said he was trying to work out EXACTLY where we first met, like the exact spot; walking back and forth saying “which lion was it?” until he was satisfied we were in the right place. He was talking really fast and high pitched and giddily about Trafalgar square being where we met, that we met on Michael’s birthday and how it was a special place. Then he said something about it being an even more special place now…and produced a ring and asked me to be his wife!!!! I think I said something like “Are you sure” lol but of course I accepted. He was on one knee getting wet (it was raining and he was in a HUGE puddle lmao) and some random people who we had never seen before in our lives started taking pictures of us My ring is very untraditional – it is a very unique shape, and not the traditional diamond, but instead some beautiful Swarovski diamonds which Motsey chose as these were the diamonds in the TII Billie Jean jacket. He tells me he was nervous that I wouldn’t like it…but I LOVE it! Who cares about everyone elses traditions when you can create your own MJ traditions? It’s about what’s special and meaningful to US hehe When I sit down and think about all of it (in detail) I get incredibly giddy. I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. I am getting married to someone who means the absolute world to me, and it’s a bonus that he loves Michael as much as I do, and that we met through that love for him. We are now busy planning our weddings – we are having 2 ceremonies in respect of both of our heritages (I am white british and he is Asian Pakistani, so both an eastern and a separate western wedding a few days apart for us) – my friend tells me I am very lucky as not many people get to have 2 weddings to the man they love without a divorce in the middle haha. I feel honoured as I was Motsey’s first and only relationship. This means a great deal to me that I wish I could return. Whilst he wasn’t my first relationship I believe he will be my last.
So I guess I wanted to say thankyou to MJJC. Without this place we may never have met. Although we both attended previous MJ events before we met, we never had the chance to get to know each other like we did. Whatever happens within the fan community, we will always be grateful for this place for bringing us together, just as we are thankful to Michael for speaking up and telling the world our type of relationship is acceptable, that there is only one race that matters – the human race and we are not going to spend our lives being colours.
Thankyou Michael, and thankyou MJJC….you’ll never know how much this means to us x x
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P.S Yes I do have extremely tiny hands, it's not an illusion haha.
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